Why is it so many providers won't DFK or tongue kiss for those that don't know the meaning of DFK?
The asian providers are the worst for it but many others won't do it either.
Care to explain why and more to the point if you offer BBBJ and not DFK explain that too.
Damn kissing and more so DFK is a hell of a warmup for must us hobbyist.
If you do your research here on TER, you should be carefully reading reviews, and make sure before you make an appt., that it notes that she does DFK.
I know for me to do DFK, you must have very clean breath, teeth all in place (sorry no missing, rotting teeth in front), and not try to stick your tongue down to the bottom of my toes.
Again, make sure to review the reviews, see if she does DFK, and on your part, make sure your hygiene is up to par, then things should go your way.
Otherwise, YMMV.
They will do bbbj, but not dfk.. I think its the personal thing. DFk is involvement and getting personal.. Some providers if you notice, won't even give eye to eye contact..DFK and eye to eye give off signs of intimacy that can be misleading to the hobbyist..
Thats my take.
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Oddly enough, it may also depend on the season. Kissing someone involves exchanging quite a bit of fluids and colds and flus are often passed this way before the one who has the virus is even aware of it yet. Given the relatively low risk of BBBJ for catching most STIs and, of course, cold and flu,lol, maybe that is why some opt out of the DFK...
Hygiene can also be a factor, but in my personal experience I haven't had to deal with a guy with poor hygiene (knock on wood) but have been a little squirmish if they seem to be sniffling a bit when flu/cold season is at an all time high (like last winter)because I absolutely HATE the flu and the sore throat and weak stomach that comes along with it. Other than that, I'm a linguist so of course I like to use my tongue!
Umm, other than those issues, they may be too high volume to want to DFK that many guys in one day or they just do not like that level of intimacy with their clients.
Hi Ciara,
I guess singing the following tune would be out of the question?
Don't close your eyes let it be me
Don't pretend it's him in some fantasy
Darling let yesterday go you'll find more love
Than you'll ever know so don't close your eyes!!!! LOL!!!!!
It's not a matter of preventing the spread of disease; it's a matter of preventing real intimacy. A kiss is probably more a sign of intimacy to her than a BBBJ.
One of the first things I found on the internet concerning seeing escorts, back several years ago, suggested very strongly that you never initiate a kiss with them.
im in love with my atf.She told me to gtfo.
use to dfk.
There is famous French quote that goes something like this: "A fuck for ten francs, but not for a thousand will I kiss you."
A kiss is fraught with emotions - particularly women. It makes it more difficult to detach from the experience.
You may not like this truth, but it is a truth for billions - not all - but billions nonetheless.
Assuming you have done some research for a lady who appears to provide the services you wish, if you aren't getting the kissing you're looking for the problem is probably your style.
Everyone likes something different, and just because I don't like it doesn't mean someone else won't love it. Some kissing techniques I find distasteful are:
"swapping spit" - if I need to wipe my face down when you're done, I'm grossed out
"big fat lizard tongue" - just sticking your whole tongue into my mouth and wobbling it around is nasty and pointless
"duck pecking" - this isn't a tongue issue, but I just thought I'd throw it in, hard beaky lips poking at my face over and over, UGH!
"faster than a speeding bullet" - are you trying to stun my mouth into submission?
"face eaters" - if you're coming at me with your mouth open wider than my lips are across, back off!
To me, kissing is meant to be done with lips touching, gently and with sensual contact intended to stimulate. If tongues are used, they should touch lightly and with specific intent.
I must agree with you Kimi_Lixx. All of the above you described is a real turn off. I don't mind DFK, but the gentlemen has to be gentle, I must be turned on. lol
I don't like it when a man is pecking or just actually pressing his lips to mine hard, no sensuality, just hard pressing lips, occasionally moving his head every now and again. That is a total turn off!
Kimi,
Most of what you say is true, those are not kisses but attacks.
Soft gentle lips to lips with mouth open and mild tongue to tongue and maybe a bit deeper is what I consider DFK.
Many profiles say they do DFK yet their mouths remain closed, that is not a kiss to me.
As for what others say about it being intimate, come on now us hobbyist for the most part know better then to believe that.
What one said about eye contact well that makes the time all the more fun too.
I don't see a provider with the intent of making it a personal intimate long loving relationship.
Even my atf and she is good at making you feel like it is just the two of you. Maybe she spoils her atf hobbyist knowing exactly how and where to draw the line.
how about licking the front of your teeth from side to side, or taking your tongue gently into my mouth and gently sucking on it.would that be acceptable?
When I do BBBJ, I am in control of everything. When I DFK, my partner adds several variables, including how well he kisses, his breath, & the drippy saliva technique. You would be surprised at how many men haven’t a clue on how to kiss. In addition, DFK is much more personal.
You would be surprised how many females don't know how to kiss also.
And some of the worst claim to do DFK yet their mouths remain shut. Hell that is not even a kiss.