How many folks are able to get aroused by a provider but not by your current spouse/SO even though you love her?  Were you once able to get aroused by her but now not?  Has she gained too much weight?  Other issue(s)?

I have plenty of issues.  But the first one is that I can't sustain an erection with my wife, but I usually can with the providers.  They are just sexier, and do things my wife won't do but which I need to get excited.   We also have a lot of resentment towards each other, and I am sure that this interferes with lovemaking as well.

My SO is ten years younger then me and very attractive.  However, she is quite conservative sexually and its basically mish, no bj and one O.  I love her, think she's beautiful but she just doesn't have the "skills" that some do.

My SO, who I have been with since we were in our teens, 35 years, has gained so much weight and has so many health issues, no longer appeals sexually but I guess we are stuck with each other.  No sex for 10 years. When I am with a provider I amaze even myself with my sexual zeal and stamina, and regularly receive massive compliments (more than solicitious) on my oral skills. Feel like a man again.

Which, thankfully leaves more room for....you!!

You almost got me into an "insult contest," but then I counted to 10, considered the source and decided you just aren't worth it.  By the way, how the hell do you service your clients and surf the web at the same time...I never see you away from the boards long enough to even do a decent BJ let alone give someone a full hour???

I take it from your post and name that you can at least get an erection with your wife and I assume hold with a little V for assistance so you at least find her someone sexually appealing/arousing?

10 years younger has to be helpful.

Keep watching and use your calculator again

thanks for paying attention again

And yes, i have a laptop at my bed
and a sidekick in my pocket wherever i go

-- Modified on 8/1/2005 2:11:09 PM

C'mon Slik, don't hold back...you must've only gotten to 9, because you did get a bit of a jab in at sweet Ciara.  Besides a talented girl can take that wireless laptop to the bed.

I told my wife on our wedding day that I would leave her if she gained too much weight.  Thankfully, she doesn't take me seriously, and better yet, didn't return the threat.

.....are there any women that fit your exacting specifications?

DISAGREE.  Ciara has too much class for silkless.

I guess I am still attracted to her, but I have been married for more than 40 years, so her being there is just part of the life engrained in me.   She cannot compete with the 20 and 30 somethings that I see in this hobby.

The fact is that while I can get an erection with the Viagra, I can't always hold it.   When I lose the erection with a provider, she does the work to bring it back.  Not so with the wife. Perhaps the other issues also filter in

That first message really sums up why many of us are here. Many SOs just don't get it.