Well, it was bound to happen.  Last night I meet a lady and we just failed to click.  Things were off from the moment we "met" during a phone call prior to my going to her room.  I wrote a review, but have since removed the content before it was approved, because while I tried to be as positive as possible, I don't think it was really fair to her.  This is a provider with lots of great reviews, so it seems pretty clear that the problem was me not "getting" her style.  The whole experience bordered on the surreal.

because you're not like everyone else and you should have "clicked" with the popular girl?
Your paid entertainment did not entertain you.

From Love and Death (I paraphrase.):

Don't worry, they have a pill for that. Hell, they have a pill for everything these days.  

A mention in reviews of things feeling off does not always need to assign blame. Sometimes the culprit is not so much the client or provider, but rather a stack of glowing reviews from those who did click and the silence from the ones who, like you, did not click. If you feel she did her job with integrity, but there just wasn't a connection, stating just that in the review directly or implicitly is perfectly fair and probably more helpful than omitting it.

but I would have said it too if I thought of it before you.  Lol

from the perspective of the customer.  We all know that.  Saying what happened to make it a bit off is not hurting her unless you're blaming her.  We all have certain expectations going in, and oftentimes, a particular provider's style doesn't meet our expectations.  If you give the facts of what happened and why it didn't meet your expectations, your review is still valuable to other hobbyists who may have similar expectations to yours that would make her a pass, and on the other hand may encourage others who have different expectations that yours, or like the way she runs her session from the description in your review, to run and see her.  

Do you guys go in assuming how the session should go and how the provider should act? Then when she doesn't meet your expectations you don't "Click?" When I see a provider for the first time after reading her reviews I generally expect things to go in a enjoyable way. I've never had an issue or problem meeting a provider that wasn't nice to me. If you want to be treated nice you have to be nice to her. This "We Didn't Click" thing is something I'll never understand. What the Hell are you guys expecting?  

... I don't think it's fair to ding the provider just because the reviewer didn't feel a connection.  Not that the OP was going to do that, but I've seen it happen. Recently for example I read a review where the guy raved about the provider's sensuality, looks, kissing, BJ ("best ever"), even that she gave him the best massage he'd ever had.  And he gave her 5 for performance, because he said he didn't feel a "connection."  (Which btw was more than 3 points under her average score.). I think that's pretty harsh.

I would agree with that. Too cryptic can also be very damning. The OP's last sentence would leave me wondering what all happened if I saw that in a review.

Say what?

that's just Fancy8888 being Fancy8888. don't worry

I've taken my current provider out to dinner a few times. Just dinner. No playing before or after dinner. I paid for dinner. She never charged me extra to have dinner with me. I just asked her out and she went with me. Now if this isn't "Clicking" then I don't know what is.

There sometimes exists a certain physical or sexual energy that occurs on its own. You can't really force it. Some.women I've met have been wonderful, but on occasion you meet  one and the energy is there and WOW, it's an awesome time for both.

I'm a sucker for it all the time.

Is why I'm in the hobby, and the sugar bowl.  

Accommodated my time request only because the first time we met was electric. So when she my contact she was thrilled. It's the first time I ever had a lady just absolutely take control. I was exhausted when I left.

Dude didn't find my sparkling wit and humour funny, didn't have much to say for himself, didn't seem interested in asking me questions or me asking him questions. It was a loooonnnnggg meal and then I think because we didn't really gel in the personality departments it seemed very hard work in the sack too!! After I left next morning I wondered if it was something I could have done differently because I want my clients to have had an amazing time, but other than becoming someone else I don't know what I could have done differently.
I guess it doesn't matter for a one hour booking but for an overnight, where it's so much more than just sex, it's really important!

You can quibble over the size of the ding. But dinging as such, why not? Connections--synthetic, make-believe, or real--are part of what we pay for. At least when it's a GFE.

If the ones who did have a connection can mention it, why not the ones who didn't? In the very least, it warns potential customers that a connection isn't a sure thing. The provider still has all those other reviews to fall back on.

If that's true, why were you bring obtuse above? I think you know what people mean by "we didn't click," if not precisely. Because different people mean different things by it, of course. But not that different.

Regardless of the kind of personality a customer has, I think the provider should always have a smile and sparkle in her eyes. That's not too hard to fake, right?

Glad I've managed to avoid clunkers.  The good news is clunker's careers here are short.

There are no guarantees in the hobby, regardless of how many tens she has. We've all been there. Sometimes you can manage to have an okay time, but usually not. Simply said, it goes with the territory. That's one of the reasons I see atfs over and over.

have seen the provider previous to the overnight and preferably for a 3 or 4 hour dinner date. You can tell after a multi-hour encounter if you "click" with the provider or not.

... that when the reviewer didn't feel a connection, it's on him, not the provider?

NOTHING is a "sure thing" in p4p.  She can be the best provider in the world, but if the guy comes in with a negative attitude, poorly groomed, has unreasonable expectations etc., he may not get that "connection" that other guys got.  

There's no option to look for that here though, at least not in the provider's review page . Read the ad, check the website, maybe there's some info about likes/dislikes or maybe not.  See if you can chat a bit beforehand or have some facetime.  You could schedule a 30 min session if it's available then go from there.  If you can, go out to dinner or something first and see if there's any chemistry.  Best of luck to all!

Perhaps your expectations were too high after reading those reviews. It could have gotten into your head by thinking xyz was gonna happen. If the chemistry wasn't even working on the phone what makes you think it would be to different in person? It happens though and don't think to much into it, she could have been having an off day or just not a good fit for you but in the end no refunds. I've been pretty lucky to have some great connections with clients but one not so pleasant in particular stands out.  He was a friend of a client that I've seen before so I figured he would have known my limits or at least looked at the website since he verified. Well,I get there and he asks for a cbj,greek and DFK. Basically he asked for my hard limits. And than tried to push me into doing things I didn't want to ( I didn't)  I basically told him he could have avoided all that had he done a tiny bit of research and not hire someone who doesn't provide all the things he liked.  But I was there so we settled on a hj on the shower as he trying to tell me he only does greek bc it's not cheating. Wtf!?. It was fucking awful especially since he wanted to pop again literally as our session was over and tried to get me to go over for free. I don't know about anyone else...but some people are impossible to click with even with a genuine interest to have a nice time.

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I'm sure many agree that some review writers are very generous to themselves. I got to the point that I just don't bother with it. I don't care what the "menu" states. Not everything is always offered for one reason or another, hence YMMV.

I absolutely second that... I don't even see clients for overnights unless I've already met them. I try to set the date up to be a success as much as possible otherwise it feels like stealing tbh...