i always thought i am super straight and never considered romance with another female or even a threesome with a guy and other girl  but a date tonight left me a bit confused  

as i matured, i became more open-minded  

 
it is interesting to me when it comes to men , i am attracted to older super masculine somewhat old-fashioned guys,i do mind if they are chubby or overweight

when it comes to females, i really attracted to somebody my age with a fit body and a college degree

i remember reading reviews of some monger where he mentioned that when he visited dominatrix providers he preferred them to be over 40 but when it came to GFE providers he wanted them young and super fit....

it is, in fact, fascinating....

are there any absolutes? or  the absolutes just made up in our minds that we are sometimes not willing to open?

 

 

 


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... and I don't want to be dominated by women or men.

i luvs me some providers in their 20's.  i luvs spanking their little butts until they sit on my lap and promise to be good girls and then slip down between my legs and...

but, there is a lady on these boards who is far past 20... well into her 40's.  i never look at a woman entertainer that mature.

but her postings have intrigued me so much, that as soon as i recover completely i am going to take her out to dinner and flirt outrageously over our food while feeling up her thigh under the table, then take her back to her incall for some serious tonsil hockey.

and... gender is fluid.  if someone held a gun to my head and said i had to visit with sasha, i'd say put that gun away, sir, i was on my way over there even as we speak!

who knows.  all i know is i'm closer to the grave than the crib, so i might as well enjoy myself with whoever wants to play with me.  you only go around once in this life, and nobody ever said on their death bed "gee, i wish i spent more time at work."

You are who you are. You can see new experiences as change and transformation, or you can see them as discovery an revelation about who you've always been. And the only difference is how you feel about it. Life is totally the sum of your individual experience of it...and even that isn't an absolute.

In other words, relax, enjoy, and good luck.

yes,we already know
girl on girl is hot and accepted by many
guy on guy not so kosher ...what else is new

next...

To have sex with a male or female robot, on one condition...they passionately, deep French kiss.

I like hot women. Hot women of all shapes, sizes and ages.

I have my "types," but I'm more than willing to venture outside those types ... If she is hot.

In fact, I have very recently became good friends with a gal and we sleep with each other. And she does not fit my usual blueprint of mid-20s and hot. She is more like late 30's and HOT.  

But the common denominator is sill the "hot" thing. I realize that is really, really super boring. And that I should instead be fucking midgets or something. But I'm fine being boring.

Today I had an interesting talk with my therapist.  

Me: do you think being a ts is a real thing?  
Him: you asked me this question once before. You seem to want that reassurance.  
Me: I know how I feel and how happy being myself makes me. But I can't prove it.  
Me: do you think we should only be male-female and love someone from the opposite gender?
Him: instead of asking yourself that, why don't you ask yourself this - what has taken so long to people to become so fluid, and why is heterosexual the only type of love that we haven't actively bash like any other type of love?

 
Ficking brilliant. Glad Ure starting to see the light girl. Proud of u kiddo.

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I totally agree with the "hot" label.  However, I say " label" because "hot" can have different criteria for different people.  My criteria  for hot is set.  In shape, 25-35, 5'5- 5'8, lighter on the bust, a little chatty and definitely sense of humor.  Do I stray from that criteria?  Oh hell yes!  I NEED to now and then.  It keeps me honest and on my toes

D.

It can be two or three at a time but I love woman!
This is just my thing and love enjoying my time with them, especially the experience ones. Lol
Also I am into passionate sex with a woman and not into any pain for either one of us.

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next up .... threesome !

She doesn't consider herself bi, just a woman who at times enjoys the intimate company of other women. No interest in living with or having a relationship with another woman. We have a couple of friends that she sexes with at times. Other times we see them and nothing happens.

A fair number of guys take the same view. They may get a BJ, from a guy in an adult book store, but still consider themselves straight.

Human sexuality is complex. At least I get some threesomes and moresomes out of the deal.
 

I think mmf threesomes where the guys are bi are HOT.  I'd love to have both my  male threesome  buddies together.  But one of them is scared of the other.  Lmao wouldn't work  But,  your sexual tastes will evolve with age. What flips your switch today may not 10 years from now.  I used to love being a dominatrix ,  going to swingers clubs and having orgies.  Now I really love romantic dates.  Even in my personal life my cuddle buddy is a gay man (supah hot) &  he is so sweet and romantic.   He is also a cross dresser and does makeup so beautifully. Sadly he is moving to Florida.  😕

physiology, chemistry, psychology, genetics, and who the hell knows what else.

No wonder it confounds people and has done so forever and I suspect will continue to do so.

So, if you're looking for absolutes, try a physics textbook.

Maybe there is a scientific basis for sexual attraction that will be revealed someday (It's not an uncommon theme in sci-fi.) but I sort of hope it is never solved.  It would make life a  lot less interesting.

