I have some quick questions for the ladies here...

Do you really have an orgasm when we go down on you? Or do you fake it to make us feel good? I'm sure its a mix of the two, but how often do you really have orgasms in this situation?

Just curious...trying to get better at DATY and hopefully will be able to tell when its real.

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AGAIN!

 

 
What's next?  Another thread about penis size?  Does it matter?  Do they prefer length or girth

I give daty. I enjoy it.  If it's good for her that's great.  If not that's fine.    

 
 I'm not getting paid to make her cum.

I just spit coffee all over my desk. You started a stressful day with a laugh - thank you! OMG lol

Edie xoxo

Well I'm relatively new to this and didn't find this topic in the recent board posts and since this is for "general" topics I thought I would post here. Of course I'm curious to know and that's why I asked. What's that point of being a jerk in your replies? If you want to know penis sizes then you can ask that. Talk about being judgement, that too here! LOL.

Thanks for the link to the other thread.  

To answer your question: I wouldn't want to do something that makes the person uncomfortable. I mean she's a human being so I would treat her like one (I know, know - money involved etc but still). Also, If she says that she can't have an orgasm, I wouldn't get upset but hope that the session is fun for both of us. I would like to meet the ladies that don't mind making it fun for everyone involved.

Part of the experience, for me, is to also pleasure the woman...and if I could learn to do it better, I will try. Just personal preference imho.

That would be like saying that all gay guys are great at sucking dick.

Case in point, I once did a threesome with two chicas that I have been with individually before. One was just a little bit bi, the other much preferred women over men, but was so hot I usually didn't care. She literally pounced on the other chica like a feral cat and sucked her pussy so hard I could tell she wasn't enjoying it.

I spent the night with the slightly bi chica and she flat out told me that the other chica was much too rough down there and that she much preferred my softer technique. Whether or not she was lying about the way I gave her head, I have ZERO doubt that she did NOT enjoy the way the other chica dined on her.

Just because you are the owner of certain equipment, doesn't mean you have any idea how to operate it. Although I will confess, after being told I eat pussy like a lesbian, I have always taken that as the highest of compliments.

...fake it with customers, but they genuinely don't want it either. A lot of guys don't really perform it well, and many provides grin and bear it. I love giving (and receiving, of course), but I won't dive in unless she asks or shoves my face down there. These ladies are providing a service for our pleasure, and many make that point known.

I would recommend setting up a session with a provider with the goal being to teach you how to perform oral sex better. It would surely be money well spent.

Jennifer Flowers said that Bill Clinton was the worst at it she ever experienced and would have to tell him to stop as he was chaffing her !!!  

That's a good idea! Thanks for the suggestion. Are the ladies typically up for this type of stuff?

My civie partners have achieved O's of varying intensity...  probably not 100% however.  And yes, I chatted with some old lovers...  talk about arkward...  
I've had 2 Escorts tell me "It's ok but I never cum with clients".  Both have had long rolling O's enough to say so.  But again, not 100%.  
In my experience, a lot depends on her.  If she allows herself to go there.  At least in some cases, I can tell if she's into it.  If she's not, NO amount of trying will change it (or maybe not by the time I figure it out).   Maybe she's just balancing her checkbook or figuring out if she can afford new shoes?  

It you approach her with the right attitude, ask her to guide you.  My approach is always that I am the motor but she is the driver.  I support her physical position...  I might cup her buns, or help support her legs...  while leaving her free to move against me as she chooses.

And she told you she is a lesbian.

You do live a very sheltered life...don't you!

I know I don't, it is possible for me to ejaculate without having an orgasm.   It does not happen often but it does happen.   Also, needless to say that the intensity of the orgasm can vary wildly from "ok that felt good, nice little tickle" to "holy shit, are my eyes still in their sockets?"

I could go take a lesson from someone and if I am a good student all I will have learned is how to please that woman.   DATY is difficult for me in sessions because I am used to doing it very rough because that is the way my W likes it and I have to actively put the brakes on whereas at home I can really let loose.   Crap, it is the same with nipple play.   Some women can't stand to be touched there, some prefer it very light and others will ask you to bite them.   May be each lady should come with an operator's manual

As for waiting to be asked for DATY, I don't wait, I usually ask.   I mean, I don't want to do anything that is uncomfortable to the lady, but the truth is that even if I don't get the lady off, I like to do it, love the view, love the experience, it arouses me.

You know he loves to give advice and be helpful.  And knowing what he's talking about has never stopped him.
Still, he can be a useful guide.  If you take what he says and do the exact opposite you will almost always be right.

I have known many provider friends that have told me that they would rather fuck Jabba the Hut, rather than endure 20 minutes of a guy (or gal I suppose) who not only doesn't have clue about what he is doing down there, but is overly rough and thinks that biting a woman's clit is a turn on.

Having received a few REALLY bad blow jobs in my life, I think I can understand where they are coming from.

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I would think that any provider would love the opportunity to be paid to get head! Its a win-win for the both of you  

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I was told the exact same thing by an ex who was in the "lifestyle". She said that she had a terrible experience with one of those "Libyan" gals who went down on her. She said she sucked her clit so hard it kept getting caught between the space in the girl's front teeth. She said everytime she flinched or made a "I'm in pain" sound the girl would mistake it for pleasure and suck harder ... ouch.

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They may not cum every time with you. Don't speak for the rest of us.

tutoring on DATY, the provider can guide and give instructions as to how her eager student is doing so any rough or uncomfortable attempts can be corrected rather than endured. And if the student just doesn't show any signs of any improvement, then the provider has to be honest about it......... and possibly offer a discount for more lessons?

cease seeking it.

I could advise you to look for certain physical signs that "prove" an orgasm has occurred. A utilitarian physiological response. You can google a thousand "techniques". But...

Orgasm is not merely physiology or a task to check off of your "to do" list.  

When you both lose yourself in the journey, it isn't necessary to ask "Have we arrived?" because you will simply KNOW.

Do you just hold your tongue in one place and wait for her to bounce off of it?

No, but that little connector membrane at the bottom of the tongue  gets stretched out and rubs against my bottom teeth. Sore for a while

But how would you go about setting it up? Just ask the provider when you set up an appointment? Won't they think of this as some creepy request?

To the providers out there: would you be up for something like this?

Know when to walk away, Know when to run."

Kenny Rogers - The Gambler.

you get alot of "now it's your turn" or  a perfunctory orgasm in 2 minutes. Really?  

Not worth my time so  I don't do it. Never had a provider ask either.

Having said that I am pretty sure that of the couple of hundred P4P ladies I've seen over the years I was able to bring 1 lady to orgasm. And it was not through DATY but through a combination of touching,  caressing and well guided manual stimulation.

Interesting not one provider commented on an answer to this thread...LOL.... Maybe there is yours and everyone's answer

+1 for the Poker reference.

That's something I noticed as well. Maybe the ladies don't want to say for some reason? Or are they ALL just faking it?

The answer would be some variation of "I'm there to please you", "I come all the time," "doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it even if I don't come".  blah blah blah...

I like to do it with some, though it may be for selfish reasons, it turns me on. If a provider isn't interested, just about everything else turns me on as well and we don't need to go there. I know they don't want to say no, and they don't need to. Fairly simple to say, "I need you in me", "Its your turn". I'm sure the ladies have plenty of tricks to get it to stop without needing to be rude about it.  

Just as not all men don't like the same BBBJ.  So the best thing to do is ask for her feedback.