I realize that this hobby has some inherent risk for both parties.  However, I guess I am having a reality check.  A provider I have seen a couple of times over the past 2 years has consistent 9's and 10's on her TER reviews and she has had reviews on TER for about 4 years.  I enjoy seeing her and am supposed to see her again in a couple of weeks.  I just happened to look over some of her reviews and they are still stellar.  My conundrum is that I checked one of her reviewers and found that he is bi and for the most part sees TS's.  He went into graphic detail with those providers which is fine, but made me think about my upcoming appointment.  A question for providers is do you care about a client's sexual preference?  Would you not see someone if you knew he was bi?  Any screening process I have been a part of never delves into that aspect.  Also, for the hobbyists, do you care that your provider has been with men who have been with other men?  All of this makes me think of the saying that when you are having sex, you are having sex with whomever that person has had sex with.  Knowing that this occurred with my favorite provider--with or without her knowledge--is certainly not a turn on.  Maybe I am just naive and this is no big deal to most.  Let me know what you think.

If so, I don't think you need to worry as long as the provider doesn't perform any high risk activities such as BBFS.

If your concern is how can you be with a woman who was with a man who sees other men, then that is something for your shrink and you to discuss.

In any case, the point of this hobby is to find whatever floats your boat; so if you no longer feel right seeing this provider, then don't; no questions asked.

I don't really understand your issue.  You seem to be assigning your own moral standard to the Provider by a proxy she cannot help.  You cannot sustain an objection to who you are sleeping with by proxy, because you will never know.  You are assuming that if a guy has been with a Tranny, he is somehow tainted, and will therefore taint the provider you share.  That is such unmitigated bullshit.

Trannys aren't my thing, and I can't imagine that they ever will be, but nobody can say that they are any worse than anyone else just because they are a Tranny. Trying to weed out the hobbyists who may have slept with a Tranny by imposing some sort of secondary screening is just ridiculous.  Some of the guys you share with the Provider have been with other women that you would not want to sleep with, why not weed them out too.  Because you can't, and shouldn't.  

You are engaging in what the Love Goddess frequently refers to as the commercial sex industry.  The only equalizer is safe sex practices, and other than that, you cannot control for who you will be sleeping with by proxy.  If you have a hard time with that, you should reconsider seeing providers, but think of this:  How are you going to know that any civilian woman you sleep with has not slept with a man who has been with a Tranny?  How would she know?   And, how would you know if she even practiced safe sex?

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