Guys, do you ever go through periods of time (a few days at least) when you're just not feeling hardcore and you just want tenderness instead of bangin' away? I mean, are there times when you just want slow sensuality and genuine affection instead of pretending you're the male stud star of a porno movie? I've been feeling this way the past few days and it makes me wonder if I'm having my period or something.
pantyshield, and bend over in a turnpike men's room. Take a lilac scented sponge bath with candles while you're at it.
-- Modified on 9/12/2007 9:04:10 AM
If you didn't have five reviews, I would have thought this was a joke post.
As it is, it is, to me, a sad testament to the male condition and what the perception of a "real man" is supposed to be.
Dude, I almost ALWAYS feel the way you do...and I am fucking proud of it. You know why? Because the women I have known love me for it, and because it is one fuck of a lot more fulfilling than "bangin away"...in MANY ways. And you know what...I don't have to sacrifice my masculinity by being that way, either. It isn't either or...it is taking what nature gives us and enlightening ourselves and going to a higher plane of awareness, and not only does it make you a better man for the ladies, but it makes yo a better man for yourself.
Masculinity and sensitivity CAN coexist...if you want them to. Oh, and for the record, I tend to like women who are more in touch with their masculinity, too. Why? Because it makes a better rounded person.
Girlyman here...and proud of it.
exactomundo, MSD.
That is exactly how I like it and have never had any problem telling the lady I'm with that.
In every case, they have been pleased and have shown a lot of appreciation, if you know what I mean....
Romance, intimacy, sensitivity are so much more appreciated than "slam, bam, thank you maam", at least in my experience.
GIRLYMEN unit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just my opinion...
B
Totally agree with Mr. SD and bob. A lot can be said for tenderness and TLC in love making. I know, it is a hobby, but the fantasy is a big part of it. Thank you ladies!
I understand completely. Don't worry, you don't sound gay at all. In fact, being men, let's get together and talk about it. I have a stop over at the Philly airport later today and...
Actually you have to look at like - are you tired of repetitive motion? I mean to read the reviews and it is all about 2 pops and 15 different positions - sometimes this is great but other times - I like the sensuality and the passion to be more seductive in way! I had this experience the other day and I must admit - I liked it! The lady was awesome in how she seduced me with her eyes!
Anyway - it doesn't have to always be about the big bang theory!
From one cyclist to another..well said. I wish there was a board for the knuckle draggers who could yip and yap about pounding the living daylights out of ASPs and how women should only open their mouths to recieve a dick. They would always be right and have their cohorts back slap every crude, crass comment they made. They could bash the hell out everyone who didn't feel the way did about hobbying and the ladies.
Guys like you and a ton of others could feel good about expressing the way you treat women and this hobby without the "draggers" calling you out on it. I know ...wishful thinking but it sure would be nice.
Yeah, well, you got the bonus plan, baby.
- Andrew Dice Clay
do you ever go through periods of time (up to years at a time) when you're just feeling aggravated beyond belief and you just want to be left the fuck alone instead of perennial whinging & nagging about dipshit that she can't even explain?!!?
I mean, are there times when you want to take a cold 6-pack and head so far into the woods that she can NEVER find you? Instead of solving everybody's petty ass problems (most of which are mental) all of the fucking time?!
I've been feeling this way for most of my life, and I just want to know if anybody else is sicknfuckingtired of carrying the dead weight of pathetic losers.
I mean, when Laura Bush calls me up and asks WTF is the matter with her man, I wanta holler, "CAIN'T YOU SEE, YER BOF IDJUTS!!!" But the Secret Service is standing there, saying, "be polite to the nice First Lady, we're just doing our job" so I say, "OK, pal" and say, "well, he's probably just majorly disturbed like you, let me get out my DSM here..." and then the GF wanders in and whimpers, "who are all these people, and why are you talking to them anyway..." and I have to whisper, "just STFU...".
No? Nobody? I was afraid so.
I enjoyed jack0116533's post. For those who didn't get the DSM reference, here's a quote from Wikipedia:
"The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is a handbook for mental health professionals that lists different categories of mental disorder and the criteria for diagnosing them, according to the publishing organization the American Psychiatric Association."
Just trying to help out.
filmat11
DSM. He is the case study subject in chapters 3-12.
lubricious love-meat until you GET IN LINE and WAIT YOUR FUCKING TURN!!!
Jesus! Always the same thing.
Oh, so you're the case study in chapters 13-17 as well- the latent homosexual, passive aggressive chapters.
I'm cutting you off, bitch.
BTW you fuckin idiot - the DSM does not include homos anymore. I guess that's your sole area of expertise now.
wanna share mine, eh?
Good.
do you want to be "friends" with somebody who leads with allegations of your general "mental disorder"? What sort of sick pup would you be?
HUNH?! Oh, lemme guess, it's all a joke. Exactly what I was gonna say myself. How come you couldn't figure it out yourself?! Why am I allus having to tell you EVERYTHING?!
In civilian land we have to put up with the slow sensual crap because if we didn’t engage in pillow talk, massages, foreplay and post cuddling, our wives wouldn’t fuck us. Period. It's all part of the BS process men have to go through. The bottom line is that all we are thinking about is cumming early and often. Men don’t crave affection and sensuality. Are you kidding me???
Why the heck do you think we see providers? Patience and sensuality go out the window. Even if you are talking to a provider for 10-15 minutes, all you are thinking about is hey, I'm going to fuck this woman. Or if you walk in there horny, you don’t have to engage in any useless banter or small talk... you can pound her hard, bang away, be the master of your own porno movie, and cum in 5 minutes if you wish...that's a wonderful thing about this hobby. You call all the shots; there is no sensuality or patience required.
