.What do you take it to mean if a potential client says he "wants to party"? Or what do you guys mean if you say it?
I always assume it means he wants to take drugs and therefore I turn down the booking.
When I first started providing I saw a guy who took lots of cocaine during our 3 hour appointment. He became somewhat aggressive when I got ready to leave even though I was well over time. It scared the hell out of me. I've never knowingly seen a client since then who takes hard drugs. I've had one or two who smoke dope but I reckon they are not a threat to my safety.
It always seems to be assumed providers are the ones who take drugs but the guys certainly do too.
I have never told a provider that I want to "party."
But my definition of party would basically be having a "good time" which is my full intent when seeing a provider. I.e. enjoying a drink or two and each other's company, maybe soaking in the hot tub, exchanging massages and getting kinky.
The only time I drink alcohol with a provider is during a dinner date and at most a drink or two. I don't do incall appointments and hardly ever have alcohol at my location unless a provider decides to bring some.
I am probably the exception to the rule but am also lucky that I grew up in a clean family. Social drinking is the norm and I have also never smoked a cigarette in my life let alone do dope and hard coke.
In that regard, I would not want to see a provider who is high on drugs or comes to an appointment with the intent of doing drugs. Simply not my idea of having a "good time."
On a second thought, at least here in the U.S. it is still illegal (simple misdemeanor) in most states to be in possession of even a minimal amount of hard drugs. Why make yourself more vulnerable to getting busted by giving hotel security or the guests next door reason to be nosy.
Carrie, I know you are a professional provider and would not engage in such behavior, but for the providers out there who do - it is food for thought!
to dress up in silly paper hats and blow on noise makers and eat cake and ice cream.
I guess I should have taken up more offers to go to parties back in high school.
Seriously, do people still use the term?
It sounds so '70's.
"party" so has the ring of the 1970s to it.
And if a hobbyist says, "I want to party and boggie down..." well, draw your ouwn conclusions.
I see that term on newyork's CL all the time.
I once had a client ask me "do you party" and I immediately ended our conversation.
Not interested in getting drugged up at all.
the only partying i want to...is on New Year's Eve...
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As someone who deals with clubs and bars for a living I can tell you that if someone "wants to party" they are looking to use hard drugs (usually cocaine) at least in my line of work.
I always thought that was a reference to old streetwalkers slang. They would use "Do you want to party" as a, mostly ineffective, throwoff for LE.
Providers or clients, who then end up being exposed to drugs or alcohol during a session. The invitation to lapse is going to be there.
But many providers will say specifically on their website, no drugs.
About partying: I have heard the term used for "wild, uninhibited sex" but that's rare, I'd say, and not worth the presumption.
I used to work for a service a few years ago and all the late night calls they'd give me would invariably be some crackhead. I would just walk out without the money. I personally don't do drugs, although I don't mind if you smoke weed. I smell that in the clubs and bars in L.A. all the time- no biggie. However, if you are trying to chop up lines of blow or shoot up or smoke crack or something, I'm really out the door. I don't personally want to be around it and no amount of money is worth me being in that environment.