Married or ever thought about marrying a provider ?
Would you ? did you ?Yes to the first two, no to the third.
At least one other frequent contributor to these boards also married a provider who is still active.
I can recall one other person who was married briefly to a provider. I would guess it is not common, but not as rare as we might think eitherHonestly, there have been a couple of ladies, who I wouldn't have any qualms about being in a serious relationship with, even marrying depending on the situation/circumstance.
but if I did, it's just as likely to be a hooker as a non hooker.
Actually I have to say I have "thought about it" before, not in the sense that I wanted to marry a provider, but in the sense that I've had more than a few who wanted to marry me, of course most of them only wanted a green card, but there have been a few who I know really wanted a life together, and it certainly wasn't what they did for a living that kept me from marrying them, it's the fact that "I" am a whore mongering pig with no plans on changing. No woman deserves to be tied down to the likes of me. lolman.......we love ya GG......you the MAN.
Actually I have to say I have "thought about it" before, not in the sense that I wanted to marry a provider, but in the sense that I've had more than a few who wanted to marry me, of course most of them only wanted a green card, but there have been a few who I know really wanted a life together, and it certainly wasn't what they did for a living that kept me from marrying them, it's the fact that "I" am a whore mongering pig with no plans on changing. No woman deserves to be tied down to the likes of me. lol
and I will likely do it, but I'll do it for a very special reason. My spouse would get a portion of my retirement when I die. This money was based on my contributions over my time in that job. If I'm not married when I die that money goes is lost. With a prenupt that we will have leaves all my estate to a family member who knows about my plans. Another benefit to my spouse while I'm still kicking would be that she wouldbe covered by my medical insurance.
He was mid 80s and married his early 30s cleaning lady. Make sure all the i's are dotted and the T's are crossed. She got some hassle from the pension fund about a sham marriage but he left lots of documentation about their ongoing love affair and married her to make her an honest woman.
You should make sure you understand all the remarriage rules regarding your retirement plan. Some have rules about the length of a late life marriage before benefits would be paid. In others the age of the spouse will reduce the monthly amount paid. With the added focus these days on elder abuse I would make sure I had several friends who could testify to your loving relationship. To show she wasn't a conniving gold digger who talked a "confused old man" into a sham marriage for money.
Would you ? did you ?
and something I most likely will keep in mind as I get older.
Naturally I don't want to do anything that might encourage someone to send me on my way prematurely, but since I don't have kids, I'd like to leave any spare change that I haven't drank, gambled, or fucked off before I die to someone special.Thanks Sticky, Good advice, I think I have covered the restrictions and I will double check.
GAG, Thanks for your comment. However, when you die, I'll bet it will be at end of a really hot orgasm. Then, in the hereafter, you will be surrounded and adored by the hottest chicks in hell.LOL
Like me, you revert to the "it's not her, it's me" defense. and a very valid defense it is.
What other traits ? besides not doing what she is told....
If your marriage goal is regular sex then forget about it.
If your goal is connection then good luck with that pursuit.Would you ? did you ?
I no longer have a wife (thank goodness), I have no children, no siblings and my mother has passed, my father is the only remaining immediate family member and he has all the wealth he needs. So, I've willed what wealth I'll have when I pass to St Jude's Children's Hospital, as this was my Mothers favorite charity. Just because you're not married it doesn't mean that the State, or anyone else you don't want to get your wealth will get your wealth. Getting married just to pass it along to someone is a really awful reason to get married, and to be honest you couldn't present me with a reason to get married that isn't awful. If you want someone to get your Estate, will it to them, it really is that simple.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, "if" I were to enter into a LTR again, I'd be proud and happy to do so with a former or current provider, these women are my most favorite people. That is a huge "if" but if I were to enter into a LTR, I could simply change my will to her instead of charity. Either way, the funny thought is that I'm worth more dead than I am alive.He is not talking about leaving his estate to someone which he (or I) can do simply by willing it to that person or entity, what he is talking about is his pension. If unmarried at the time of death his pension payments would simply stop, if he gets married he can make sure his "wife" continues to get those payments for the rest of her life, while he can will the rest of his estate to anyone else of his choosing.
I missed that, my reading comprehension skills need some work.
I don't have a pension, just a 401K, but regardless I did miss that.Your social security payments. And those would indeed go to the surviving spouse as well.
You also mentioned that you're worth more dead than alive...so I'm assuming you have a life (or I prefer to call them death policies...since most can't collect until you're actually dead) policy? Why not set up a charitable trust while you're alive? Plenty of flexibility on those to fund currently and see the benefits while you are still here.I don't have a pension, just a 401K, but regardless I did miss that.
But not if the "wealth" that he wants to leave her is a pension or retirement plan with a joint and survivor spousal annuity benefit. You can't will that to someone other than a spouse.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, "if" I were to enter into a LTR again, I'd be proud and happy to do so with a former or current provider, these women are my most favorite people. That is a huge "if" but if I were to enter into a LTR, I could simply change my will to her instead of charity.
Either way, the funny thought is that I'm worth more dead than I am alive.
I'm not sure you are directing this message to what I plan to do.The part of my retirement money that would go to my wife would be LOST if I'm not married. So I couldn't will it to any charitable cause.
Once we marry and you put me in your Will I will whisk you away to Jaco. Just be very careful when we cross the bridge over the Rio Tarcoles.
I miss her 
Why would you bring up something like that? Putting ideas in our heads...
to all the ladies of TER. This is the only marriage where the sex never stops.
I am sure guys can fall in love with a provider easily, or at least have thoughts of being smitten.
But considering the challenges of a marriage, I would doubt that anyone (provider or the guy) will actually tie the knot. Not that it's impossible, but chances of this working out are slim to none. As some of the smarter minds already pointed out that men would still be drooling over all the wonderful providers out there and the providers too may want more adventure like they have already tasted the blood of being dependent on single man for their emotional and physical needs.
But considering the challenges of a marriage, I would doubt that anyone (provider or the guy) will actually tie the knot. Not that it's impossible, but chances of this working out are slim to none. As some of the smarter minds already pointed out that men would still be drooling over all the wonderful providers out there and the providers too may want more adventure like they have already tasted the blood of being dependent on single man for their emotional and physical needs.
I like the point you make, "where else would men keep telling them how beautiful they are...". I am sure that is one main motivation for women if the money alone was not a good enough reason. Though, only a provider can explain more.
I just haaaaappen to like very polished men. 
and get over it as I walk out.....
No doubt in my mind that some do - and more power to 'em. But as for me... I have one wife - WTF would I EVER want another one...