Dude, you have got to get a grip on reality. Men by nature don’t give two shits about tenderness. We are all about the bottom line...cumming as quickly and as often as possible.
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I had just finished a two day binge of six different providers and was downing the last bites of a 48oz steak I had barbequed in celebration of the thirty illegal immigrant border hoppers I had mowed down with my M60E3. The glowing red sun on the western horizon, and the peaceful wafting evening breeze at my campsite momentarily caused me to pause for soulful introspection on the spiritual meaning of the man – woman relationship. While breaking camp and carrying my gun & gear to my waiting Hummer I belched and farted simultaneously, thankfully ridding me of this brief but disturbing muse.
Big Vein,
There are two things men do not admit to to other men that happen more frequently than you'd thing ...
1) Althought I can tell you "first hand" some do, men will never admit to other men they enjoy anything in their ass ... as if some how a WOMEN'S finger or a non-gender specific toy, will make other men think they are gay.
2) Far more common than #1, many many many men want to kiss and cuddle and have a sensual eve. Hell, my reviews make it clear I enjoy being POUNDED and often, I have dates with men looking for TLC, not raw sex.
Yes guys...there are more and more of you 'sensative' types out here than you really know! Take for instance the Belcher/farter from above...im sure he's just the cutest little teddybear after an evening of gentle touching and coersion of a finger in his butt! After stepping back out into the street, he buffs up his chest and starts woofing..'WOH! WOH! WOH! GROWWWL SNARL COUGH SPIT!(looks behind himself quickly)
..........
Maybe not... 
For me, I don't go into a session with the attitude of "banging the hell out of her". I love sex, don't get me wrong, but I like doing 2-hour sessions because there is time for conversation, cuddling, etc. either at the beginning of the session, or between rounds, or whenever. If I wanted to just "fuck and run", then I'd only do 1-hr appointments. I'm no porn star, I'm not even that good at sex, to be perfectly honest(the few providers I've been with would probably agree!! lol). Anyway, the session is more meaningful to me when it is more personal, and there is some good conversation and cuddling. I love that intimacy, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I don't have that kind of intimacy in my civvie life, and I miss that. If wanting to cuddle and have conversation, etc. makes me a wimp, then so be it.
Runningman
-- Modified on 9/12/2007 3:37:31 PM
Like MrSelfDestruct and bobb3950, my tendency would be to take the slow, sensual approach to lovemaking. However, that doesn't necessarily imply tenderness. There can be an underlying intensity.
So while I might start out slow and sensual, when a woman responds in a really passionate way, all of a sudden, I'm "bangin' away" like Big Vein.
Everything kind of depends on how two people react to each other, I think.
God, these responses are killing me! LOL. I was very glad to see Sen. Craig chime in, in particular.
There are times I'm not in the mood (horny), but affection from a stranger? Nope. I've known women from whom I wanted romantic feelings, but that's it. This business is about the porn star angle for me.
These feelings are normal. Every normal person has them. The problem is that many of us try to apply these feelings to the hobby in one way or another. This hobby is essentially a manufactured relationship. It is synthetic. It isn't real. For those of us who have fallen in love with a provider, and had those feelings reciprocated, good for them. For the other 90% of us, we are barking up the wrong tree. There is usually no "genuine affection" here. And what is the sense of cuddling with someone who really can't wait for you to leave? I've never met a provider who wanted a slow, sensual session. They all seem to want it fast to get it over with. Basically, you should save the sensual stuff for your SO.
To believe that human tenderness and affection equals sexuality in all circumstances is a mistake. Where do people get these ideas?
When i want exposure to really bad ideas, I'll go over to P&R [lol].
I'm being serious, really.
Go with the flow, Big Vein. You've got nothing to lose but some preconceptions.
Manly men need love too, so there's nothing wrong with hanging up your porno stud hat now and then in exchange for some TLC.
My only question here is that you are fishing in the wrong pond looking for your "genuine affection". You shouldn't let yourself become one of those dudes who blurs the line between fantasy and reality when it comes to the hobby. In exchange for your $400/hr a provider will be happy to cuddle with you til your hearts content. But your a client, there's nothing genuine about it really.
...I would start working your way up to bisexually right away, before your gonads are stuck that way.
Just be glad you're not an emotional cripple.
Just kidding. P l e a s e . . . what makes you think that we want to be banged to death just because we're getting a donation for it? Do we look like crack whores? Even they have feelings, my dear.
Most men I see want affection and compassion. The other three percent want to bang you because they have a problem with women. I'm not saying I'd turn someone away who wants the session to be over with in a flash, but I don't think the majority of providers or other men (hiding in the closet) want to hear about banging chicks. That belongs in the locker room in high school.
Oh, yea, Hardy. Come here and I'll give you a proper lickin'! 
Hugs,
Ciara
I'll go shopping with you Ciarra...
I'm not gay, or a man. I'm a straight transsexual lesbian! I like boys, girls, and both together!
And I agree with Ciarra that most guys aren't "gay" but are just looking for an enjoyable time with someone who is nice to them. And a little sex doesn't hurt...
Giggle,
TS Jamie
When I was in my twenties and thirties, banging away was the only thing. The preliminary kissy kissy part was just the means of getting to the main event.
After I turned 40, I found that I really did like the more sensual stuff, when I was having a short fling with a very sexy lady at work. It was great simply to hold her hand and have her smile at me. She had very soft skin and simply touching her was a real turn on.
Being sensual does not rule out the porn star action. There is time for both.
For me I think it depends in the provider. I've met some who I just wanted to bang and others I would fall in love with, if by some miracle we could date in the real world. In fact the ones I've had good conversations with are the ones I remember most fondly.
...and soft baby kisses from head to toe.