How do I begin? Explanation? Apology?
I posted something a few days ago about marriage and I just want you to understand that that's just me, rambling. Please don't think I meant any disrespect or was undermining anyone's marriage.
I know there are good marriages because many of you have told me about yours - sent me beautiful emails, or PM's, or have told me stories over dinner.
I've heard about them, read about them, seen movies..
I've just never SEEN one; experienced one.
I still always say that two of the most important things in life, as well as the most precious are marriage, and parenting.
Well, I'm going to stop here - mind is too jumbled with thoughts, and emotion to sort through and say.
Thanks all, for the e-cards, email and messages. You're all so sweet. Happy Valentine's Day.
xo,
Sedona
Sedona,
No apology necessary. Your ramblings and musings are always welcome and appreciated.
Marriage, like every other human endeavour, is a very individual thing. Even within a marriage, you're likely to find differing opinions on the subject.
I think that as a society, we put too much pressure on marriage. "Sanctity" is often confused with "possession" and that leads to trouble. Monogamy happens by a mutual choice made from within, not from without by rules or laws.
It's been said in this forum that no one can be everything to anyone, and I agree. Unfortunately, that's what society seems to demand of husbands and wives for each other.
I want something simpler than that: companionship. I want someone to wake up next to, start my day with, think about with a smile during the day, steal away for noontime trysts with, laugh with, cry with, argue with, converse with, be quiet with, hold hands with, make love with, raise a child with, share events with, go to sleep with. I want someone who likes her solitude as much as I like mine, but finds comfort in the fact that her solitude is a respected choice, because she knows she could be in my arms in a heartbeat. I want someone who knows that neither of us is perfect nor will be, but challenges me to keep moving in that direction anyway...and loves that I do the same for her. Above all, I want to marry a woman who is honest about her thoughts and feelings, with herself and with me.
Oh, Lord...I've made this post about me. Sorry...it's supposed to be about you.
May you find happiness of the heart, Sedona...in whatever form that takes for you.
Happy Valentine's Day,
Yoda
Master Y,
Well said! I think this post is about most of us, if not all of us. Thank you for saying it so eloquently.
I just wanted you to look here so you would see me sending you
(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
AND
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXKISSESXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Happy Valentine's Day, Love!
I, for one, didn't find it rambling. I certainly saw no disrespect or attempt to undermine anyone's marriage. You simply asked what the uproar was over gay marriage, considering something like 60% of "normal" marriages end in divorce. That 60% figure has led you to conclude that many marriages seem to be a joke or a farce.
Years ago I worked an all night job with mostly college students and listening to their stories and seeing how they were making such bad choices and decisions, and I would talk to them, lecture them..until one night this one guy put his hand up and said 'You're just so..so ANTI - marriage!', and I was stunned. At that time, I laughed, and said 'noooo..I'm just PRO-single!' And then we could relax and I could tell them what I was trying to say..which was take your time, do it right, don't be in a hurry.
I just didn't want (again) someone to think I was anti marriage - I'm just saddened to watch what it meant to be so cheapened, and lost.
That's all.
you can about your S.O..
Unfortunately, too many of us spend less time learning this then we do buying a car!
Sedona, while I agree with you, I have seen a few very good marriages, but I have seen many people who, if they were married to each other, would have had truly wonderful lives.
IMHO