I've always believed that what goes on between provider & client during a session is strictly between them.Yet, I wonder if providers gossip with their friend providers about the clients they've been with.Wouldn't that violate the sacred rule of "kiss & don't tell".
BTW, I know of one provider(not on TER) who refers to it as "pillow talk" where her clients divulge opinions about other providers(good & bad) and she passes it on to her customer "friends"
"I've always believed that what goes on between provider & client during a session is strictly between them."
Darling, I have a news flash for you. You're posting that sentiment on TER-- home of the "juicy details, "Reviewers Board" and, yes, "Providers Board" as well. (Although I would bet there is far less gossip of the nature you're concerned with on the Provider's board-- as a member, I can tell you it is 70Z% miscellaneous rants about guys who can't show up clean, and 20% questions from newbie girls and 10% safety posting about dangerous clients.)
So while I applaud your sense of what ladies should keep confidential, it hardly seems equitable given the venue.
those stats seem about right. The kiss and tell board rolf. We honestly dont spend that much time talking about our guests, but if you are a beast sooner or later someone will spread the word.
I have had providers suggest that because I like xyz I might want to call provider XXX. It is more like a helpful suggestion than gossip though. Can't say this happens regularly. I cannot remember anyone naming client names to me for sure.
What a waste of pillow talk to gossip about others. I learn more about the state of the ecomomy and the business environment from pillow talk with providers than I do from the media. It pays to sleep with smart women.
Women in groups pretty much share everything in graphic detail so I always assume there is a local provider backchannel system. Hence, I always try to behave correctly. I would not want to get a bad reputation.
I understand it's a natural thing, and I hope I'm not guilty of it when I'm with someone. I try extremely hard not to talk about others unless it is something nice and first brought up by my client, but when one of my clients mentions another lady with negative responses, I always say, "I don't know. I do not know her and I do not like to discuss other ladies with gentlemen." I do the same with providers unless someone is a threat or his hygiene is bad. There was only one provider who was -- I thought -- a good friend of mine who I would ocassionally share my private life with, but no longer. You just don't know who you can trust in this business. I had to learn the hard way with her, too. Beware of people thinking they are speaking innocently of others when they're truly not. It usually gets back to the person and it can be hurtful and often untrue.
Hugs,
Ciara
and I know where you are coming from . Sad but true . Ya just never know until it is too late 
Although I am sure we all compare some fun stories and some not too fun stories amongst us ladies . I made mistake many years ago "trusting" a lady by (sharing) her with one of my good friends .... Not a good idea
Gossip is one thing (I hate to admit it, but I really enjoy exchanging funny and odd stories) but bad-mouthing other providers is not right. One girl told me another provider of whom I was a regular did BBFS and I should be careful. I don't know if it was true, but I couldn't chance it and stopped seeing the accused.
I have heard of that on more than one occasion. Later I was able to confirm that it had been only a lie
If "kiss and don't tell" was a sacred rule, sites like TER could not exist. We providers should not talk amongst ourselves, while our escapades are shared among anyone willing to click "Agree" on TER's disclaimer page????? Am I missing something here?
The fact that providers can chat on a TER board is immaterial.BTW,(TER take note) why isn't there a separate board for hobbyists?
Both sides can talk their hearts out but ladies, don't divulge details from a session that was paid for your time & DISCRETION!
to the right... it is reviewers only... see it now? but - you have to have 10 or more approved reviews to enter.... that's where we teach you the secret handshake and you can get tons of valuable information..... yea.... right! I like that the ladies are on here as well... it provides perspective.