heels and or stilettos?

Here's why I ask....

I had been swimming competitively since the age of 10. When I got into high school I played basketball and volleyball. Later I got a full ride to a Division 1 school to play basketball. In college I dislocated my left knee twice, had several ankle injuries, and so on and so on.

I'm 5ft 11in. I like to wear heels, but only because I love the way they look. They are sexy. I will even wear a heel up to 4 inches. Yet, my left ankle just can't handle the pressure sometimes. Because I grew up participating in athletics, I don't like to bring this fact up to my clients and just put my game face on and deal with it.

Am I over thinking it or do I just need to keep doing what I've been doing and just deal with it?
Do you want to see your provider in heels whether you're coming to an incall or going out for dinner?

I ask this question because personally, I am one of those people that love to wear heels but can't be in them for long periods of time.

If the provider WANTS to wear stilettos / high heels because she enjoys doing it, great. But I never request it.

I confess I do like the way they look, or rather the way they make the lady wearing them look, but it's not even that big a deal to me going out for the evening, much less BCD.

Now OTOH, I know it is VERY important to some guys, many guys insist that a lady never take off her heels even when between the sheets, but I am just not one of those guys. Each to their own I suppose.

Hell, put heels on you and you end up being taller than most guys and, let's face it, a lot of guys can also be sensitive about appearing shorter than the woman.    

Anyway, to some guys it is important while others could care less.  There is no reason to put yourself through that with the guys who don't care either way, ask so that you know and I bet that at least half the time you will not have to wear them.   There is a reason somebody invented those torture devices, it makes the legs and the rump look very nice, but as far as I am concerned, natural is great.

I confess, I love to wear them in bed too.  

Thanks Harry! I guess I should just stop telling myself to suck it up (no pun intended) LMAO...and just ask. Unfortunately, I have a bad habit of pushing myself with the idea of it's my mind that is being weak and not my body. I need to remember that this isn't a sport and I'm no longer an athlete.  
 

I had a hurt ankle once and didn't bother with heels during that time.  I did, however, make sure the rest of the look suited the alternatives.  For example, I'd wear a simple silk slip or robe or lingerie when barefoot instead of a glam dress that would look awkward without heels.

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Thank you. Good idea.

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...and specically request bare feet.

W loves to walk around in bare feet and I cringe thinking about the shit that is ending up in and on the bed.  OTOH, I don't give it a second thought to the fact that the dogs are walking around all over the bed and putting their asses on my pillow.  I wish I had a rational mind....

I do like the look of a woman's foot, OK really, I like pretty much everything, and FWIW, even without taking the heels into account, women's shoes just look uncomfortable as hell.

I love the shape and form of a woman. Heels, hose and nicely fitting lingerie just enhance everything visually for me. When I walk into a room and a provider is wearing a nice lingerie set with heels I do nothing but smile and compliment them because they look STUNNING! It is all part of the package for me and I can tell you I am disappointed when it does not happen.

If I wanted a casual hookup I would pick up the girl at the bar wearing flip flops and shorts.

I'm one who loves the sexy look of heels, but I would never want my date to wear them if they're that uncomfortable. I recently had a dinner date with an ATF who apologized for wearing low heels, explaining about a recent injury. I was very glad that she had some flats with her and asked her to change, and of course, she still looked gorgeous!

The advice to ask your date is good. As you're seeing here, a lot of guys don't care, and of those that do, I'm sure most would rather you be comfortable. One of my hobby maxims is that the more my date is comfortable/enjoying herself, the better time I'm going to have!

If the lady I am seeing likes wearing heels and thinks they compliment the outfit then I am game.  If she wants to go bear foot and I also game.  There have been a few times where I have requested a lady wear thigh high boots for a certain look. Granted they didn't stay on long...lol

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look good.

There are tons of gorgeous shoes that have one inch heels. One inch lift in the back is good for your back, actually.  

Just deck up the shoe style to something more sassy and feminine in place of the height. At your height, you could pull that off. And I do that even at 5'4".

I haven't had anyone complain, except for the fact that I don't wear boots. I need to go buy some boots.

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Or at a later date before you show up.

Not all hookers want to wear heels and lingerie and if that is a must, you need to ask for it up front. She can either decline or accept.  

I am all for getting what you need but hookers are not mind readers.  

And not all hookers are comfortable wearing that type of outfit, regardless of the money.

....and will request her to wear them if I want a lap dance or two to begin our session. She would only have them on for a few minutes. I would hope that if there were any issues, either physical or otherwise, that would prevent her from obliging my request that she'd tell me during our contact prior to meeting. I would understand completely and it would never be a deal breaker if she were reluctant or unable to wear them.

