Maybe you can chalk it up to her being new, but this is by no means "normal" behavior by a hooker.

Unless of course there was something that put her "off" about you in particular, but you saying that she "might" allow it in future visits seems to make that possibility moot.

As for how I would have handled it, there isn't really a lot you can do if she refuses, forcing her is rape, so I suppose you did all you could have done. If you write a review, I would DEFINITELY mention it and deduct for it, you always have the option of writing a new review if and when you ever decide to see her again. That is your call, but I can't imagine ever seeing a hooker for a second visit that refused to give me a blow job of any kind.

I met a girl who wouldn't do oral (she didn't know me and didn't know I was clean) even though I'm well shaved and visually clean -w- good hygiene. However she was more than willing to let me go down on her. So is there some difference in transmission rates between mouth to cock and mouth to pussy?

Other than that it was a great visit and I might return, I'm just not sure what to think about the BJ thing.

Review and put this in the review.

Well she seemed to indicate it would be on the table in future visits since she said she didn't know me well rather than saying she didn't offer it. She's new to the biz, about 1 month now, so I'm hesitant to minus points considering that it was a good visit otherwise.  

I guess I'm just curious if anyone has had similar issues, if there's any logic behind it (doesn't seem to be) and how others would have handled it. I just accepted it at face value since I liked her overall attitude but it did occur to me when she let me go down that I could have said something.

It doesn't even get me off anymore.
I'd rather just drink a cup of coffee. Maybe have a madalin. Then have very plain sex.

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and I mean in the bad way, not the good one! And she gave you the "maybe next time..." line? Yep, next time I'm sure that the "risk" will be lower, lol. Did she offer CBJ?

You got the "selective menu" treatment and "return visit" tease. It's just an upsell

so I don't think health was her concern.  I guess she just has a certain thing about it.

I've run into the opposite situation a few times, but not what you described.

That thought crossed my mind, though the return visit would make much more sense if she had enthusiastically slobbed my nobb when I asked. No mention of an upsell but rather a simple maybe once we get to know each other a little better. Could be a tease just for repeat visit, and does increase the possibility of a repeat visit over mention of additional charge which has always been an automatic non-repeat for me... but again a quick bbbj would have made the return visit a sure thing.

Neither she nor I mentioned CBJ. I don't care for them.

Girls are so confusing sometimes. If I do return I think I'll bring fresh test results

Yea, it's the first time I've encountered it. What I could have done is point out that my tongue was all over her pussy, so why won't she reciprocate? The STD concern didn't seem relevant at that point. I regret not bringing it up to force a new answer. I may have even been able to talk her into it.

if she really isn't into BJs.   That is my take on it.

Kick her ass to the curb and get a real providers.

on the menu happens at every session, at least not for me. I let things happen naturally between the gentleman I am with at the time. I mean every session is very, very different. I think that would be impossible to honor a 'routine' session after session and boring to be quite honest lol. Unless you are blatantly obvious and ask her to 'perform' something that isn't happening naturally, (which I think is kinda weird personally even in this world) then I suppose find someone who's reviews are exactly the same one after the other. Then you are assured your guaranteed routine 'bj' girl. However, by the way you carry yourself and your words and consideration for a second visit despite what happened, I'm thinking you're not one of those kind of guys. I say give her another chance if the chemistry was there and you enjoyed your time with her. If you think your void of a bj didn't fit the bill, then don't repeat. Simple to me. Good luck to you.  

xx kisses
Stevie

Yea you're right, there's times when I didn't ask for or receive a BJ. Actually I rarely request BJs. They happen often enough anyway. We had talked for a few minutes and she asked me what I'd like to do. Not totally natural but she's still new like I said and there was some tension like there can be on first visits. BJ came to mind so that's what I said.  

It was a good session, it's just that my inability to understand what was going on there has bothered me every time I think about seeing her again, and I do think about it. I'm thinking some tactful communication before another visit might clear things up one way or the other.

Thanks Stevie and everyone else for the replies. It's nice to have a place to come for these type questions

Or do just a quick bit of searching online... like this:

I was hoping for a few responses from the ladies

That's interesting but the chart doesn't details the reasons, and it doesn't seem totally intuitive. I did find some answers in a Salon article

"One takeaway is that — sorry, fellatio fans — blow jobs tends to be riskier than cunnilingus. “Across all STIs and all sex acts, generally the receptive partner is the one at greater risk for STI and HIV acquisition, the idea being that wherever ejaculate winds up, that’s also where the greatest burden of infectious material will also wind up,” says Hurt. But that hardly means that cunnilinguists are in the clear: He also says that the risk of contracting syphilis, herpes or HPV by performing oral sex on a woman is “arguably just as high” as with fellatio “since these infections can occur both inside the vagina and on the skin surface.”

Makes sense, but it still doesn't explain why receiving a blow job is risky.

And if that's fine with you, then go for it.
To expect anything more is setting yourself up for disappointment IMO.
Remember, you are the customer, so no need to settle for ladies who aren't fully satisfying your desires.

Don't smell as bad I would rather kiss her and stick my dick in her bottom.

Personally, skipping the BJ and starting with, say, doggy--that might be a unique and interesting session.

Thus, what you have to say is totally irrelevant in this regard.  See ya!

Try using good grammar, it might help.  Use proper spelling and punctuation.  Look on your list of reviews to see why they were rejected.

Swim

!_! was a moron, NEG before him was a moron, but this persona is the stupidest of all, yet for some unknown reason people still engage him in "conversation" and as we all know about board trolls. If you feed them, they aren't about to go anywhere.

This is a troll handle of some guy who has been around a long time, obviously knows how TER works, and can speak and write in perfect English. (and probably has reviewed lots of providers)

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The risk of male to female is greater than female to male.  BUT, in P4P for her to not offer oral but to expect to receive it is rather odd, IMHO.  Does she offered CBJ?

Well, I thought it was all low risk but what the chart in the link and what I've been reading seems to indicate fellatio is higher risk for both people, however I have read that giving and receiving cunnilingus isn't as safe as the chart would indicate (only at risk for herpes?)... though perhaps still safer than fellatio.

I didn't ask about CBJ. If she offered it I think she would have suggested it. The way she worded things, she would offer BBBJ after she got to know me better, though she also mentioned not knowing I was clean... though a visual and olfactory inspection is about as well as you can know someone in that regard without asking for a recent test result. I didn't offer to use a condom because I've never had a good CBJ (maybe just never had the right girl do one) and just wanted to move on from her cryptic comment.

I've got my ATF lined up next week and a new girl that's cute as a button for the week after. There's been a ton of new reviews in my area I like so I may never see her again. It was fun but I've decided her comments were too odd. My somewhat extensive experience with BP has taught me that small signs of trouble can indicate more to come and one of the previous posters was right... there's way too many girls worth trying to fret over that one.

However, it's been worthwhile in that I made this post and learned a bit more about STD risk and have an interest in clearing things up a bit more. It's a bit disconcerting because I'm now looking for more specific information on oral transmission risks rather than just assuming "low risk". If it turns out that cunnilingus is fairly safe but I can get all kinds of stuff from getting BJs... well that's just not fair