Did you fill out their appointment info if they ask for it, your name and other things about you?

It is hard to get started with some if you have not seen any Providers before but it sounds like you're calling the wrong ones.

Don't give up but go to those that have incall first of you can and if they have Email do send them Email telling about YOU.

It took me several Emails and phone calls before I could meet up with one and it was well worth it too.

you are right, it is not typical.

Perhaps getting started is just tough, I don't know how others experienced it. The first time for me, I was extremely nervous with LE worries, etc. Then she wasn't at our agreed-upon meeting place, a convenience store across from the hotel. I called her, she said she'd be there in 10 minutes. Forty-five minutes later as I was about to bolt she showed up. We got over that hurdle and things went ok.

I had one real rip-off which was 1 1/2 hours late, never removed her bra and panties and left in 15 minutes. I was really upset about that.

But ever since has been tons of fun!

and asking other members there to PM you the names of good local or travelling agencies that serve your city. Good agencies have ladies that come close to matching many indies and they are less likely to not make an appointment, if they do the agency would notmally have someone else for you to choose. Just don't try an agency without asking for information from other hobbyists first.

First, it's not true of all or even most providers, but some are terrible at giving and following directions.  That describes the first situation you've given.  She thinks she's at the hotel, and she's at the wrong one.  No deception on her part.  To avoid this, meet her at a place she's familiar with, her incall or a common outcall.  And until you know how good her sense of direction is, doublecheck the directions she gives you on mapquest.  Wonderful thing mapquest.  No hobbyist should be without it.  

Second thing, the tension on a first encounter with a newbie is immense, for both sides.  If you've ever had a temp job, just take that stress, multiply it by a few factors of 10.  Multiply it by another factor of 10 with a newbie (who is more likely to be LE or worse.)  Personally, I don't know how providers handle this at all; it takes a courage I don't have.  She may have given you the wrong number.  You may have taken it down wrong.  Who knows with those jitters?

Moreover, Remember also that the wonderful reviews you've read are from clients she was actually successful at meeting.  You'll never know how many initial encounters simply got muddled.  If she knows she's late, or if shit otherwise happens, she may be motivated to bail out on the first meeting completely than risk a bad review, as reviews have become very important.  

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 take Stilltryin's advice. I was nervous my first time, but went with a well known agency, and things went like clockwork for the most part.

 Most agency girls are well reviewed, and you can always PM the TER guys who have seen them for additional info. I did that, an it proved invaluable when the time came.

 Also, seeing a few agency girls first, will give you a much needed source of references. This will make dealing with Indy's easier.

 Hang in there!

...is shave your head. I know, I know, it's sounds silly, totally unrelated, etc. But the fact of the matter is: you're having these problems, I am not, and the only real difference between us is that I'm completely bald and you're not (if you were you would have mentioned it at least twice in a post of that length). That being the case, the source of your woes MUST be your hair...ergo ipso facto voila... Shave it off and all your problems will be solved.

As the gentlemen above mentioned, try using a local or national agency. They are quick and effective at checking you out and for those most part their ladies are very reliable. Independents are also great, but sometimes are so busy handling all aspects of their business they may not want to take the time and risk involved in working with a total newbie. This is a generalizaton, since many new guys have had great first experiences with independents.

The advice to post on your local board is also very good, hopefully you will get good feedback from the guys and the ladies. Don't even take a chance when starting out with getting ripped off, only go with a well reviewed provider. As mentioned good reviews do not equal easy to set up appointments. There are some great ladies in DC that even senior members have given up trying to schedule, since they are difficult to book and may not always show. So do your research, this information is in reviews and local discussion boards, and have fun.

Re:About ready to give up

Thanks gents, all good advice! (My hair is coming off this afternoon.)

what is your price range and location- somebody will give you a good reccomendation

If you deal with independent ladies rather than an agency, you are less likely to have a problem.  That is especially so if you see a lady who does incall at her residence.

getting into this hobby is like building your credit rating. You need to have a couple of good references from providers that have seen you. Also I think how you word your initial e-mail is crucial. Remember if you contact her immediately after a new glowing review is released, you can expect competition. Some providers expect you to follow their rules to the Tee or else they'll ignore your e-mails or phone calls. So it'd be helpful to to go their website to find out exactly what info they need you to provide.

When I first started, I was appalled that how many of my e-mails received no replies; however, with time, the number gets smaller but there are still a good number that got ignored. You have to understand that some providers either don't treat this as a business or aren't good businessweman; many don't return calls and tell you they're too busy and to try another time (only a handful of them do that). Some don't manage their e-mails very well. Sometimes they've forgotten whom they've been talking to coz they've gotten so many e-mails.

Expect lots of unreturned phone calls and e-mails unless you're popular like Lex Luethor to  whom providers send invitations. LOL. Send lots of e-mails and make lots of calls and play the odds. Sometimes it may take em' weeks to get back to you. Sometimes they all call back the same day asking when you want to see them. LOL.

For me, I've found my regulars and tend to see them more often. Once in a while I'll try someone new. The same with some established providers. They prefer to see their regulars and occasionally make some new friends. That may explain why sometimes you don't hear back from them at all or soon enough.

It's harder to go wrong if you go with well-reviewed providers.

Also it's helpful to have a few reviews; you'll look more legit to some providers. I see you have two but they're both for ripoffs, not helpful.

Good luck.

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Hey everyone has a bad day once in awhile. Blow it off and move on. This board can be extremely informative if used correctly.The most important feature here is not that you will find the ideal provider its too avoid being ripped off and having a terrible experience. Always look at performance grades first, that will tell you the most about a provider. Dont count on pictures being accurate. Looks ratings are going to be based on personal taste and their simply is no accounting for that.

Do not try again! Don't do it! You are wasting your time and money. Go on a vacation, read a book, see some art. Take a class on the mating habits of slime mold!

This will be your experience always. You are not suited for this game.

Hang in there - this is not my typical experience and if I can do this what with my green skin and Lex can do this with his baldness - you can too...  

First, find a provider that screens - they are a committed bunch and they will stand by you.  Second let them screen you.   for the most part the info is discarded after they know you are not casting for an episode of L&O.  

Also, it is a good idea if the gal is hot, contact her about 3 days in advance - to give her time to determine your interest.  I must say, I recently contacted a porn star to set up a meeting.  back and forth with emails and phone conversations....   but guess who had the more difficult calendar - not her! ME... due to the never ending problems with you know who...

So, my advice, walk through it slowly the first time. No "on the spur of the moment" calls etc...  in the years of hobbying, I think I have a only a couple of encounters that were unsatisfactory - and those were not even close to what you describe....   so choose wisely...

I think I figured out the problem. Do providers ignore calls from private #s? I've been calling from home initially, but when I arrive to get a room #, I call from my cell, which (I didn't realize) shows up as a private #. Is this likely my problem?