Do you want your regular clients to tell you that they are seeing other providers? In this case they are certainly being honest and up front about who else they are seeing? OR

Do you want your regular clients not to tell you anything about other providers they are seeing because, since you are not their wife or girlfriend, you dont give a rats ass about what they do when they are not seeing you?

then life must be treating you pretty good.

If you don't care then why do you care?

Sorry if I'm stepping on your toes Zaysha (I have a foot fetish, btw, but I digress.)

I used to lie and say that I was only seeing this or that gal when, in fact, I was seeing many others; then I got caught in a lie and embarrassed everyone.

I know it's stupid, but I think there may be something inately within men that makes them embarrassed to admit that they are shutping more than one gal at a time.

I saw my first provider, and

then I wanted to see them ALL!

I've never met you but it sounds like your regulars can really count on YOU as a reference.

that part of their fantasy is to believe that it matters to you?

  If you don't care then forget about it. Obviously telling you they don't see other providers somehow enhances the experience.

  In this instance you seem to wish to exert control. Perhaps you should ask yourself why.
-J

The providers I see know I see other ladies and none have discouraged it. I used to see a lot of ladies but have really slowed my Hobbying down to once a week. That said, the ladies I see know I vary and occasionally they will ask me the names of the other providers I frequent.

I tell them ... this is a fairly small community and most know or are at least aware the other well reviewed hobbyist.

There is one lady specifically that I see regularly and she seems to really like having me tell her in detail (and nasty talk) what I do with the other providers. She really seems to enjoy the description of the session.  

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just asking.

I assume that 98% of men have or are seeing other providers. The other 2% maybe it's a one-time fantasy, or they are a virgin, or worse, in a lot of ways, they are fixated on one provider and maybe see it as as boyfriend/girlfriend relationship

I am just really curious how they are dishonest about it??? do you ask them??

That seems like it would be a really inappropriate question................like asking all your friends if they shop at Nordstrom or Macy's and they have to only pick one!

A lot of guys probably just want to concentrate on the encouter at hand so they don't want you to bring up other ladys. By the way Zayzha I was just just joking with you, have a wonderfull day!!!

And we don't care...

... that you are counting on us as your personal ATM. Get over it. Why ask if you don't care?

....why would you think we are not seeing other ladies?  Um, you are seeing other guys, right?

If you are concentrating on each other, how would this topic even come up?

The only time it comes up for me is when a lady says something like, "If you like petite redheads like me, you should give Suzzy a call.  We trade references all the time. I know you guys will have fun."

I always used to say this to providers.  I'd tell them that I "haven't seen anyone else before," or "I haven't seen many providers before," or "I haven't seen anyone else in the industry in a long time," etc.  I think I used to tell them this because I thought they'd think I was cleaner and less likely to have an STD, or perhaps they were less likely to think I was a perv.  My thinking was that they would feel safer with me that way, and thus more uninhibited.  

I'm currently seeing one provider exclusively (by personal choice), and I've told her so.  I don't know whether she believes me or not, and I really don't think she cares either.

I am referring to ones who just out of the blue send me an email saying how busy they are and apologize for not seeing me lately and then email my close friend (who they have no idea we even know each other)and make an appointment. Why even bother??? This hobby is about variety.

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I had a provider get upset with me for seeing another provider and then decide that she no longer wished to see me.

bSome girls DO care..they get jealous.I dont though..I mean why?  We are not dating...I am seeing other men.

 Plus many times I am tellng the guys who else is good to see. I know one lady,m whom I have never met..Lila..and she is always telling guys to see me.  I have gotten alot of business thanks to her.

 I have heard some crazy stories though..of a lady calling a clients regular provider, and then the regular provider calls the client and reems him, OR will try to steal the appt right out from under the other girls nose!