Until then, all we can do is take surveys and see what people are doing - all we will end up with are the shadows on the wall like at Plato's cave.  (Not to be confused with Plato's Retreat.8o

I don't believe in absolutes. They may exist for us individually but don't across society.  Obvious and in full view, MM and FF.  

You'd think gender fluidity would be same for both sexes, and IRL it may be more so, but MF and MFF seems more fluid in the hobby than MM? At least around here. There are some TS reviews out there, but there's not much TS dialogue on this and my local board.  
Not much MM fuidity around here.  

It's probably because some of my points of reference are based on what is discussed and written on this board and in reviews. Posts like this on MFF are more common, actually 99% more than MMF posts. Is it because men are more uptight or just less interested in exploring gender fluidity? And I'm certain the guys are intrigued by the MFF reviews and prefer them as detailed and graphic as allowed ... lol

I see FF as more natural and fluid than MM. I'm not judging one being more or less natural, it's just how I see it based on my own sexual preferences. I recently turned down a MMF offer from O, BUT, if it was a MFF offer, there'd have been no second thoughts. 😉

It doesn't surprise me that you'd find this a realm you could cross over to fluidly, even with some nervousness/hesitation, or that it might leave you confused. I'd bet most of us would feel the same in a similar situation. It sounds like you enjoyed yourself and your lady friend. AND that doesn't surprise me either. .

We usually do questions ourselves when we step out of the box and out of our comfort zone, regardless of how open we are to it. I do

Having spent time with you, I imagined you'd be fine straddling the line, even if it was only for business purposes ... my question is "has it blurred the lines on the personal side or could it just be infatuation with something you found great pleasure in? Or both?"

I'm confident you'll roll with this and sort it out after you've had some time to look back and reflect on your time spent with your new friend. Selfishly speaking, I'm hoping I get to share that experience with you. Both of you!

there is simply too much we don't know we don't know.

If we took away absolute thinking (especially the "shouldn'ts") life, experience and knowledge  would expand at a phenomenal rate.

Then again, it may be that some of those absolutes are protective measures. Not everything is for everyone.

I would rather look at the world as full of possibilities, and explore them without worries of absolutes and prohibitions created by someone else.

that's exactly what happens here every time you post.  Hmmmm.......

....I stopped trying to figure it out a long time ago. Instead I just "go with my flow", wherever it takes me (hopefully into a hot ladies boudoir!

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I was with men for most of my teens and early twenties, trying to fit a round peg into a square hole (innuendo intended!). Once I came to terms with my lust for women, there was no turning back.  
Although I'm not fond of labels, I would consider myself 99% lesbian (yes there is a 1% male audience out there that can ring my bell, but they are truly unicorns.)

One thing I do believe is that women's sexual fluidity is far more ingrained than it is with men. How much if that is biological and how much if it is socially mandated is unclear.

At least, that's what numerous psychological studies have found.  I also definitely think that women are more fluid with their sexuality than men...go to a bar and watch all the ladies go into the bathroom together...but the men always go by themselves.  And then there's me.  A naked male will send me running, but get a feminine transsexual into the room with me, and I'm ready to suck her cock, swallow her cum, and take it up the ass.  Oh, I should note there's one instance in which I would not run from a naked male.  If a female friend wants to try double penetration, I'm game to be part of the party...as long as the swords don't cross.  After all, how can I expect women to do FFM threesomes with me, if I won't return the favor when they want MMF?

I've posted this before, but it is a great little video blog that I love. It is especially great to pss on to those who might not understand the differences between sexuality and gender identity.  

I personally identify as about 90-95 percent hetero. I love couple play, but it is rare that a solo gal turns me on in the same. way as a most men do. Those moments when a really strong sexual desire for a woman has happened, it's been older women, who are smart and funny.....very similar to what attracts me in men.  

It is fantastic that you are exploring what makes you work, and turns you on. And how wonderful that we live in a time when those explorations are becoming more tolerated and mainstream. We still have a long way to go as society, when it comes to our views on sexuality and gender, but I at least feel hope that we are making strides.

Protect the inheritance.

Maintain power relationships in the tribe.

Increase the herd.

et

By the way, where was that meet and greet?  I think I recall seeing the guy on the left with the dagger

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Sorry, just being a wise ass.  (Philosophy major, you know.8o)

It's kind of funny that some people say that just because a person who enjoys sex occasionally with her own gender couldn't be bi because they don't want to marry them or have an LTR. Sorry - but if you enjoy sex with both genders, relationship or not....YOU ARE BISEXUAL.

Nope I'm in charge... end of the message  

to fornicate is to have sexual intercourse.  Sexual intercourse is the reproductive act - the act of inserting a penis into a vagina..... So... by definition, you CAN only fornicate with females assuming that you are a male.

The rest of it is just good clean fun between folks....  Me - I like fun