Ladies, are you somewhat put off if you know a client is married, is it a potential turn-on or are you neutral on the subject?  And did your opinion on this change over time?  Just wondering.

Married men have never put me off, they do turn me on though. It's the naughtiness, we aren't supposed to be together. When I was younger about 18 it was a bigger deal than now at age 25 about to be 26. I've realized married men are deprived of a lot of pleasures in life once they are married. Women shut down once they are married and its not fair to their husbands.  
   So in my eyes some women have broken their vows by not fulfilling their husbands needs, sexual needs.  
Hehe anyway thats my opinion.

providers want the money, not all the drama that comes with trying to be a kept woman i would think. a turn on? no. that would be an ego problem if a provider was naive enough to think that she was somehow better than the wife just because she is willing to spread her legs for money. i don't see too many smart, successful men leaving their wives for providers.  

I wonder what the actual percentage of Johns who are married is but it's got to be substantial.

Married clients are more passionate for sure and truly enjoy there rendezvous. When screening clients I don't put a plus sign next two a married clients name or any of the above. There is a certain level of respect and rapport with married men.

Please let me know...I'm quite curious

What's the line...and the amount?

At least he speaks with some experience...how many years have YOU been married?

For every married john here there is a wife who is not a happy camper at home.  Many guys want to believe that they know the wife is "faithful".  But...just like the paranoid johns here worried about getting caught....I trust there is NO shortage of women playing around on their hubby's.

Posted By: dadadadada

Of course he'll get bored no matter what you throw at him lol (which is only inevitable after being a part of this world now for a few years) but there's always someone new to fill his place. No biggie. And it keeps it exciting for me too.  
   
 Nothing is forever. You know this. But I'm enjoying the ride while it lasts which could be a day or a year. Isn't that what we're all supposed to be doing anyhow? And when the ride is over. It's over. You move on like I did here (yes finally lol). When the ride's brakes are applied, no time to question it or try to figure it out, you just gotta keep on movin lol. Life is too short to live it any other way.  
   
 If you ain't got it, you ain't got 'it', and if you do, you just do  
 

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Not that it's the same as a first hand experience...but if all he has to compare life to was watching his parents fuck things up...so be it!

I'll bet you wouldn't place a bet on that  LOL

You agree with me that hookers DON'T save marriages...then you want me to pay off a bet that I've stated I'm taking the position that hookers DON'T save marriages  LOL

Posted By: dadadadada

but you're too chicken to actually PAY the bet off, so what's the point hahahahahhahaha.  
   
 Chickenshit. Just like most men are too chicken to get a divorce, they'd rather just fuck around and HOPE to not get caught. First time I ever had respect for my ex is when he actually grabbed his balls, picked them up off the floor and walked out. First time he got my respect in years.  
   
 Then I booked a trip to the islands. See, easy breezy.

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How would you know whether they are married before or after the encounter if they don't tell you?

or something else...your call.

You didn't live with anyone...share ups and downs with.

It should make no difference if any of us lady (or gent) hobbyists are hitched. We are paying for a service, and no judgement should be made from either side of that unsealed envelope.

saved is a very subjective term. providers do not save marriages.

Not just saving marriages they also help reduce and prevent many, many possible sex crimes.

because that's what most ignorant and naive single men think is the relationship between prostitution and divorce: one causes the other to happen.

...

Better make that "single unmarried ignoramus idiots who have to chime in with their holier-than-thou attitude/morality".

Hint: Its true I'm single.  Now.
Get the picture? In future, try not to assume. You know what they say.....

who said anything about morality? providers do not save marriages nor do drugs or alcohol cure depression. you fill a void, provide an escape much like a drug and nothing more. sure, you boost egos and make a man feel young and wanted again but that is a fucking illusion because you are being paid to act that way! so you are saying an illusion saves a marriage? funny shit

Personally I believe that providers (like strippers) dislike most everybody that they see, regardless of their marital status. Will they admit it? Of course not. It would be a business killer. FWIW this question has been asked a zillion times already, with responses that are pretty much predictable.

i think you are trying to make yourself feel better about what you do by so much projecting. you do not know one iota of what a man thinks and if he tells you that you are saving his marriage, he is an idiot. prevent sex crimes? are you saying the men you see would be rapists if not for you? so you see dangerous men? geezus christ on a fucking cracker. you are off your rocker. if sex for an hour with a hooker can save a marriage then so can one night at the strip club. that marriage was doomed. if it were only that simple.

9 out of 10 men in this thread are married. she/he is nuts. just another provider trying to justify what she does. no judgment of course. providers offer a service and a damn good one but to think it's anyting more than a service or a release is nuts. for most men it is assisted masturbation. many providers and hobbyists are great friends, but they can just as easily talk to a friend for free too.

Yeah...I did.

I'm glad you believe your nonsense...but it's just not true.

But Satan is

When I transfer those balances in my PayPal account to my bank account that isn't cash?

Financial issues, by far and away the number one cause of divorce.  No particular reason why I am sticking my comment under yours good Dr.,  but it amazes me that people don't realize it (I know you know given your line of work).  Yes, there is infidelity and along with unmet sexual needs but they are a blip on the radar compared to the issues caused by money.

But if you need to sell some nonsense to feel good about yourself, that's fine.

Except for the fact that if you are married, you are probably less likely to become a stalker or behave badly.  Translation: you have more to lose than a single guy if you misbehave.

A provider saved my marriage. A provider who cared enough to go beyond taking my money and offered to help, knowing it could mean losing a regular client. Which it did, for quite awhile. Without her help, I believe I would be divorced today.  

They only dislike you.

