a provider that I am interested in meeting is asking for the full name and references from a well known provider that I have already seen, she has also requested  a link to her reviews, before she will consider seeing me as a client.
1- is this a typical or an unusual request ?
2- would any provider that I have previously seen feel offended or worse, that I broke a 'trust' by providing her name as a referral source toa 'unknown' ?

What trust did you break to the other provider? She is being used as a reference not being investigated by the CIA. It is for her safety to know that you aren't Ellie or some crazed psycho. I don't understand about her being a referral source to an unknown. A client she has never seen before is also an unknown right? If the provider you had seen before has a problem with it, which I don't see why she would, it would be that she would be angry that you are seeing someone else besides her. That's not a guarantee but I have seen it happen time and time again.

1. This is a common and needed practice for their own safety.
2. You should contact the previous lady and inform her you want to use her as a reference.
She should have no problem with that.

Actually, she should have done some sort of verification on you prior to your get together.

If you are going to play, you will have to play by the rules.

Just my opinion...
B

It is very common to ask for references.  I never get upset when asked for a reference. This is a hobby of DIVERSITY so of cours you are gonna see other providers.  Why should she get offended ?  I prefer that a gent let's me know that they are going to be using me for a reference this way I can be on the lookout for the email and respond quickly.  It is merely a safety issue  Happy Hobbying
Missy

Its probably the least invasive form of screening a provider can do.

trying the use of Date Check. Most girls will care about the safety of other.s And as long as you're not giving up "personal" info, don't mind referrals. But if you find it is an issue for you. My friends have a standing referral at datecheck.com

While I agree that it's an uninvasive way to screen, it's also tough for a newbie or someone like me who's been inactive for a year.  I don't expect the magnificent January of Las Vegas to remember me because it was June of last year when I saw her.  It was April of last year when I saw Chinese Jade and Christine in Pleasant Hill.  How are they supposed to remember me?

It is why providers ask for references..

It's pretty simple

Provider A- have you seen Joe schmoe
Provider B- Yes I have, hes awesome. have a great time !

To ask for the gents form etc is uncalled for... not to mention.. the provider should have deleted it, or gotten rid of it..

I always look for a girls reviews and site if I do not know her.. that isn't unusual.. we just want to make sure "sally in timbuktu  " that you;ve seen, is in fact real..

Thats on the professional side of things..

All girls should be doing this to keep others providers safety at heart and in mind..

Unfortunatly, it doesnt always work that way- Yes, some are offended and insulted..

They fail to remember, this is a hobby, not a marriage . If they were to conduct their business professionally they wouldn't have to worry over losing one session that week..


Your best bet is to join date-check com or RS2000 to get verified by any provider you have seen there. Then you won't have to sweat the small stuff next time you want to see anyone.

if the new provider is not concientious enough to ask for references. If she is willing to take such chances with her safety who is to say she is not taking other chances? My pre screening form on my website clearly requests 3 references along with a working link to their website. I ask for 3 simply because from time to time a lady may not have a chance to get back with me and by providing 3 at the time of initial contact reduces chances that I will be contacting you for more references because somebody did not respond to my email or phone call.
Now on your second question are you refering to the new lady as being unknown as a provider?
Also as far as I know few ladies give their real full name to clients again for safety reasons. If she is asking for full working name that could be because of (here I am just inventing names) take for instance you say Georgia, does that mean Georgia4U, SweetSexyGeorgia, GeorgiaRose or some other Georgia. I am sure you can see how that can be a bit confusing to the lady verifying references.
I will admit I have heard rumors of a few providers whom get their backs up due to a misconception they are loosing business if clients go elsewhere but I think that is a rare case in the real world we inhabit here.

I may be in a small minority but even though I can get glowing references I hate to be forced to give them.  I would rather give a lady enough perosnal information about who I am to convince her that I am not LE than give a reference.

Why do I dislike references?  First, this is supposed to be a discreet meeting.  Why should anybody else know about it.  Second, most providers I have met are not the most prompt at returning messages concerning a meeting with them let alone offering a referral.  It can add at least a week to meeting somebody for a reference.  I usually book ahead but a week delay can be a pain.  Third, I have offered a reference from a well reviewed lady to another lady and been refused just because she didn't like that lady?

I completely understand a need to check a new client out but am at a loss to understand those ladies that won't work out the details for somebody who would rather tell them anything personal, short of financial data, to confirm that they are who they say they are and not LE.  Some times a guy just doesn't want anybody else to know his business.

Ciara described it:  A quick call or email inquiry and it's done.  About 90% of ladies are prompt and cordial.  About 5% never call back and 5% refuse (and usually rudely).  

Eden is relatively new to her current city and tends to travel...so I am pretty sure many established ladies do not know her or even heard of her.  But, it hasn't been too much of a problem, especially if it can be done by email so that her website can be checked by another provider.  

There have been one or two instances of an ATF possibly being bothered by the request.  If that's the case, gentlemen should provide another reference or talk to their ATF prior to getting a call from the provider making the referral request.  Anything to help the process along is appreciated.

Lia
Eden B's PA & Lackey

I have my favorites because they are fun and drama-free. They are always happy to provide me a good reference when I'm out of town and feel the need. But I will always ask them prior to giving their names as a referendce anyway, simply because its the right, and respectful thing to do. Take nothing for granted, and you will find your wishes WILL be granted.
If not, then you're with the wrong lady (or ladies).

Ok my glass is empty, time for a refill. Woohoo!!

she's too damn lazy to do some of the work herself.

Please, all the responses here are correct, but, she can easily take your references (which you should provide for her safety) and look them up on TER or many other places on her own, if she wants to go into it that deep.

It just turns me off when people are flat lazy, male/female alike.

Here's one from yesterday; a poster above talked about January of Las Vegas. Yesterday evening there is an ISO, "anyone  ever seen her" looking for info. This girls got over 120 reviews (not mine did'nt write one), she is in the elite class. This guy is just plain too lazy to look up her name for crying out loud.

By asking for a link to her reviews, she is specifically requesting for a lady that has been reviewed on a site.  This adds to the likelihood the lady may be trusted as a reference.

Just like you gentlemen, sometimes ladies aren't sure someone without reviews is a credible source.  It is easy to put up a page with a few photos and an email.  That doesn't necessarily make you real.  This is also sometimes why you may be asked for another reference or multiple references.

I think she is just doing this for her safety & once that is out of the way, she will feel better about meeting you. I really appreciate the references I have gotten from other ladies. Most get back to me very quickly! It really does make me feel safer. I know alot of people say the way one acts with a lady may not be the same with another, and that is true but I feel references are important nowadays.

I hate when other ladies get jealous about giving their client a reference. Although I must admit, the first time I got approached for one, I was surprised & the tiniest bit jealous, lol (the gent never told me beforehand she would be calling), and he was one of my favs! I gave the reference though. I think it is great us ladies can network to try to stay safe.

It is very polite to let a lady know you will be using her as your reference before you do so.

Sara