Ok, I haven't been able to get ahold of my ATF for over two weeks now, her phone is shut off, and she doesn't respond to text messages or emails. She had told me that she wanted to leave the business and shut off her phone and stuff, but she promised to give me her new number so we could keep in touch. I'm starting to feel that she's left me high and dry, which bothers me because we got along so well. Not only that, I was trying to set up a very lengthy visit with her. The last thing she told me was she wanted to do it, but needed to check her schedule. This has really got me worried, not only that I've done something wrong, but that maybe something has happened to her. Or, maybe she just said go f myself.
Ladies, if you were to leave the business, but you had several clients you were friendly with, would you email or call and say goodbye, or just disappear into the night never to be seen or heard from again?
Unfortunatly,
It is all a part of the illusion..
You treated her well, she wasnt going to tell you anything negative while her rank was still "escort"
It all depends on the degree of her retirement
When some girls retire- they mean it. They are done.. They've gotten what they need from the industry and dont want to turn back..
She could just be taking care of life in general, and she just may get back to you.
Basically, in her own way, She did tell you she was retiring.
-- Modified on 5/9/2005 7:44:22 AM
...And then one day she retired. I have not heard from her in a year. We had great conversations about many things, shared some dinners at my place, and in general I thought were more than just provider-client.
I do not know if it was just that she wanted to seperate herself from her former life or what, but I do miss emailing her back and forth.
I could find out how to contact her if I wanted to invest the time, but I have given her her "space" and privacy. Sometimes you just have to let go!
Agree. IF and when they want to, they will reconnect. One lady took almost three years.
Be patient. There is little if anything else you can do.
This has happened to me more than once, and yes, it hurts. I always thought there was a friendship there, and then they just disappear.
In most cases they eventually have contacted me, and usually I feel somewhat guilty when they do. Too many weren’t really financially or emotionally prepared to retire. They lost their apartment, their car. Several went through some degree of emotional breakdown. They quit because their family found out. Etc. Things far more important than updating me on where she was.
Will she call you? I have no idea. I hope she does. Silence is indeed the worst thing.
Well, I still haven't heard anything from her, and another escort I talked with said she's gone back with an agency she was previously with. It would've been nice if she had said goodbye. It's funny, she asked if we could be friends apart from the business and now she disappears on me.
Normally, this wouldn't bother me, but it seems every single woman I get even remotely close to does this to me. They leave me high and dry and wondering what I did wrong, wondering if they're alright or if something happened to them. All you ever hear about is how men treat women like garbage and cheat and lie and manipulate them, but women are just as bad. A little over 4 years ago, I met the woman I thought I'd marry. We saw each other for 8 months. Everything was great, and then she went back to her abusive ex-boyfriend. She completely disappeared. I haven't seen or heard from her since September 26th, 2001 and I have no idea where she is. I think about it everyday, and it's like no matter what I do, women always do this to me. Women are the source of virtually all the pain in my life. I'm not abusive, I'm a kind, caring person with so much love to give, and no one to give it to. Please don't think this is all just about an escort leaving me high and dry. It's everything. I give up on women. I guess I'm just going to grow old and die alone.
-- Modified on 5/10/2005 2:44:49 AM
If the lady is still in the business maybe she will get back to you, but in her own time. If she was supposed to retire, told you so, and had cause to change her mind, maybe she's feeling self-conscious or foolish about it. Or maybe she's just confident in your friendship and not thinking about your present needs. Like others have said, give her whatever time she needs to contact you.
All sorts of friendships are like this - people do drift - and it isn't necessarily because they don't value your friendship. Things happen, life gets in the way, and there's always "tomorrow" to make contact.
Sorry to hear that you feel let down by women. Although I appreciate that you are feeling low, try to be more self-resiliant. This is not meant as a criticism, more commonsense advice that I'm sure you already know within yourself. A needy person isn't an attractive one.
Good luck!
Aphra
When she need a Favor or $$$$$$$$$ Most Great Providers have that unique ability to make us feel we are the only one----I have found that only10% or less really give a shit other than the $$$ they are earning!!!
while these words are written in your head... all women will stay far away. change it to no matter what I do, all women love me, and you might have some fun.
Don't worry Inquisitor, you're not the first to fall for a ladie in the business, nor are you the last.
But when a ladie's leaving,and decided to fellow a new line of work, where does she draw the line in the sand?
Remember that you more than likely left her with good memories about your meetings.
Think postive!!
Your former provider is a credit to her craft, by making you feel so important. Chances are likely she has no intention of seeing or contacting you again. My guess is when you found out she was leaving the industry, you asked if you could stay in contact with her. Not wanting to kill a money source, she said she would. It’s nothing against you personally. You & probably her other former clients simply are not that important to her.
That's weird, because all 9 of the providers I've seen have told me that providers never see the same client twice and that I needed to look for someoneelse the next time I felt the "urge". Since all 9 have said the same thing, I assumed it was true.
I wonder if my feelings should be hurt... :S
As a provider friend once pointed out to me, one aspect of being a top-notch provider is giving each client the impression that he is important. It is acting that goes with the profession at the highest level.
I can't say this is true in your case, but it is something to keep in mind. If it is true, you should not be giving up on all women; you just have to recognize the realities of the situation.