No matter how much or how extensively you screen a potential client there will always be dangerous ones out there.Screening does weed out timewasters for the most part.But that doesn't necessarily mean it will weed out the bad ones.I keep hearing stories from providers saying "But all of his references said he was nice and respectful" "but I verified him on(whatever verification site they used) and he still threatened me,robbed me,raped me" The list goes on!But NO....Just because that client was nice to one lady doesn't mean he will be nice to you.This world can be fun but it can also be dangerous.Screening will not keep away a predator!Screening will not keep away a rapist!Screening will not keep away a deadly serial killer.If they wants to hurt you they will find ways to get you very easily.I'm not trying to scare anyone just want you all to keep this in the back of your heads.
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Of course. A methodical crazy would just build up a rep first.
I always figured screening was more to avoid the long arm of the law. Even civies can get hurt by crazy lovers.because while it is not perfect, it should improve one's odds immeasurably.
Same is true for clients. If you just go pot luck off of BP or where ever, you might luck out, but often you'll either end up with a very poor provider, and sometimes will face LE. By searching TER reviews, you'll improve your odds greatlyNo I am not implying that at all!My thread is stating that screening is not perfect and that it won't protect you from everyone!And yes you are correct!
but that most certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't do both.
The same of course goes for reviews of the ladies as well as screening of the men.And your thread is not in reference to something you've recently experienced. If you don't mind, please post a reply or send me a PM, letting me know everything is OK with you. Thank you, London!
I was a detective for too long, saw too much.
Bad peeps are like chameleons in that they can hide it pretty well for a time.
You think some guy's family expected him to kill them all? No, but it happens.
Do the best you can with screening, always be alert.
Don't let the money cloud your good judgement.
Remember what you read here on the different threads, as they say YMMV.
Researchers have found that in 9 out of 10 cases of male violence against women, the woman had a bad feeling before anything actually happened. So screen, screen, screen, and then listen to your gut.
Who here thinks screening is perfect? Who here is saying that screening will protect a gal from everyone?
I just don't know who here this would be news to, is all.Read this book ...
I just don't know who here this would be news to, is all.
First I hope you are safe and if the guy who was a creep to you, you know his name I suggest you let us know at least in a private message, so we avoid him instead of ranting. letting this linger in people's mind without an actual suspect.
This is really good advice thank you
Also learn some self defense...enough to get away from a man and lock yourself in the bathroom or run out of the room.
This may not stop the crazy ones, but it's better than no plan, IMO.
If I can get through the appointment, that's always my first choice. Don't get mouthy with him, just get him out without a fight. But, there have been a couple of times I thought I might have to use my safety plan. I am very thankful it's never come to that.
I'm already extremely paranoid. Posts like this dont make things easier, it makes things a lot harder when I constantly shut down guys due to my "gut feeling" so now when I see posts like this; it ruins my confidence: especially since I don't know who the creeps are. It would be nice to know who this guy is that made London feel this way so we can avoid him.
Just damn. *SMH*
But your message itself was perfectly thoughtful
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If I don't like a guy simply by email, I just don't see him and I"m done with it. Pisses some guys off, and people call that bad customer service, but I call it safety - even if that safety is merely to protect my mind, soul, and reputation.
Hope this helps.Your annoying! Get a life
London is just keeping it real, if you had enough balls to join this line of work then you need to grow a backbone. Screen, have access to an updated blacklist, trust your gut, and have a emergency plan.
Have a great weekend!Booking a serial killer, I would appreciate you scheduling me BEFORE rather than after. I hate last-minute cancellations, whatever the reason. Thanks.
After reading the OP, I was wondering what her point was? If something happened to her, I am truly sorry, and hope she is okay, and the scumbag gets what he deserved. If something did happen, she should be warning ladies about a particular guy. She never mentioned anything in her OP about that. She is just telling us that screening isn't perfect. Really? Did anyone think it was? Obviously everyone knows this. I have never heard anyone saying that screening protects you from all possible dangers. As GaG said, seatbelts don't protect you from all auto accidents. So what was her point? A reminder? A notice to newbie providers? A rant? I'm at a loss too.
On a side note, there was a post on this thread earlier calling you (Jack) a racist, saying you are only rude to black girls! That post was subsequently pulled, but nothing could be further from the truth! You are an equal opportunity offender! JLS and Taylor can easily vouch for that!In any case, there was nothing offensive about this post, but when you are being offensive I have never seen a racist tendency.
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She has pulled many of her dangerous and ignorant posts here and on the NB so this latest charade today is nothing new.
Just easier for some peeps to play the race card that way they don't have to look into the history of my posts bashing and praising many people regardless of color, gender, age, whatevs. She is entitled to her ignorant and uneducated posts and we are entitled to challenge them.
Bad form to ask for priority if I'm not a solid regular, but it this scenario it wouldn't hurt to ask.
told me about it years ago.Many times our gut always gives us a feeling that something is not right.
Sometimes we listen and sometimes we don't but I recommend this book The Gift of Fear by Gavin de becker.0
Screening is not 100% foolproof but it is better to do it than to not do it all and just see anyone who calls or emails.
And where are all your smiley faces? LOL
You know, you are getting crotchety in your 41-45 years.
Long story short meet a guy on the date he pretty much forced me to sign on my p411 and ok him . He seemed like he had someone he wanted to see but she wouldn't see him unless he had plays from other girls . I was scarred so I did it and within 24hours I contacted p411 so they would remove the okay from me .
Was it a warning? A rant? Did she think she was breaking news? Jack's post above was not offensive or rude to her, (and we all know he can be very offensive and rude when he wants to be). It was just questioning her reason for posting here. Also take notice his post has 10 likes and the OP only has 6. I think a lot of people were questioning her reason for posting. She had no right or any grounds to call him racist either. (Yeah, apparently she pulled that post so you probably missed it)
From an alias, I will respond in kind, but the fact that you clearly thought this was a serious post shows you do not have the intellectual capacity to hang with this group. I try not to have a battle of wits with an unarmed man. There's no sport in it and not worth my time.
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