A few threads down BostonGuy57 writes this:
"If you are not into the session enough to not be bothered by this stuff then you are either with the wrong lady or need to focus! Who cares what was written? Once you are there it's just you and the lady. If all you can think about is what you read about her I'd say there is a serious lack of "heat" and spontaneity between the two of you."
One recognizes the necessity of researching the review history of the providers one is considering, what's on and not on the menu, her reputation for reliability, etc... But, as BostonGuy57 notes, can one get so far into provider minutiae, almost of a Seinfeldesque level, that ones loses sight of the forest for the trees? Can you think too much with the big head in some aspects of the hobby?
Providers as well, does that type of hobbyist present any unusual challenges to you, or require any special treatment, responses, etc... from you?
I've had providers kill a good time by being too obviously fake.
Perhaps, but then I like doing my research. I just finished this afternoon a almost non-stop multi-pop hour of hot sweaty sex with a sweet young thing because I read almost all of her reviews, I knew what she liked, what I might be in for and all that. It paid off handsomely. We both had a great time.
One way to read reviews is to use them to determine whether the provider sees what she does as a job or a profession. The details will work themselves out just fine.
I also do my homework but one time I went to incall and I knew somebody was in another room and I was so nervous that my little guy had a hard time or should I say a soft time.
If one goes with absolute expectations and then doesn't get exactly what was written, then you can be out-psyched....Between false reviews and YMMV, one cannot predict these encounters precisely and one shouldn't. You have to go with the flow sometimes.
Now, seeing someone who is well reviewed and is supposed to be GFE and then comes off with a negative attitude, that is a totally different story.
I think that every session is different. You can read lots of reviews, but I believe that when you get to the appointment, you just have to enjoy whatever happens. As has been said before on this board, you can't really go into a session with a "checklist" of everything you want to get to. You have to go with the flow of the session and just have fun.
I think this is a problem some newbies ( myself included)run into. You can over think it all after reading reviews and such on your first providers. It helps to have a provider that goes through the trouble of relaxing the hobbiest. Of course as said before by others, finding a regular and building familiarity helps.
I agree! great insight! I did a lot of research and had my first GFE last week - I choose wisely thanks to TEr and I WAS NOT DISAPPOINTED! Awesome experience! In looking through everything - the thing that troubled me most - was one review that said awesome and another that said she does laid there! I had trouble with those - might see them in the future - but I stayed with the positive and it paid off! Actually got to write my first reviews! Awesome reliving the experience!
if you want to truly enjoy a session with a provider.
I used to have to see providers by sneaking in sessions during the work day. It was OK, but sometimes I had a lot on my mind and it definately interferred with the enjoyment.
Now-a-days, I am able to see providers Saturday afternoons/evenings and I enjoy it all the more as I can totally relax my mind and just take in all the beauty that is, this hobby.
I recall having a session where the provider was not in the right frame of mind. She was a nursing student and she just came from a bad evaluation and was hopping mad about it. This is a session that never should have been. (She wasn't the greatest provider either, but that's a long story for another time.)
As for there being a couple in the next room, I actually had that experience and kind of enjoyed it. My provider and I could hear them moaning and groaning through the wall, so she said: "Let's see if we can drown them out.", so we also started to hoot and holler as loud as we could, which got them to escalate their war of woops with us.
It was fun and funny as all get out.
I almost never walk into an appointment without a fairly clear picture, based on reviews, of what to expect. What I don't do is keep a punch list of activities. Reviews are a guideline. The review is a guidepost for me in that it tells me that the lady is good at her work and hopefully enjoys the company of men who treat her well. As far as what happens once we are together, it will either be a great time and I will be back, or not so memorable. Either way my advanced research makes a total let-down a very rare occurrence.
As a former military officer, I tend to do a lot of "head work" for almost everything.
I get intelligence, make a plan and try to figure out where things might go wrong, and what I might have to do to salvage things.
When the time comes to put your plan into action, the best thing to do is focus on what you are supposed to be doing, get it done and not spend mental resources worrying about your actions.
In this case, figure out what you want to do, and then Have Fun.