TER had a survey where they asked what was most important to you in deciding to visit a provider. To me it's general professionalism (just being reliable). My biggest pet peeve lately are those ladies that say they're available anytime when they don't really mean it. In trying to make an appointment last night, I had a provider ask me when I wanted to meet, and I said I was ready anytime. She then said it was up to me, and I asked if we could do it right now, and then I didn't hear from her for an hour plus. By then, I had soured on the idea, because she couldn't give me a straight answer.  

This made me wonder what was most important to the providers out there? What quality do you want to see in a client above all else?

if she's not hot, who cares?

Because respectfulness entails the entire experience- before, during, and after our time together. It also encompasses communication and action.  

A respectful client-
Reads your website, if you have one  
Contacts you in the appropriate way (if you've specified a protocol on your website or in your ad) and relays pertinent information; within a reasonable time frame of his desired appointment time
Provides screening information without protest
Shows up on time, following proper etiquette and exercising discretion
Respects time, and instead of deliberately overstaying he asks to extend our encounter  
Understands the concept of boundaries, and further recognizes that boundaries are unique to each provider  
Does not attempt to manipulate, coerce, or otherwise force me to do something that we have not agreed to do or that is otherwise unsafe  

A provider can generally tell whether a client is respectful or not by the initial contact.
And most transgressions, outside of the last two, will be explained or made up for by a respectful client.

ladies unless you Spruce up the trl. If you get my drift

Maybe she had another client at the time. Maybe she got busy running errands. Going to the store, shopping, mail a letter. Who knows. After over an hour you couldn't wait? These girls can't always be available on your time frame. You have to give them time to get ready or take care of other things before seeing you. When I set up a session with my current ATF or Massage Girl I text them about a day in advance to let them know I'd like to see them. Sometimes I can see them the same day I text them. Sometimes I can't. Either way I'll wait because I know seeing them is worth the wait.    

The reason that waiting an hour struck me as unprofessional is because we had already agreed on everything and when she asked me when I wanted to meet, I said I was available anytime. She said she could meet me whenever I wanted, I said how about 30 minutes? She hesitated, and I let her know if she needed more time, that was OK. Then.....nothing for another hour. Finally when she got back to me, she changed what we had already agreed to. At no time did she ever tell me what was going on on her end, so I had no idea what was actually going on. I don't think I was at all unreasonable given the totality of the circumstances.

END OF MESSAGE

At the point where an inquirer is sending a companion messages where she is compelled to ask not once but two different times when exactly he's trying to meet, how is it solely her fault that things fizzled out?  

This comes up for me as well. When it is the case that a gent is trying to set up a date a few days or even weeks in advance, I'm totally fine with the fact that some back and forth may be required to pinpoint a specific day and time. But if I state that I'm available for shorter notice appointments and I receive an ambiguous message, it is irksome. (And honestly, it's a reason why a lot of escorts state they are not generally available for short notice bookings.)

What I'm left wondering is did you already pre-screen with her? If not, did you send her screening via a verification site that she makes use of? If not, did you include either provider references or another for of verification that she accepts? If not, how would she have been able to determine if you were even a safe person to see "right now." Or that you weren't some fantasy booker?

Personally, I appreciate when a potential client comes correct from our very first interaction.

Waiting an hour is that big of a deal breaker for you? We'd all like to think that a Provider's Schedule revolves around our time frame. But it doesn't. They do see other clients and have other things to do. If you can't wait an hour for her to respond you better have a plan B provider.

And the OP was interested in a short notice "right now" date.

I agree he was a "bit" ambiguous, but that can be partly chalked up to not wanting to "demand" a date for "right now" Many/most providers react rather negatively to "can you see me right now?" so a "I can see you anytime you want" while ambiguous, is considerate.

I do this kind of thing all the time as almost all my dates are scheduled with in a few hours of our actual meeting time. Here is how I do it.

"Hi, this is GaGambler, I saw your profile on P 411 and I would love to see you.  I know this is short notice and if you can't oblige, I completely understand, but I would love to see you today and I can see you at anytime according to YOUR schedule if you have any availability, Please feel free to check out my profile and okays before getting back to me. and BTW I can come see you right now "if" you are available on such short notice of course. If you can't see me today, I completely understand and maybe we could do it another day that works better for you. Hope to hear from you soon))"

For the record, I rarely do this anywhere else but P 411 where my screening is made easy for the lady, I usually try to contact women with an "available now" ad up, or at the very least providers who are either "online" or have logged in to their account that same day. Contacting a provider who hasn't logged in for a week for a same day appointment is a waste of her time and mine.

I've done this dozens, perhaps hundreds of times and it's rare that I get anything but a positive response, even if that response is "sorry, but I can't do today"

I seriously doubt you tell someone that you're ready whenever they are, and then when they suggest a time, completely disappear for an extended time without explanation after you've come to an agreement on the details.

She asked when I wanted to meet. I responded that I was ready whenever she was.

She then later said it was up to me when we met, and I suggested 30 minutes.

She hesitated, and then I said if she needed more time, let me know. I didn't hear from her for an extended time after that, and this was after everything had been negotiated.

I'm not sure how that qualifies as me being unclear. This wasn't a case where screening was required.

It's likely she was turned off by you wanting to meeting ASAP.  "Anytime" doesn't mean 30 minutes from now.  We aren't pizza delivery service you know.

I just can't stand the emails/texts that say "available". No name, no references just that one word. Which leads directly to delete.

You have to plan ahead of time and let her get ready. To me seeing a provider isn't like going to a fast food drive thru. You get what you want when you want it. It doesn't work like this for a provider. These girls aren't at the ready when you feel like playing. Give them time to get ready.  

"Anytime" would indicate that another hour would be acceptable. Regardless, it's not like she waited three days to get back to you. Maybe she was eating, or taking a shower, or needed a power nap. You can't expect her to scramble to be ready immediately when you had just told her that you could meet "anytime."

and understanding I have a life outside of this world. It's why I don't accept same day meetings. And of course to be respectful and kind.

Steph xoxo

-- Modified on 3/9/2017 1:50:12 PM

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