How do you get money to hobby without the wife knowing? I ask because soomeone that wants to see me is trying to figue out what excuses he can use for taking $$$ out of their account.I thought of you all when he mentioned it.I am sure you have some great ideas.

1) Do some grocery and take some cashback.
2) Handle finances yourself
3) Shift to online statements (skip the paper statement) and keep multiple accounts.

If your wife keeps a tab on accounts, you need to start stashing away some cash in another account.

The money NEVER gets into the " account "

never use money that has been deposited in the joint account.

online accounts ... that can kill you .... not only can you see the account on line but you can bring up all cancelled checks and deposits .... what I do is get your own p.o. box (for statements) get your own credit card, pull money fom other areas like others have suggested .... since we have some seperate accounts I can charge to my own credit card and pay it off with joint funds or I pay it off with a money order, always try and keep the balance at zero just in case your wife runs a credit report at sometime ( but that's not often unless your buying property) .... I funnel 1000's of dollars this way ... if we're talking 100's just pull cash from atm, grocery shopping, etc., and start building your funds.... hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be .....

that way you can have access to yours and spend it anyway you like without being 'accountable.'  Paycheck is direct deposit to my personal account which I only have access to.  I transfer via check to the 'house' account for all family expenses.  She doesn't bitch at my expenses, whatever those may be and I don't about hers!  Works so far...knock on 'wood.'

PIT = Pussy Investment trust. The best way to play it is to wait until he does not have to pay security taxes. The extra money from not paying social security taxes (after the first 90K) of income can be used for the hobby.

The other way is for him to set up a investment account where money from a bond fund goes into his play account. The play account money market should go to a PO box. If his wife looks at the statements every month he won't be able to participate.

There are other tricks such as having part of the paycheck go to another account, etc.

I can remember a few years ago I was freaking out out my wife looking at my statements. Fixed that problem by having statements going to the po box. When you get the statements keep them locked up.

The other trick is overtime pay. When I use to travel, time that I got on the plane to the time I landed was charged to the customer. I always made sure that I went to the customers office on the day of depature so the clock would start ticking early in the morning. SOmetimes after getting home at 1:30 am the next morning from a long flight the hours and money adds up.

yep, me too...what I have to do is set a budget and stick to it or I will just wind up giving myself the shaft!

"X" of $$$ goes for adult entertainment in a given month.

is to get it in your hands b4 it gets into an account. Deposit your paycheck less cash ret'd, keep your expense checks for yourself, take over the finances, don't let her know about bonus checks or commission checks. Be creative!

Another good reason why you don't want anything to do with on line banking... deposits with less cash will be posted .. then you have to answer the question "why did you need so much cash? dear"

Or just be honest. Maybe she is sitting around wishing that she could be the PSE woman he always wanted.

I know that this might not be a very popular reply, but he loved her at least once. Give her a chance. If she really can't meet his needs and is willing to lose him for them, well why stay?

Or are his "needs" really realistic? What is he really seeking in this hobby?

Frankly, if one has to worry that she is going to find out because of $$$ out of his paycheck, well...... ehemmmmm

I know this is not your problem. You are just trying to help him meet your needs. (the $$$)

Who knows, you might be able to meet her needs too? (to get his sorry ass off of her!) LOL

If you want excuses, I'm sure there may be a few others with a million of them.

After a few visits and after building good trust I have had guys who paid me in advance once a month.  They paid for 4 visits a month in advance in one lump sum.  

Some of them have business accounts and it's easier to explain one charge a month instead of 4.  Others it comes out of their pocket but also easier to explain one amount of money missing then 4 a month.  

Never asked what they said they spent it on but they have told me it's easier to explain one big amount missing instead of a steady amount over time.  

Would only recommend you do this with a provider you trust.
Also I give a better rate if they pay this way!

~Shayla

...and are written on the same back as I have an account in.  the back gladly cashes these and gives me cash without any sort of logs in any statement.

Since I buy alot of stuff for the company, and travel occasionally on business, I could clear as much or as little as I wanted to.

Although since I have slowed down alot from what I used to do, the need is not there as it once was for the money.

I control all the cash coming in and out of my household....
every deposit I make I take 150 bills and store in my pussy bank..(my car, glove compartment)after a short while...
transfer money for services rendered

Here's one you could use:

Withdraw the money well in advance.  I know it's hard to plan ahead because.. well, when you're horny, you're horny.. but take out, say $300 a month ahead of time.  If your wife doesn't notice, go to town.  If she does, use the $300 to get a weekend getaway, or buy her a nice gift, etc.  After that, she'll never question your use of money again because you've demonstrated class and resourcefulness.

For whoever is saying things like, "Why do guys need to see providers when they're married?" etc - the answer is simple.  We need variety, we often need things wives and gf's don't provide, and most of all, we are mostly self-serving.

Not pretty, but true.

And pay the providers as "consultants." A new form of "outsourcing."