As you say yourself heels are sexy and it's always great to see a lady who makes an effort with her dress, including heels, but if it's a problem you should definitely say so.

Especially if it's someone you're seeing more than once they should accept it if you say you'd prefer not to wear heels because they're uncomfortable, I can't imagine why it would be a problem.

While I'm probably average height my favourite provider is very petite so it's great to see her in a pair of heels, plus she always wears great stockings, suspenders and the full range of vintage underwear so the heels top everything off nicely.

Maybe you've already come up with the solution in your last sentence, maybe wear the heels at the start of your meeting but as you both relax it's perfectly acceptable to say that you want to take them off because you're uncomfortable, just casually bring it up as you both relax in each others company and let the evening unfold from there

I am not a heel person. How a provider is dressed all depends on the situation and my mood, but heel are not very important that she wears heels.

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I find that pump, strap style regular sole heels make a woman's legs look especially gorgeous and I find that look to be spectacular when coupled with a short sexy dress. The platform style heels do not have the same effect in my view and I certainly understand how some woman might find platform styles most uncomfortable. I specifically request regular sole heels be worn by my "dates" and have always been pleasantly accommodated as my "dates" have always looked stunning and sexy.

I HATE platform shoes, but classy heels are a great addition.  However, if they are uncomfortable for you, find a work-around.  With your height, you don't need 4" more.  I also like a barefoot look.

I am good either way.  I think women are very sexy in stilettos and or heels.  However during a session I do not really notice the foot wear.

LOL...still, it was good to hear from you. It always is. You have a great, helpful, personality.

Cool beans...I like that.

Good sound advice. I like it and agree with it. Thank you.

Short dress, long legs, heels....I totally agree with you. I love this look as well.

Cool beans. My type of guy. LOL

Charming and considerate. I like that. Thank you for your advice. Have an awesome day.

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And be greeted warmly. I could care less if you're wearing heels or not.

Country Girl...I have one pair of heels and I can only stand and look pretty in them LOL Walking is outa the question

Not important at all. Also, I'm 5'8" so a lady in heels usually towers over me. Ha

Sorry for the horrible grammar and weird sentence structure lately. I honestly do not know why it has gone through such a decline. All I know is I am not drunk and I do not wish to be know as the scribe of the last few posts I have put on here. LOL.

LOL...that's awesome. I can totally relate.  

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I like for the girls to be comfortable in the dress. I honestly don't mind Jeans and a nice blouse.
Of course ,if I'm out of town and she want something fancy for dinner, the best I'll give her is a nice pair of wool slacks, great long sleeved shirt and a Sport Coat.
NOTIES PLEASE for me.

It isn't a big deal to me whether she does or doesn't. My ATF is a very into high-end shoes, but she usually greets me barefoot in a towel, and we go out as often with her in flats or even sneakers as with her in fashionable heels.  

The variety is nice, but I really prefer to she her in the footwear that makes her feel good (physically or psychologically) at that moment.

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That just makes sense ... we are the fantasy. I am not comfortable in heels for very long, either,(and I, too am tall, so heels can make me look too tall) but usually, one doesn't spend more than 5 minutes STANDING in them, if you know what I mean...

If we are going out to dinner or some sort of special event where we need to dress-up a bit, then heels are likely appropriate -- unless they are too uncomfortable for you to wear.  All things being equal, I would prefer that my date be comfortable.  If that entails jeans and a nice blouse, that it great.  If it means a skirt and flats, that is also fine.  If she loves to look taller and always wears heels, that is fine too.  If she wants to wear heels, but decides to throw a pair of flats in her bag just in case, that is also fine.  But since you are already taller than 98% of other ladies and likely even most men, I seriously doubt if most guys would care... and many might likely prefer that you not wear heels.

 
(But, as I like tall ladies, I must admit that I'm noW intrigued based upon your introduction...)  

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Hey Mikey...

Thanks for responding. You stated that you are "not intrigued based upon my introduction"...I'm sorry I'm not understanding. May I ask what was wrong with my introduction...I was only being honest. However, I'm curious to hear what you have to say. Thanks again, Maxine

I meant "now"... instead of "not"  OOPS, sorry about that!  

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Otherwise, go ahead and wear them (or not) at your discretion.

LMAO!!!!! ok thanks Mikey. That was really funny. Thanks for starting my day off with a smile. Enjoy your day as well. -Maxine

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I don't expect her to be wearing either for long, so it's no biggie to me.

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There are many orthopedic options for ankle breakers.
Still, think of the long term.
You have height, so doubt anyone will say much