I try to plan any possible encounters several months in advance after doing a lot of research but there is something that always bothers me. If I make the arrangements (travel, motel, etc) for an overnight visit, (which is what I prefer) how do you politely ask the provider if that is a bad time of the month for her. Just wondering, how does one broach this personal subject without being too specific. After all, we are paying for companionship but we all know where we hope it leads. Nothing would be more disappointing than to end up with just that when we hoped for more. Providers comments would be appreciated.
it is a fact of life and well for some reason, people get nervous about periods and such....we are all grown ups.
When contacting the lady, just ask!!
Shaye
Word it nicely as you have done here and the provider should have no problem with your concern.
BTW- There are ways a woman and a man can procede as usual
(even DATY)during this time. It is all up to the participants and their personal/spiritual/cultural views of it.
You and your fiancee plan an elaborate wedding and honeymoon many months in advance. You book a honeymoon suite in the Poconos or wherever, again months and months ahead of time. And when you get there, guess what? You never hear about this sort of thing, however.
The solution is totally different, depending on whether you're with a significant other or a provider (or a civilian you don't know well.) In the former case, I say go for it anyway; I've done this in the past with my ex. I'd draw the line at DATY, however.
With a provider, of course, you have to be more careful with blood contact. You might want to settle for BBBJ or Russian.
If you are checking out a particular ladies website, see if she has a calendar link. If so, check it out over the course of a few months and see if any patterns emerge.
For example: you scroll back through the last 5 months and notice she always works weeks 1,2,and 4 but takes off the 3rd week EVERY month... well then I think you can make a pretty safe guess.
Of course all women are different. Some are like clockwork and some probably have some minor fluctuation from month to month... but if they have a calendar link, it might give you at least a ballpark figure to work around.
Cheers!
there are tricks to avoid this probolem...surprized me when i was told how