guys and gals,

 
what do you think about using words like "hun" "babe" etc when trying to book a date with a provider you have never met before or corresponding with a client who is trying to book a date

does it help to break the ice?is it annoying?unprofessional?does it matter?

since escalade has been quite, i am gonna steal his catch phrase  

"Thoughts, if any?

better than getting the name wrong!

Really I don't mind/it doesn't matter, but you would get bonus pints by using my real name (or at least the one I provide to you). I rarely use a provider's name when we're actually talking during a date. It just feels weird because I know it's a fake name. If it's someone I continue to see, I'll ask her really name or what her friends call her, or I'll give her a nickname.

This is not a law firm or a court room  
where you have to sir me or I have to call a girl Madame.  

This is a fantasy ,  
When I see a girl to whom I will be  taking my shorts off to ,  
I want to feel comfortable with her.  
I always call them baby , honey , my love,  I give them complements and they  
all respond with the same kindness. This for sure is a form of an ice breaker , I think.
But I don't think there is anything wrong with being kind and flirty  to a provider.
It never failed me yet.  

I will keep on calling you beautiful babies , babes , honeys , love angels etc.  
Shit !!! It turns me on

As to your question, I'm not wild about "hun" or "babe" but they are just throat-clearing terms and there's nothing really wrong with them.

My soon to meet up "date" did use the lingo "my love," which I thought was cute.  (Do people still say that, like the old days, in those British shows where the local tramp/damsel goes 'Hi Love!')

IMO, I think it's fine, as long as the speaker feels natural saying it without being so forced about it and the receiver understands it's part of the "business."  (friendliness and politeness goes long both ways me thinketh).

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I find it strange when myself and a provider refer to each other with enduring sweet names like "sweetheart" or "honey" at first contact.

That being said, I use those terms all the time in my day to day life with women I see in my regular existence.
Example: I often call the lady at the grocery store checkout "Hon" or "Sweetie"
I don't mean anything by it but just my way of say hi.

I think this come with being older

I generally stick with their name, as given to me. After that I often use other words, but that is what I do with all of my friends IRL too. It's just part of how I communicate naturally. There only time there may be an exception to this, is if I've been writing someone for a longer period of time before we meet in person. Then I may switch to something softer, especially if they do first.

names like "honey" and "babe" in correspondence with guys you like, then I think you should also not be shy about using terms like "asshole", "dickwad", and "douche" when those terms appropriately describe your feeling about the person you are talking to.  

With that said, it seems grossly insincere and condescending to call someone "honey" until you have had sex with them, unless you work in a greasy-spoon diner.  After that, call me anything you want, just don't call me late for DATY.

I like when clients keep it professional until they have met me because it seems insincere when you are already calling me by endearing names and haven't even met me.  
but after we have met and established a friendship feel free to call me anything you'd like LOL

and have an established connection then I will use "Hun" or "babe" with prior approval.  If not, then I use "Ms. ----".

has always bothered me... I expect a waitress in an IHOP to call me Hun..

Not ever.

I had one girl call me handsome before we meet. Now how did she know if I was or not.  

Don't care for it, I am not your hun sweetheart, babe, etc. Just some guy that is looking to pay you for your time to come and see me.  

That being said I will put up with it because it is part of the business.

I would never use them setting up a date but do not mind them coming back at me...sort of depends on whether the emails are chatty or terse. The weird thing is the hobbiest has at least an image of the provider (albeit it could be the blurred face image) whereas the provider has no idea about the guy.

I often times use "Fabulous" when first getting to know a provider. Y'all owe me a beer if you start using it now.

...babe, honey, or baby, so I certainly won't call a potential client any of those terms of endearment on our first correspondence. I also don't consider it as a good way to break the ice; it just sounds stilted and fake. Getting more comfortable with each other is mainly done in person.

Once we are friends, and it's apparent that there's an ongoing relationship, this is not only OK, but expected.  Not before or unless, except maybe while we're together in session.

But I am not a fan of people that don't know me using terms of endearment like "hun". But I just shrug it off. It also seems a bit unprofessional but if your punctuality is professional and you are as advertised your professional enough for me. Again it is not a big deal and in no way a deal killer.

I prefer to keep it professional when making contact. If I reach out to make contact using your name and sign it with my name and your response is "sure Babe I can see you". I tend to think there won't be a very good connection.

It can only mean one thing...
You are the hottest man alive!!
You're my hunny bunny! My lamby whamy my sugar baby

Babe I can deal with but honey or sweetheart sound like something my mom or grandmother would say so no on that.

Hun is the South Jersey dinner-waitess-speak singular form of "yous". Hate the word, if you can even call it a word.

I am very impressed when a first time meet is arranged with professional correspondence. Words like hun and babe (and cheri in french) when we have not met comes through as being insincere and manipulative. You can still communicate affection with terms like 'I am looking forward to getting to know you'.  

When I met my current ATF I was so impressed with her emails that I changed our first booking from 3 hours to 8 a few days before the appointment, and thankfully she was available. She did not mention any of those terms and her writing was very professional, but without being dry. Its an art.

I think it's fine to use them as an icebreaker.  If you get together, and there's no chemistry, you simply never see that person again, and your terms of endearment will be used on those who actually matter to you in the end.

...all the time in my everyday life, so I also use it when I'm corresponding with clients, especially my regulars. We have connections, and to me, those little terms of endearment seem appropriate and comforting.

When I get inquires from potentials, if they've written a nice, little intro, I will usually return with something like, "Hey Jim. That was a lovely intro. Thank you, doll....blah blah blah."

I've never had anyone tell me not to refer to them in such a manner.
Heck...I have one client whom I address as "beard boy" and he calls me "dork".
It's fun and makes it just that much more personal, to me, and that's how I like to operate.

When guys call me 'baby' or 'sweetie' I get turned off.  

It comes across like they don't see me as a person, and don't consider me a professional.... (I mean, does he call his female doctor/accountant/etc. 'Sweetie??)

It also makes me think that they expect (and kind of want) me to play the role of a bimbo.  

I guess that's partly due to growing up in the NYC area. I mean... go ahead and say 'YO!', 'Dude!', 'Hey, you!' Even give me the finger. But I totally bristle at 'honey,' 'babe,' and 'sweetie.' Just... ick

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I personally get sketched out by strangers using terms of endearment with me, new clients included. I've only had creepy old men do it to me in real life and it just feels...unnerving.

As it pertains to me, I think it sounds insincere. Even with clients, our connection is still going to be based on our natural chemistry - which I can't develop until we've actually met. Idk. I just prefer to call people by their names.

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