So I'm not very receptive when it comes to oral. But for some reason, men love it.  I hate to fake pleasure during my sessions, but if I cut out DATY from the date, I know it feels incomplete. I want to be able to offer a complete experience. Not sure whether or not to mention something or just keep it going.

Sound off, please.

let us have our fun.

part of the reason is because I know that many women are more likely to orgasm from DATY than from intercourse.  Of course, I know that there are exceptions to the rule, and every woman is different, so if you don't like it...I'll find another form of foreplay that I enjoy AND will help you get off.

If you aren't enjoying it at least put on an act.They are paying you for a fantasy.don't lay there like a dead fish.thats the worst thing you could do.Anyone could fake a moan.but with me I don't need to fake because even the slightest touch can get me wet mmmm

Some guys learn to watch a woman's response and will change up what they're doing if she doesn't seem to enjoy it. If you're faking it, then guys won't have reason to change their technique.  

If a guy's DATY isn't doing anything for you at all, then he probably goes down on every women the same, not realizing everyone is different. Don't be afraid to tell him how you like it. If he likes eating your pussy, then he'll accept the instructions on doing it better

...pun intended

I expect the provider to be proficient in DATY, and I like performing it, but it is for my own selfish reasons. It's a huge turn on and really gets me going. If she likes it, fine....but me performing it on her is more for my enjoyment.  

Yeah I'm a selfish bitch  

... the woman enjoys it also.  I never intentionally do something during a date that the lady doesn't enjoy.  And I prefer that providers give me honest responses during our dates.  There's lots of activities I enjoy, so I'm sure we can find some we both like to do. (No, NOT shopping!  LOL)

I know some providers who love DATY and others who prefer soft stroking with fingertips, and/or G-spot stim etc.  Everyone is different.

Some men have great technique but after a few minutes I just am not into anymore. I blame my overuse of vibrators. But, again, I'm unsure whether to mention I'm not into it and shatter  the fantasy or go with it.  
I promise my dates aren't suffering from it but I do feel conflicted because of it. Just thought I'd get some insight.

This is the insight I'm looking for.

and it's been mentioned in my reviews so guys know now. I don't mind receiving DATY and I may moan from some enjoyment but I get off way better and way stronger from other ways. They do it anyway because they enjoy doing it and it's an intimate way to connect with someone.  

I suggest you tell them something like "even though I enjoy it, it doesn't usually get me off, I'm sure we can find other ways to manage that!" or some playful way to say it so you don't have to fake it. And let them do it for a bit, they enjoy it .

So that's half the battle. It's like in baseball , a catcher know how another catcher feels...probably not a good example but fuck it!

Sorry, but I am NOT going to do any research to either prove or disprove this theory.

Shallow pig that I am, even though looks have nothing to do with BCD skills, I enjoy a blow job performed by a hot chick over a fugly every time all other things being equal.

...but my brain is wired much more like a guy's, so I often get the same insight and approach things the same way they would, especially when it comes to this hobby. So I have the best (and sometimes worst) of both worlds!

If you really dislike DATY I would suggest moaning a very little so the guys feel they've done a good job, which is something that I'm guessing 80% of us crave. Then giving your client something else to do that won't make them cum early, another reason I think guys like DATY.  

Something like "Oh, Baby!! That feels so good! Now Please kiss me/suck my nipples/use this toy on me/ put your finger...

BTW, glad you weren't serious about being "outta here" It's good to have different and varied perspectives here.

Did I miss something??

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Didn't even notice. I hate to be repetitive. I probably should have checked.
Buuuuut. . . . shouldn't this be discussed more, anyway?! :'D

And some topics will always be discussed again and again by newcomers who don't know how to do a search, while old-timers get pissed.  Still, it is unusual for a new thread to be started when a prior thread on the same topic is so close to the top of the page.
For the record, I LOVE to eat pussy and would probably enjoy eating yours.  I must go look at your gallery.

of minutes and beg and beg  the guy to fuck you. No guy can resist that.

