I have a somewhat complex question, I don't know quite how to phrase it correctly so please read between the lines if you deem it necessary. Have any of you established a good friendship with a hobbyist to the point of being friends? What I'm after, is it possible to keep a friendship and also a business relationship separate? If the hobbyist doesn't ask or expect services "off the clock" and respects the providers boundaries is this a situation that is a positive or negative in your opinion? At times the opinions of the participants on the boards seem to be controversial in this field so I am looking forward to all responses concerning this.

You can never have too many friends in this business. I have a small handful and I cherish each an every single one of them.

You suck on their filthy, cootie* infested members, and WITHOUT the condom no less, and then you want to be friends with them afterwards? And don't even charge them extra for your time????EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!

I am not sure what's worse, sucking those same cootie infested members, or actually having a relationship with them for FREE!!! What kind of prostitute are you? An unprofessional one!

SKANKSKANKSKANKSKANKSKANKSKANK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You'd never ever be a classy lady, like all those girls on TBD, like myself.



*actually, I had something more graphic and explicit in mind than "cootie" but it would be too Islamic sounding, and hence politically too incorrect for this board.

It appears you have no idea what the subject matter is in this post,your response has no bearing on the questions at hand. Maybe you should go back and check to be sure this is where you intended to voice these opinions. I definitely wasn't looking for this kind of feedback - not very tasteful and obviously you don't understand the questions - Too bad. One should always think before speaking to save embarrassment.

it can get sticky. As Slimroot (?) (I forgot now who) has attested to, it can work out very well.

For me, I think it would be easier to simply maintain the friendship, and let the business side part go away. After all, friendship is more important, imo.

There are a handful of ladies that I would consider friends, and hope they do me as well.

We stay in touch and keep up on each other's lives.  

There is still a business portion to it (I love dating them so much) AND I value them as people, find them interesting and care about them.

I have a pretty easy time maintaining boundaries between "Elise" and the person that I am in life, however I don't really like to do both to a guy.

There are so many great ladies in San Diego to date, that if we click as friends, you might as well take up dating the others and we can just keep it platonic.

xoxo
Elise

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But this is something I'd someday like to address seriously.

/Zin

for being outside of posting boundaries (i.e., just plain rude). There is nothing revealed in it that is redeeming.

Just as I thought I'm sad to say, once again it appears that the post that has no bearing what so ever and is quite insulting is the focus of most. I was truly hoping for the women to step in and enlighten me with their truthful opinions, so far only a couple have responded that understand what I'm seeking and thank you both.

Maybe you should go back to TBD where you belong! We are All classy ladies here and show respect for each other! Please, go back to where you belong, (the trailer park) we don't need your BS here.






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Was I the only one who thought that was tongue in cheek?

I tended to think it was, due to the taunting, childish word-choice, but I could be wrong.

/Zin

some things just weren't 'joke' material. So, no..not funny at all, joke or not.

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There is a saying that goes "better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought of as a fool, then to open it and remove all doubt". I think that may apply somewhere on this thread.

But back to your question, I have been seeing two providers for well over five years, and we are very close friends. This does require a maturity that appreciates that this is a business first and foremost. We do not call each other or go out anywhere, but we do exchange quite a few e-mails. They are both married and I am a widower, so I think they use me to get a male perspective and also as a sounding board when they are having personal issues.

I have never interfered with their business, and our friendship has blossomed over the years. This takes a lot of mutual respect and admiration. I don't need anything from them other than what I pay for, and they don't need anything from me other than honesty and respect.

(and that may be..), but I see that you are an Aussie (?), so that makes sense.

Cooties were Cootie Bugs, a game (see link); later became associated with 'germs', or 'creeps' as in: "He gives me the cooties". Just slang.

This reminded me of Carrie_of_London's innocently unaware question
regarding the term "coochie".

See link to Carrie's post:

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=56544&boardID=12&page=

Here we have 2 quite confident women, wordly wise in many aspects of life (one Aussie, one Brit) who just happened to get tripped up by a bit of American slang usage that results in a rather precious, if fleeting innocence. Can't help but make you smile.

I'm sure they are well versed in many ways to make us smile.

That Aussie/Brit accent alone does it for me

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Why hide behind an alias?

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I have made some great friends in this business, and it is possible to keep biz and friendship separate.  You're on a date, or not.

While I don't technically do "off the clock" time, I do offer significant discounts to my friends who want to mix biz and pleasure, of course - provided the social is something I want to do.  Ex., tomorrow I will be going to a winery case sale with a friend post-appointment.  Total = about six hours.  I expect three to be going to and at the winery... charge for slightly less than four hours, plus two cases of wine.  ; )

"If the hobbyist doesn't ask or expect services "off the clock" and respects the providers boundaries"
ALWAYS POSITIVE and nothing less should be expected!

This is so obviously a joke (labeled as such, from the handle to the faux rant)I am having a hard time believing so many otherwise intelligent people bit on this. Then again, JCBJP got Nikki Avalon good on the Vegas board a couple of months back.

The LA folks have some inside intel on the parody, so we may be at an advantage here. It's a patent and if I may add, very funny impression of a well known name here, who has prided herself on being the professional girl's professional girl over the last 20 years. I got it instantly and I think SULLY did too. Still it's a little frightening to consider that surely Staff and GND have seen this post and it still stands and y'all think something is the matter.



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it meant, specifically, lice.

in fact, there's one that I've never had a session with, in fact never even met.  We're just email buddies, and confide in each other.

For me yes it is possible. I have over the past several months since starting up in this profession met several gentlemen that I have developed friendships with. In some cases we have never hobbied together and in others we have and still do. In the former there are some whom the only reason we have yet to hobby together is in part due to locations etc. In cases of the latter (which I suspect is clossest to the type relationship you are curious about) we chat on net, talk on phone, from time to time may get together for dinner, movie, etc as friends. And on a sepperate basis if he wishes to schedule a session then we do so and for the most part everything is as with any other session so far as donations etc.
I rather suspect your asking this question may have a bit to do with you either already having or wishing to have such with a provider you know, if I am correct, the best bet is ask her how she feels about such a mixing and how it should be treated.

They were kinda spooky.  Black bodies and weird heads.  The dog kept taking them outside and we'd lose the legs.