A nice diversion. I get that at times.It isnt a problem.. I offer most all cept extreme fetishes, and greek.

An hour is an hour. He can use it however he feels fit.

There are many gents who take us only to dinner, a game, and really doesnt want sex. We are escorts We escort them where they wish. We are companions to fill a void. Or for the gent to have no strings attached... 2 or 3 hundred an hour for sex or no sex , we are still cheaper and more peaceful than having a girlfriend.

So: as a provider, do you feel that you offer a variety of services and if your client gives you a donation for your time, he can choose any or all of them within the time limits?  How would you react if a client said 'I really just want to hold you for an hour and talk'.  Would you be like 'um, what the hell is wrong with you?' or would this be a nice diversion from the 'lets get right to it' kind of appointment?   -SE

Spaceeye:  I like your style!  Its very similar to mine!  Although I am a GFE and offer GFE services.... I like getting to know someone first (comfortability factors).... before the "let's get right to it" episode.  It just makes the "lets get to it" more passionate and meaningful actually (especially if there is chemistry!)     *smile*  Lisa of Boston


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 if indeed it is one. If not, than I have to assume you are a "newbie" and I don't have a problem with that either.

 I know your question was directed at providers. I am not a provider, but you may appreciate my thoughts on the issue

 Providers are professionals. You are paying for their time. They have no preconceived notions of what is normal. If you have issues with some of the options available to you, rest assured they do not! If you are not into Daty, BBBJ, vaginal penetration, or any other aspects of the experience, it won't be a problem. No provider would think less of you. If you just want dinner, talk, and/or an intimate period of sexual time, regardless of what your preferences may be, within the scope of services offered, that's O.K.

 I hope that my perpective may be of value to you.

SpaceEye,

I've met a lot of men like you who are more interested in intimacy and feeling close to a woman than the actual act itself or going through a checklist of acronyms.  Feeling physically and mentally close to another person is a basic human need and it's very comforting to be able to spend quality time with someone be it talking, laughing or just quietly holding each other.  

Even men who schedule shorter dates that do not involve social time or dinner are looking for that experience, although it's a condensed version, or I suspect they would not be spending hundreds of dollars seeing a provider.   Also, why would we continually hear all this talk about GFE on the board if that were not the case.

As far as your limitations go I would not be offended if you were reluctant to do something nor would I even suggest something that made you uncomfortable so I am somewhat surprised by the reactions of the two ladies you described.  There's such a wide variety of men out there and I have met many different types who enjoy vastly different things and quite a few like yourself who have specific needs or fantasies or limitations.  An example is a man that I've seen a few times who thinks that if he only has oral sex with me he's not cheating on his wife so we have yet to, as they say, "go all the way".  I'm sure many would argue the point that any form of sexual contact is cheating but it's hardly my place to judge him or his reasoning.  If he's happy, content and having a great time that's all that really matters.

And lastly, not to sound too commercial, but it is YOUR time and money so if it's within reason I don't see any of what you described as being a problem.

Good luck to you in your search and I hope you find what you're looking for.

Megatha

All I want to know......

is where have you been all my Provider life?  LOL.  As has been said by many other ladies here, I would not be offended if all you wanted was some of my time and a little cuddling... or whatever.  It would, indeed, be a nice diversion just to be taken to dinner with no expectations of anything afterward.  What a relaxing evening!  As Ciara said, we are escorts and will spend the time with you any way you wish to spend it.

Each date has it's own course...each person brings a different chemistry to the table.  To try and force an agenda of any kind takes away from a true natural progression of things, and I think a true GFE element.

I have no problems if someone voices specific boundaries about anything.  When you respect others boundaries they will respect yours in turn.

And there are sooooooo many ways to have fun together when you think about it...closing some doors will sometimes open others.  What a glorious thing that can be!!

Cheers!
xoMegan