I've decided to deflect some of the constant attention politics has been getting by planting an array of thought-provoking hobby-related questions...
I've been reflecting on the post a couple of weeks ago about MILFs (Moms I'd Like to, um, Fool around with...) and it got me thinking.
I've said before that every time I leave a meeting and can't find my damn car, either because I'm emotionally overwhelmed or my world got physically rocked, it always ends up being an older provider, seems like there's a "Mendoza line" around 27 or 29 that changes things.
On further review, I realized that almost all of those providers were also moms. I'm curious what other's experiences are.
It could be just statistics 101... That the majority of providers in that age range are moms so it's just "normal distribution." It could be that the economics of being a single mom actually predispose someone in that age range to be a provider, hence a "weighted distribution."
But I wonder (aloud) could it be either: (a) There's something about being a mom that changes/matures/reveals/refines her sexuality besides just being older and wiser? Or (b) something within them that has changed that makes them more attractive/sexy to me?
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Just enjoy your time with them. But I do agree, they do seem to be more sensual.
As I mentioned before, I have worked in two companies where I realized that the entire FLOOR (except me) were all women, over 35, single, and never married. And, quite noticeably, there's a difference in these women vs. women who've been married and have had children.
In the meantime, I remember the first date I had with a client I've now seen a few times, and he said he normally sees the younger, single ladies but felt something was missing. When the date was nearing its end, he said he knew what it was and that for some reason, a mature provider filled it, and wondered if either age or the fact that they've been married had something to do with it. I smiled and said, "Of course it does. We know how to be wives..."
Don't forget that a woman hits her sexual peak at that age level. For once in her life she really IS enjoying it as much as you are.
I am not a woman, so I can not claim to fully understand the feminine psyche, but I have observed women over the years and many times in close intimacy. Based on my observations I believe that there is no love greater in depth or breadth than that of a mother. Just as men can never have complete appreciation of motherhood, nuliparous women also have not fully experienced this type of love. No matter how ugly the baby is to the rest of us, in the mother's eyes their baby is beautiful, and this "mewling, puking" package is usually profoundly loved. Mothers then understand that the wellspring of love and affection arises from a deeper place than outward appearances. Mother's who have learned to kiss away the pain of boo-boos, and soothe a child's hurt heart, are better equipped to give solace and comfort to those of us who come to her at a later stage in our lives. They know better then the young that a sagging breast, a droopy buttocks, a pot belly, or a balding head do not preclude passion or deep satisfaction in shared affection. Although the frenzy of passion is diminished with time, the profundity and sensitivity seem to increase, and there is a greater appreciation of the precious gift of sexuality.
Can't argue with that.
I remember a while back there was a thread about seeing lactating providers, and the feedback was evenly mixed. About half the hobbyists were really turned on by it, and for the other half it was eeeeeewww!
That, along with the MILF thing got me to thinking that we (hobbyists) must be responsible for some of it... That is, mixing some aspects of maternal nurturing with sexuality is deeply, deeply moving. For some, that depth adds subconsciously to the attraction, while for others it is uncomfortable. I think "Real men" aren't supposed to acknowledge maternal nurturing as sexy for fear that it implies we have some "thing" for our mothers.
For me, being a mom is a holistic "whole woman" sort of thing, it's a part of who she is and thus inseperable from my attraction to her.