"Most clients, surprisingly are quite nice and just want some affection and sex. Even though, it can be very draining emotionally to cater to such men. They are much more observant and want you to enjoy yourself to which necessates a much bigger act, therefore draining some mental supplies."

This quote from a post below made me wonder... is the writer full of crap or is it possible that nice guys can get tiring sometimes.  

I know what the PC answer is... prefer to hear your true opinions.

Come on, when your at work aren't there people you have to deal with that you would rather not. Everyone goes through that and it is mentally draining.

One provider told me that she has to take 2 days to deal with the mental/emotional aspects of the hobby.

Customer Service is one of the hardest jobs that there is today.  We live in a society that thinks everything should go perfectly and can't accept that unintentionally mistakes might be made.

Really! Before you say, BS Anneke, let me explain why? I SCREEN, thoroughly. I can generally tell in the first sentences of an email or the first words in a phone call if you are a gentleman and if I want to meet you. Oh, yeah, the jerk slips through occasionally but it's the exception rather than the rule. It's delightful to spend time with someone who is a gentleman, who knows how to treat a lady and who can engage in civil and stimulating conversation as well as some hot, wet time in the sack. Nice guys are........well NICE. So that is great fun for me and a big relief NOT emotionally draining. I would not be in this profession if I had to deal with dickheads all the time. I learned in the first few months that I would rather see fewer folks and have a great time then allow just anyone to cross my incall door step. While we don't get to choose who contacts us we certainly get to choose who we meet. I'd like to think that I'M a nice person so I try and surround myself with nice gents. The not so nice don't get to first base if I recognize them for what they are. If they get past that, they certainly don't get the second chance.

Smiles and Kisses to ALL you NICE folks out there,
Anneke

"I would not be in this profession if I had to deal with dickheads all the time." ????? ROTFLMAO I'm not going to say a word to that, hahaha. Sorry, that's probably way out of line but I couldn't resist. I know what you really meant.

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Then, I must be doing something wrong...lol...I get nice guys and also naughty & nasty ones...not sure which ones I enjoy the most...mmmmmmmm

Nothing like a challenge for me ~~~~~



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change their career. God bless America!!

Easier said than done, how easy is it do get a $250+ an hour job?

As Anneke said, I SCREEN very well
Usually a guy with a bad attitude won’t make it past my screening, cause there are just too many hoops he has to jump thru
The guys with fucked up attitudes, usually GIVE UP and curse me out thru email
Oh well

as far as if the Nice guys are a mental drain, I would say that I can ONLY deal with nice guys first of all, and they have to be a gentleman who knows how to treat me with respect, cause I am VERY sensitive
but the problem is when the nice guy is also a very "needy" guy emotionally or a very "pushy" guy
The "needy" guy wants to be your friend off the clock and after hours and wants you to "cum for him" (First of all, IT's MY ORGASM, why does it have to be for you, and wants some kind of indication that you really really like him
That can be very very draining

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...so if you're sick of your run-of-the-mill nice guys, call me.

Lex. Lex Luethor. Limp as a noodle and easily pleased.

The difference, I guess, is a nice guy vs. a needy guy.  In essence, be nice, but not nice and needy.

Lots of people have stressful jobs but that doesn't mean they have to change careers.

Yes, God save me from nice guys. I'd so much rather spend time with ignorant assholes who call me 'babe', short change my envelope, haggle my rate, try to stretch 60 minutes into two hours, and who piss all over my toilet seat. I just find all that swaggering machismo and the comments about 'yeah, you like this big dick, dontcha babe?' to be *such* a turn on.

I'm getting hot just thinking about it. Why on earth would any girl settle for a kind, well spoken, considerate man, when she could have a testosterone oozing neanderthal with a back that looks like shag carpeting?

Morgan

ps: Sorry, I'm just cranky tonite.

Nice gentlmen want to have a good time with a lady.  They also want to lady to have a good time too.  The not-so-nice guys are only concerned with themselves.  "Screw you", literally, is their motto.

“but the problem is when the nice guy is also a very "needy" guy emotionally or a very "pushy" guy. The "needy" guy wants to be your friend off the clock and after hours and wants you to "cum for him" (First of all, IT's MY ORGASM, why does it have to be for you, and wants some kind of indication that you really really like him”

The needy guy is not a nice guy.  A nice guy is a guy who knows and respect ALL the parameters of this hobby.

Vicki thanks for posting your reply.  I like for the experience with a provider to be mutual.  I take joy in knowing the woman (honestly) enjoyed her time with me, but I'm not one to be asking a lot of questions, I have had several who said that they should be paying me.  Which was a nice compliment and made me want them back.  I think it is a connection at a deeper level that makes being with a provider memorable.  If I wasn't looking for some kind of connection, i would fuck only blow ups.  I don't expect a connection, but it is a nice fringe benefit when I make one.  If the guy is a nice kisser, has nice hands, or does/did something that felt nice/really good, tell him.   I don't expect a provider to prop me up (EGO stroke) just because.   Besides, crutches make my armpits raw and I hate going up a flight of stair with them.   I take it the first time with a guy is the most mental on you, does it get easier with a regular ?  I treat all my providers with respect and I am a nice guys.  Nice guys don't finish last.  I think a lot of men grew up thinking that making a woman cum is the most important thing in sex.  Maybe just some of the guys just want to know that, for once, they made a woman cum.  Personnaly, during role-play, I like to talk dirty and tell her to cum for me, some really get off on that.  Make a guys day, and cum for him.