When I was a virgin and struggling with the decision to try an escort, I asked peoples’ opinions about it. Some told me to go for it, some said I would regret it, and some said sex is too insignificant to even worry about. I could not answer this last group because they had experience and I didn’t. Although I’ve only had sex once, I’d like to answer the claim that sex is unimportant.
Sure it’s not important, in the same way that stargazing, sunsets, or hikes through the forest aren’t. It’s perfectly possible to live a happy life without these things, or to take them for granted. Yet, I think one must be barren inside and insensible to beauty, to sum up any of these experiences in words like trivial, unimportant or overrated. All are gifts of nature that make life worth living. If someone must pay for a guide to take them to these things, they should do so, for there are far worse things to waste money on. It’s sad to me that for sex, paid guides are reviled rather than celebrated, and that seekers are discouraged, shamed and scorned.The thing is between my guide and me or you, or him or her.
Sex is unimportant much the same way art is unimportant. Can I exist without music, poetry, dance, visual beauty, creative thought, and laughter? Yes. Would I want to? No.
The desire to have really amazing sex is one of the most powerful motivators in my life, to be honest. If I couldn't partake in it I wouldn't have a very enjoyable existence at all. And I (obviously) think it is ludricrous the way our society shuns and persecutes those of us that want to pay (or receive payment) for that service. It's perfectly acceptable in our society for me to go get a therapeutic massage where a lovely lady rubs her oiled hands all over my body but if I want to really leave stress free and pay extra for a happy ending - that's the straw that breaks the camel's back (legally and socially speaking)? What a judgemental, restrictive, and puritanical society we live in... And don't even get me started on how anyone could say a good blowjob is "unimportant". Blasphemy. LOL.It's your life, your needs, your decision.
As a Scorpio, sex is VERY important to me. Like air and food, but better.
Would you suggest moving from hh dates to 45 min dates? Can you suggest someone? Thanks!
It's just as important as food or water. The bible thumpers talk about chasing pleasures/chasing the wind. My response is: OK, don't eat, because you will just get hungry again. Don't drink, you will just get thirsty again. Don't sleep, you will just get tired again. Don't shower, you will just get sweaty again. Now apply this to our sex drive, and realize how ridiculous the concept of abstinence is.
Unless you have some sort of pathology and you commit suicide from not having regular sex, you don't die from not having sex.
Sex is a want, not a need...in so far as pleasure is concernedwhen you're starting here. It's ducking futs how you don't see the horrible flaws in that plan.
I have experienced sex so good that it left me in a state of disbelief for days as to what had happened and how good it was. I have been fortunate to experience my fair share of these mind bending sex-capades. It has made sex more important to me than it probably should be, but I'm lovin' it!
When a guy is a virgin bouncing off the walls with lust, that desire can skew the mind to imagine that the pleasure from sex must be on a whole different scale than all other pleasures in life (i.e., with sex as a 10, everything else in life must be a 3 or lower by comparison). But once you have it, you may realize that while sex is indeed great, and even pehaps THE greatest physical pleasure in life, by itself it is just that, a great PHYSICAL pleasure. And all such pleasures are better, the experiences more memorable, when shared with someone else - someone who at that moment is on the same wavelength and is truly EXPERIENCING and reveling in the pleasure in the same (or very similar) way to you. Kinda like watching your favorite team win the Superbowl - it's a hell of a lot more fun at a party with like-minded fans than it would be watching with folks who'd just as soon be watching American Idol re-runs (well, unless they are all hot naked women, but I digress...).
That is what at least some are getting at when they de-emphasize sex when talking to a virgin. I think it's more about elevating the importance of other things in order to have a rich full life.I'm pretty sure, "paid guides" are not reviled here. This is actually one of the places where they are appreciated, or at least the good ones are. Sex is pretty important as well in order to propagate the species. Just my two cents, but definitely don't hang around people who say that sex is unimportant because they either don't have it, don't have it correctly, or are just fucked up and will only bring you down.
Secondly, try having sex without a "paid guide" and then compare and make a more reasoned and well informed opinion. In order to accommodate this you are going to have to stop using words like "paid guide" and talking about hiking in the forest, sunsets and stargazing because contrary to popular myth, those things may make a relationship last after sex, they generally don't get girls into bed in the first place. This is most likely evidenced by the fact..... well, the fact of your entire post. Lastly, the fact that I'm even writing this most likely means that I no longer have the ability to talk a girl into sex and will most likely find myself languishing alone somewhere in the forest waiting for the stars to become visible after the sunset and then I'll have to locate a "paid guide" myself. Damn! I knew I should have just kept my fucking thoughts to myself!!The individual may survive without sex, but the species would not. It's not really a mental thing, it's just simple biology. I mean a male black widow spider literally dies for the spider version of "pussy", we really are only slightly more evolved than spiders I suppose. lol
I probably would not use such terms in the course of speech. I just meant to convey that, contrary to the various depictions of sex I was bombarded with, I found it was a natural and relaxing thing, much like being outdoors. Maybe my positive impression was due largely to the provider I was with. Yes, sex in a relationship remains a goal, and I'll be sure not to try and coax women into bed with bad metaphors and such.
It did occur to me, but I thought it wouldn't interest people, that my comparisons were flawed or naive in an important respect: namely, that stars and sunsets generally don't drive people to obsession, jealousy, or a need to posses.
talk about your pleasure centers of the brain. Why don't we all just eat boiled chicken, broccoli and brown rice
They convey your impressions well.
They don't need to be perfect - analogies rarely are.
And I agree, I found sex to be different than I expected my first time - more about softness and touch, than frenetic action like a porno (well, usually anyway - but I've had some wild porn-like experiences too).
I was not talking about propagation of the species. And especially here where it is ALL about pleasure and not about babies.
And have no issue with it. Although my chicken is grilled.