Hi!
You have a few questions here so I am not sure exactly how to answer them of where you are going with this. I do *not* ask for a deposit, I have had a few gents that have asked for a current selfie, I usually refer them to my twitter page as that is where I post the most current selfies of myself. As to the deposit I am not really sure what your question was, you may want to add more info and someone who does deposits can better answer.
When you say "do not look as good as their pics" I have heard this complaint before. I am not really sure if I have a good answer for you on this one. In our current digital age dates are procured from online, so the best way to get selected is to have the best pics, not necessarily the most authentic. I do not edit my pics, what you see is what you get, but I have had guys describe me as very ugly (even on TER, which is shocking, because most of the guys that post on here are so kind and supportive of women!) yet when they see me in person I often get "you look so much better in person than in your pics!" I do not think I look any better in person, I just think we have become so accustomed to pics being altered and we have come to expect it. So, it is a double edged sword. I live in a smaller community with little competition, so that is really all I can contribute to being successful.
DATY. OK, this I do allow (and enjoy!) just like using your hands, but....here is the deal.....you need to have a SUPER clean mouth and super clean hands/fingernails. Floss, brush you teeth and tongue for 2 minutes, and use mouthwash. Mouth and hand bacteria can transfer to my money maker, and that is not gonna happen if your breath is foul and you have rotten teeth or long and dirty nails. And also you have to follow directions and be gentle. If you go down there and think you are going to replicate some nonsense you watched in porn I am going to very politely tell you that we need to move on.
In ending I have no clue who you are, but whenever I hear someone say they were with a gal and she did not allow something, several of the times I have seen gals post as to what the issue was and usually it was that the guy was too rough or needed work in the hygiene department.
Clean+gentle+respectful=golden in this industry!!!