I know many in this world want to believe that somehow sex is all that important in marriage...but money has always and likely will always be the primary reason for dissolution.

so you are codependent unable to do things on your own? you saved your marriage by your decisions that changed as a result of seeing a provider maybe, but she did not save your marriage. providers are now God and have that kind of power. wow. a pubby peed on my tire and saved my life too.

The ones who dislike most of their clients. I seek providers who like most of their clients, and like doing what they do. Much more fun, for both of us, that way.

But I doubt your marriage was really at issue to begin with.

That's terrible.  

Ever been to a doctor?  What, you couldn't heal yourself?  Ever attended a school?  What, you couldn't learn that stuff on your own?  Ever had a problem and gotten help from someone to solve it?  And maybe you wouldn't have solved the problem without their help?  

Care to explain?  

a marriage is supposed to be about two people so if you have to have a third party save it including a shrink, damn right something is wrong but to say that sex alone has that power is cray cray. that is what you are. fifty shades of cray.

But you don't know me from Adam. So why make such assumptions about a situation you know almost nothing about?

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You claim a hooker saved your marriage.  I've asked how.  You divert that question back to me so as to not answer the question.

...and there could be many reasons for that.

Or are you just posting to see your own posts.

You like your marriage...love your wife an kids and your life.

you also tried to say you see providers who like their clients which is delusional as fuck being how could you know. because they tell you so? because they act like it by talking to you off the clock? that's to keep getting you to come back. dude you need to get out more and wake up. you are seriously a hooker's dream client because you buy just about anything they tell you. i bet they all say you are sweet, a great lay, a great listener and have great oral skills and they could not have possibly faked the orgasm because it was wet. look up artificial enhancers for women's wetness. goodnight. i feel bad messing with someone who is obviously not playing with a full deck and that is just unfair to you and the rest of the people on the short bus.

I promise that there is quite a bit of truth in my posts to you.

Virtually every state is a "no fault divorce" state and the maximum amount she can get is 50%.  Depending on circumstances she may get less.  So, no, she won't be taking "EVERYTHING."
So, once again, you lecture on a subject about which you know zilch.  Thanks!

"Single unmarried ignoramus morons." Isn't that a tad redundant? Shouldn't a rocket scientist man hater like yourself know that?

How about you?

glass houses, numb nut

Lordy, I had no idea my simple little comment would unleash such a torrent of ones and zeroes.

I'm no Jimmy the Greek, but here's my completely un-researched take on this:

An awful lot of wives cut their husbands off from sex a few years into the marriage.  Most of these husbands are going to start looking somewhere else for sex.  They have more or less two choices:  Escorts, or people from their social/work environment.

If they choose the former, the discretion practiced by escorts and (hopefully) the client will forestall any discovery of the husband's infidelity.  It the choose the latter, then sooner or later someone is going to let the cat out of the bag and the wife will find out leading to divorce.

Now sometimes divorce is the answer all along, but there is something to be said for two people staying together and raising their kids, etc., while finding whatever nooky they need on the side.  Supposedly this is a very common scenario in some European countries, if you believe the movies, anyways.

In any case, I think we can agree that if a guy is going to seek out sex outside his marriage, he's better off with escorts than screwing around with the neighbor's wife or the secretary at work as those can lead not only to divorce by all kinds of problems including getting fired or shot to death.

That's all I wanted to express.

And by the way, escorting was the supposed reason for my divorce*, but I did manage to get away with things for over ten years and I got caught because I got too complacent and took chances that now I would not do, having the benefit of experience from TER.

*My wife decided that she didn't like me, my family, or the area, so she decided to create a new life for herself.  Discovering my escorting just gave her the lever she needed to justify the divorce.

My point is that money is at the center of the failure of most marriages, it is not sex.  As for the guys who state that they stay together because they will lose "everything?"  They are exaggerating.   However, here is an idea as to why many men say that.   It enables them to remain "good guys" in their head as they continue to do this, because they can feel like victims, they are "trapped."   Not only does that enable them to walk their mental tight-rope, they can also use it to ingratiate themselves with providers.    

You're on a fuckboard in your early 30's, what should be the prime of your social, family and professional life. And your logic is it'll save you from being here in 30 years? Alex, I'll take that wager risking everything I have.  

who got a chubby from bumping a girl on a train and then ran to a fuckboard to share the details. Since we're dredging up old posts and all.

That's all I was commenting on...they don't.

Your circular logic is really flawed...seriously.

less likely to cause a big upset like seeing neighbors and/or co-workers.

They too would be considered helping to "save a marriage"?

Plenty of times the house is under water...no retirement accounts to qualify for QDRO...no cash, rather conversely just a mountain of credit card debt...and of course a leased car  LOL

Don't use the lawyer that doesn't know the law.  Screen, screen, screen  LOL

I pointed every one out at the time and if your Early Onset Alzheimer's prevents you from recalling, well, what a shame.

Posted By: dadadadada

but you never tell enlighten any of us as to why Nick...are you and Grant shacking up together by chance. you're both beginning to sound very very much alike  
   
 I'll be waiting for all of your replies that you said I was wrong for you to go ahead and correct them all and tell us why they're wrong. I'll be very patient. I always am.  
   

Posted By: inicky46

The escort saves the marriage by allowing the husband to get sex in a discreet manner.

Seeing the neighbor/co-worker would be indiscreet and would end up threatening the marriage.

If you honestly believe what you are saying...that's great.

it's probably because you're easier to get cash from than a busted ATM

your website to see where you are located.  I like your style.

Are absolutely none if my business.
If I see a ring, I think of saturn.