I find it amazing how this issue keeps coming up, especially on a site such as this.  What is so hard about guys doing their homework and then writing a short, polite note that tells a little about themselves and when they are looking to meet the woman in question?  Some basic courtesy and discretion go a long way and pay great dividends in a happy provider.  And a happy provider almost always means a happy client.

A few Ladies have shown me sample e-mails they have received (names edited out), and they can be amazing.  They look like things off a bad Saturday Night Live satire on crude drunk college guys.  But then again, maybe that’s exactly who sent them.

I write medium length messages on my first contact with a lady, I give my info right on the spot and what I think of the lady, all is sweet. Bottom line, first impressions are a lasting one. Almost like on a job interview. That is why I get away with not halving to give up my POE on the screening process. I give a few other vitals, but it is the way I initialy make contact with e-mail and phone that I earn the trust of the women.

Between our websites and reviews, the Gents can find more than enough info. A little homework goes a long way!

kisses~Cindy


-- Modified on 2/16/2004 3:05:23 PM

As much as we like to think that guys should understand the dangers of sending explicit emails I think we're assuming waaaay too much.  I have yet to meet a friend or acquaintance who knows that sites like TER or TBD exist. In fact, I have only had one friend who even knew that individual escort sites exist online.  Most of the public believes that there are three types of providers:  street walkers, ranch girls (or illegal ranch girls in some states) and high end call girls. The kicker though is that high end call girls are not for the general public. The assumption is they are found on discreet business cards passed during a game of golf between millionaires. Can you blame people for thinking this?  They've been educated by movies like 'Nuts" and 'LA Confidential."  I don't think most people would expect to find  Babs or Kim through an internet "provider mall" like Eros or Cityvibe etc...

So my guess is that a good portion of the guys and girls who come across provider sites were perhaps looking for porn and were excited to find they could actually hire someone for a romantic evening. And yes some of them were drunk college guys who were thinking that they struck gold.  So I think a provider has to really take a critical look at where her ads are placed and how someone can find her website and what metatags etc she uses. Or this sort of thing will always happen.    I was lucky a year ago. I did a search for escorts and found TBD on the first google page. So I read their faq and the newbie board here waaaay before I ever contacted a provider from the net.  But that escort search did bring up a ton of other options.  If I had clicked somewhere else first I could be pissing Heather off like everyone else!!  My thought process at the time was that my searches in the phone books and at strip clubs were usually dissappointing (ugly,unskilled etc...). I figured that someone must have some info on the web. Maybe I needed to subscribe to Hustler to find a hint page or some secret society of handshakes before I got to the good pussy. I had no idea TER or any other place existed!

So all that was to explain that my guess is you're preaching to the choir here. We're the guys that are the paranoid ones. We worry about "OFC" and every other bust we here about.

-- Modified on 2/16/2004 3:11:36 PM

A lot of people are just amazed at the 'openness of the internet' and are completely unaware, or forgetful, of the fact that there may be others out there looking at us from the LE perspective. During the past many years in CA the only efforts toward enforcement that I've seen have involved streetwalkers and AMPs; everything else has been pretty much laissez faire. If you want to candidly express your interests to a potential provider, it's damned easy to forget that it may not be wise to do so.

What really annoys me is when men email me before they've even viewed my website and ask me explicit questions that could be answered if they would have clicked on the link. Every site I'm on has a link to my website. Please guys -- use it. I get tired of typing out the same thing day after day, "To view my bio, more pictures and donations (or sometimes worded: pertinent information), please visit my website at http://www.azescortciara.com

If you would like to book an appointment, please be so kind to fill out the Client Information Sheet off of my website and email back to me. If there is anything else I can answer, please don't hesitate to contact me. All my sites say: "initial contact by email preferred."

Sorry! Just venting.
Ciara