It's going to be an awfully crazy question. It's simply one of the ghosts that haunts me from the past . Just wanted to get mens opinions mostly.
Long story short. Had an S/o a long time ago, that hated my vibrator. ( LOL ) . I love her and shes my friend. She is gold and I named her Goldy. I know.. very original. When I would take it out for extra fun, he'd get very insecure, asking me, " I dont please you enough ? You need props in the bedroom ? " . Of course it wasnt at all so.
I love for Goldy to be a part of my sessions at times. I know. What a wild gal Ciara is ! hahahaha... Simply a vibrator. Big deal. You are right, it isn't a big deal at all. Or is it ?
Do men feel inadequate if a woman, in this sense, a provider, If Goldy were to come along for the ride. Is it an insult to men ?
An insult...please...I'll buy the batteries for you. I'm all for whatever it takes to get me off with the least amount of work on my behalf as possible.
Sometimes I'm too lazy to masterbate so I sit there naked and just stare at it trying to do some kind of telekentic masterbation. Hasn't worked yet all I've ever done is give myself a migrain.
So bring on Goldy, Pinky, Stinky and Louie for all I care.
...if Goldy is bigger than Little Lex, I'm not quite sure there'd be room for everybody. 
I've got one thats worse. I have seen a couple of
providers who insisted on inserting their finger
and masturbating while we were having sex. I never
knew exactly how to take this. Any thoughts?
My impression is that many hobbyists enjoy watching providers reach orgasm. I know at least one popular provider who carried a pocket rocket as "insurance" and her clients loved her. Perhaps there are some guys who are bothered by a provider pleasuring herself; you may be able to figure out who those guys by getting to know them and/or just asking them.
Personally, I enjoy getting to know a woman and having the opportunity to excite her to orgasm through DATY, etc. If the woman enjoys participating in that process with her own equipment, her own hand, etc. -- hey, it's a free country!
Ultimately, IMO, this is all about communication.
I had a SO, who was pleasing in every way...I only brought out my purple/water proof one once! It didn't go over well with him, we'll say. As he's funner, I have no idea where the darned thing went-or him in the end hahahahaha!!
lol
i get off on the pleasure that the woman is getting so what ever gives you pleasure go for it. i do draw the line at lex's Llama.
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You can bring Goldy to Chicago anytime you like!
And helping them. I bring vibrators to the sessions. In many of them, the vibrator action cums first. In the last one, we started with two simultaneiously, on her I mean. One on her clit, one deep inside her pussy. Since then, I've been wondering what might occur with three.
For me, it actually relieves performance anxiety, too. On the times I've had hydraulics failure with my natural equipment, at least I know she's satisfied, and I could enjoy the memory of the encounter later, when my cock is less fickle.
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If you DIDN'T bring it. Hell, throw in Lex's llamas. We're gonna have a party...woo-hoo.
I like when the woman brings toys. Unlike most guys, it gets my engine going when I know shes getting off too, and if toys help, bring em on.
I don't mind, so long as she comes to NYC. 
liked hers so much it had a dead man switch on it!!
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...vibrating anal love beads!
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Yes there are guys that don't feel like a "man" if their partner isn't enough for the lady.
On the other hand, I would love to have a room full of toys. If my wife was more adventerous, I'd buy a Sybian and a f***ing machine. I think it is so hot watchin a woman squirm in delight and having a big O, especially when she grabs me and burries my face in her chest as she screams in ecstacy.
As long as I get to make full use of my hands and mouth too.
Oh, darn. She was asking the *men*. Well, you know the girls don't mind, Ciara.
Thanks for all the comments everyone !
Some of the answers made me giggle..
But it really helps me decide..
As for talking to them about it..Pffff.
Surprises are more fun.
And yes girlindc, you are correct LOL!
When the toy comes out, it’s a “party for two”...
She includes me in all the joy, one hand holding both her nipples, the other with a finger gentle stroking her G-spot and the real clincher...my cock in her mouth.
Kind of like playing the game Twister, except in this game everyone wins...
SM
you say the following.
1. oh shit it looks like i, going to need this!
2. we've got another 57 minutes... do you mind?
3. do you mind if I run out for a moment, my batteries are dead and I cant start the session w/o them.
4. I need a few minutes alone with goldy, can you wait out in the hall? (at least let me sit in the closet and let me look at your toe and pretend its a client)
5. whoops! I can't seem to find it here!
Besides that! hell yea, bring it out. let me use it one you!
you do it for yourself.
Whatever you want!
The problem is the question "Do men feel inadequate if a woman, in this sense, a provider, If Goldy were to come along for the ride. Is it an insult to men?" Obviously the answer is that some men are bothered by it and some are not--just like some women don't like porn or giving BJs or anal or whatever. Personally, I don't care either way but if someone pulled out a vibrator all of a sudden on a first date I might feel a bit disconcerted and unsure of what she intended to do with it. Generaly, getting kinky is a bit dangerous when the other side does not know what is coming. If you are providing for someone with a special request, no problem. If you have an SO that you are comfortable with and you know he likes to experiment, also no problem. If it comes completely out of the blue, though, you risk turning the other person off. There is nothing wrong with you getting off any way that you please, but if it turns off the other for whatever reason then it would be time to move on and find someone more compatible.