...maybe you missed the statement about my needing a provider to be proficient in giving DATY.  

Provider GIVING DATY?
Same equipment?
Get it now??

I have seen a couple providers who specified "no DATY" up front and had s good time with both of them...it's your body, if you don't want to engage in an act with a client then don't...

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just blew her mind.  Crickets.  Lol

You may lose some guys, but the ones you get should be okay with not going down on you.

Fucking with you...

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You could just instruct them on how to make you get more pleasure out of DATY.  I have found that most guys don't mind some guidance at all.  After all,  every pussy is different.  
XOXO,  
TL

thank god for that. There are several woman that I've become so intimate, I could do a blind tasting and identify them, or insert my middle finger and recognize the contours of her pussy. I love this kind of familarity.  

Asshole are different until you put you cock in one, but there's not as much going on in there. There's one young lady that can grill a sausage in there, it's that hot. Am I digressing? From the OP, yes, but I'm responding to TL.  

Who knows ...lo

So what. Even though they're both about DATY. They're different questions.  Right? I could talk about DATY all day!  

And for the OP, I basically got into the hobby for 1 reason only. To eat pussy! It's what I love the most! Sure I like fucking, but since I discovered how yummy it is, I'm addicted!! I go thru ads and pictures everyday trying to figure out which pussy I want the most. I'd be devastated if I got to my provider and she told she wasn't that into it.  
So fake! Fake it good!! Come on baby, win an Oscar!!  

#justsayin  

When I was a young single pick-up artist, I found myself for a short time with a girl who was bi.  She had a lesbian friend that she really liked having sex with, too, so her fantasy was a threesome with me and the other girl.  After a little priming with alcohol, we got busy and when the lesbian girl saw me doing DATY, she said, "Let me show you how its done, and proceeded to give me what would become the most important instruction of my entire life!"  This defining moment has evolved into a lifetime of excellent sex with women.  I'm not sure I would have discovered these techniques if left to my own devices.

Now, when a woman tells me, "You eat pussy like a woman", I know it's the best compliment I can get.

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For me, DATY is the whole reason I hire escorts. You would be surprised at how many women I dated in the game who were repulsed by the idea of me going down on them. If the guy is not doing it right for you tell him. The whole reason he is performing DATY is he never gets to do it, and helping him do it right not only makes it more pleasant for you, but for him as well, because he knows he is learning something great. No escort has ever complained about my oral skills, and I know I am doing something, because of certain types of feedback I get from a woman's body.

I am still amazed at the number of guys who go down on paid girls..no offense, paid girls, love ya long time..

At least you wrap your peckers up. Do you really want a taste of where a handful of other guys have been putting their skunky tongues that day and lick something where there could of been more than a handful of random dicks in already that day? like 10 minutes before you got there?? Gross.  

I have seen some of the guys that get busted and know who creeps around certain types of girls...don't want to share anything with them..

and further food for thought.

If the tables were turned and twisted does anyone really think, girls back me up, that a girl would eagerly give you that bbbj if she knew your pecker had been in 5 different girls already that day??

Magic 8 ball says no..

I let them take the lead, but generally most men want too...I love it!  If something is really off like long nails or a hang nail or a biter, I do guide them to stop and try something else or accentuate the skills that I like.  I like the same kind of tutorial...we all are exploring and practicing the craft of sensuality and want to be the best we can be!!

I do feel that there are some men who do not want to do that with providers for a variety of reasons...one man's turn on is anothers turn off.

I enjoy pleasuring my partners. That is why I like DATY, but there is other ways to give pleasure. If DATY doesn't work for you, it don't work for me. I am good at reading body language and if your faking I can often tell and it would be a huge turn off. And if I can't get you there, well, in the end it is about me anyway. and I will still enjoy my time.

But others need to be made to feel like a stud. So it is tricky. I see the conflict. I think you just have to read the guy. It is tricky.