Since last Mother's Day, I've been working on a project to get my wife interested in more kink between the sheets. I have been visiting escorts for a few years and last year I decided that while escorts are great, what I'd really like to do is get my wife to be more adventurous, and maybe even willing to experiment with the swinging lifestyle with me. When she's horny, she's a real vixen, but I'm not sure what she would say, if I mentioned my fantasy. I'd love to camcord her getting gang banged and enjoying it.
A year ago I started getting her interested in my porn collection. I said it would help us spice up our sex life. I made her promise that we'd watch a movie every Friday night, whether we wanted to or not, just to see if it helped improve our sex life. We started with some old classics that are quite soft core. Over time, I've introduced more hardcore, moving from softcore to harder classics like 'green door' and to amateur hardcore movies containing some wifeswapping. Over the past couple of months I've increased the intensity including orgy and gangbang movies. Some of the interracial movies seem to have struck a chord, because last month she asked me if I could buy a large 12 inch black dildo for us to play with on Fridays and she really loves it when I ram that baby into her while she's watching an interracial gangbang porn movie. She has other toys but I really think she is getting into it. She suggested that I invite some couples we know around for a party for Mother's Night which she says means a real Mother's party. No kids. Her Mother is taking our 3yo for the night. I've arranged for two other couples to come for dinner, and I took the opportunity to invite two single guys I play basketball with, to come and join us for some drinks and dancing that night. I know that one of them is particularly well hung from seeing him in the changing rooms. I'm not sure if now is the right time to introduce my personal fantasy or even how to do it, but all of the piece parts should be in place if it happens. My wife is hot so there's no question they will desire her, if things lead that way. I think I'm getting close, but I'd like some ideas? Has anyone tried this before? Have you ever accidentally on purpose found a way to introduce swinging into your relationship. I think I need to take the same route as the porn. Starting softly softly, and gradually moving to more hardcore fun. I'm very uncertain. All ideas welcome.
Congratulations on getting your wife to watch porn with you, and now the dildo fantasy. That is a huge step. Be careful with the couples, unless you know they are into swinging. The wives can easily ruin everything. I’m not experienced in this at all, but it seems like you are hopeful, and I would try the following:
Talk with the guys of the other couples, and see if they are interested. If they are, suggest that they be “friendly” with their wives at the party. Getting your wife comfortable making out in front of other people is a good first step, even if it goes no farther than that.
Talk with the single guys, and let them know your fantasy too. Encourage them to flirt with your wife discretely (don’t want to make her uncomfortable in front of the other couples), or more openly if they find themselves alone in the kitchen (hint, hint).
Don’t push it too fast. Going from fantasy to reality is a big step she may never be ready to take.
At your next Friday night date, casually talk about the mom’s day party, and get her thoughts. Mention that you noticed that So and So was flirting with her and must be hot for her. See how she responds, and go from there.
Going slow is a good plan. The first step is to get her to want to f*** the other guy. Step two is getting her to be comfortable sharing that with you, or alternatively getting her in bed alone with the other guy. Encourage the other guy to have an “affair” with your wife, as long as he keeps you in the know. If you know they are banging, then on Friday nights, you can bring up your fantasy (gee what would you think about a 3-way with another guy), and maybe she will suggest the friend. The risk with the alternative is that if she bangs him without you knowing, who else may she be banging.
Man, it seems to me that your wife has opened up a lot in her sexuality. Keep at it and thanks for sharing. You're a lucky man
Thanks for your advice. It was very helpful lsat night. I decided to take it softly softly. I wasn't comfortable telling the other guys what I wanted to do, but I set a nice foundation. I began in the morning. Told my wife that I wanted to buy her some clothes to wear for the party. We went shopping and I guided her towards a revealing low cut white lace blouse and a frilly mini skirt. Also bought some high heel shoes. The blouse was a little see through and she suggested I buy her underwear and I told her I would but I'd prefer her not to wear any.
She thought the idea was naughty. She didn't wear any underwear and took great pleasure flashing me a couple of times during the night. I pretended I wanted her to stop because my permanent erection was embarassing me, because that just made her more naughty. At dinner we brought up the subject of how great it was not to have kids for the night, how it was like old times, wouldn't it be great if there were prom nights for people our age etc etc. The party was good. Drink was flowing. My wife and I got the dancing started and I pulled one of my single friends off of the couch to join my wife while I went for a cigarette with the other single guy. Outside, I told the other single guy that I thought my wife really liked him. I told him that she had not told me directly, but I thought I had overheard her telling one of the other girls that he had a great hard body. He laughed and I told him he should dance with her and get her all wet for my benefit later. It worked out nicely. They danced a lot last night. We put on some slow music and when I danced with my wife, we kissed passionately, and whenever I could, I moved her into a position to give the single guys a glimpse of her ass. I don't know if they saw anything or even realized she was not wearing any underwear but I did notice that they never took their eyes off of her. They both slow danced with her. There was a lot of bumping and grinding too. The other couples were into each other, kissing and feeling each other up a lot on the living room floor while they were dancing. At the end of the night, the single guys wanted to stay and have one more drink for the road as the other couples were leaving but my wife suggested that we all finish up so we could make it to work the next morning. I don't think the other couples noticed very much, other than that we were very friendly with the single guys. As we were saying goodnight to everyone, the single guys held back to leave last, and as we said our goodbyes, my wife kissed them both. They were short kisses but I did notice my wife putting her hand on the well hung guys crotch as she kissed him goodnight. she was laughing when she said something into his ear. As soon as everyone had left, my wife fucked me on the couch.
Sounds like you had a hot time and are making progress. If you are successful, what are your plans to get 2 girls and one guy?
BTW: Since you are shy about telling the other guys, I am more than happy to help you out and be the other guy. It is the least I could do for a fellow hobbyist.
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