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octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 1423 reads
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i have a date with a girl

and i am super nervous
i have never been with another girl
i am so nervous  

how do you guys overcome nervousness and not bail out on something you've never done before?

for example guys who were nervous before their first bdsm, dominatrix, threesome or ts session?how did you overcome nervousness or did you just bail out?  

i cannot believe i am so nervou

sasha2cute See my TER Reviews 429 reads
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2 / 48
Is this p4p or civvie?


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WilliamKidd 11 Reviews 345 reads
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3 / 48
Congratulations!

Congratulations!  If you have as much fun with the girl as I have with the ladies it will be a blast :)

A glass of wine or an adult beverage of your choice.  Just enough to relax you not to get drunk.  Also if it is a fantasy of yours or a turn on check out some girl/girl porn beforehand.

sasha2cute See my TER Reviews 469 reads
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4 / 48
Re: Is this p4p or civvie?

I would practice my scissoring technique lol. Sorry for milking that joke. 😜

drhot69 104 Reviews 297 reads
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5 / 48
Nervous?

Gawd, it's been so long since I felt that way. I remember always being nervous for years b4 P4P, then it faded away.

A glass of wine or two. Take a few breaths. Think of her as an old friend and break the ice accordingly, small talk, geography always works e.g; where you from, where you live. Don't think about the sex. (I know: easy to say, hard to do). Of course if you are really horny that's hopeless.

some-guy 6 Reviews 330 reads
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6 / 48
Weed and shots of liquor.

Seems to do the trick for me at least.

Good luck on your hot lesbo action, Octavia. I'm sure things will go just fine. And I hope you don't permanently switch teams because I'm still hoping you will come around eventually to what a nice guy I am. :-) Ha ha!

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 551 reads
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7 / 48
it is a 23 year old civie, not p4p

Posted By: octavia.lexa
and i am super nervous  
 i have never been with another girl  
 i am so nervous  
   
 how do you guys overcome nervousness and not bail out on something you've never done before?  
   
 for example guys who were nervous before their first bdsm, dominatrix, threesome or ts session?how did you overcome nervousness or did you just bail out?  
   
 i cannot believe i am so nervous  
 

lopaw 29 Reviews 331 reads
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8 / 48
Would you like me to come supervise? -e-


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2236707 3 Reviews 407 reads
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9 / 48
Re: Would you like me to come supervise? -e-

Posted By: lopaw

nothrofboston 24 Reviews 379 reads
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10 / 48
Re: it is a 23 year old civie, not p4p

Would you like some company you can fall back on? JJ?

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 225 reads
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11 / 48
I will supervise since so nervous.

Posted By: octavia.lexa
and i am super nervous  
 i have never been with another girl  
 i am so nervous  
   
 how do you guys overcome nervousness and not bail out on something you've never done before?  
   
 for example guys who were nervous before their first bdsm, dominatrix, threesome or ts session?how did you overcome nervousness or did you just bail out?  
   
 i cannot believe i am so nervous  
 

nothrofboston 24 Reviews 236 reads
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12 / 48
You dirty girl. .. lol


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WildJimmy! 255 reads
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13 / 48
Just be yourself.

One way to overcome nervousness is to enjoy it. It's just anticipation. What will happen will happen despite any feelings you have, so just enjoy the excitement of looking forward to it. Is a roller coaster frightening or thrilling? It's only a matter of how you look at the rush of emotional reactions.

PLEASURE7 5 Reviews 264 reads
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14 / 48
No reasons to be nervous

Just think about the reasons why you choose to be with her and you will realize that are because you want to enjoy this moment and if you are going to enjoy it then why to be nervous,it is all mental,you don't have to overcome nervousness,you have to overcome your mind,congratulations and enjoy it!

lopaw 29 Reviews 187 reads
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15 / 48
You're a day late & a dollar short -e-


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impposter 49 Reviews 293 reads
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16 / 48
No alcohol!

You might not be able to get it up if you are too relaxed with alcohol.  

Oops. Never mind. :-

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 232 reads
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17 / 48
Sing this song a few times.........

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAp9BKosZXs

mrfisher 108 Reviews 217 reads
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18 / 48
Just be yourself.....

Who else would you be, after all

LillianWest See my TER Reviews 224 reads
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19 / 48
Be nervous! Be excited! It's exhilerating! Enjoy!

I find when I'm really nervous, it helps to just say so. "Wow, I feel like a kid on a first date, I can't believe I'm so nervous!" You won't be able to hide it anyway. I find it charming when someone is nervous to be with me. It tells me how important this moment is and I rise to the occasion to put them at ease and give them a memorable experience. See the good in it; how great it is to feel ALIVE again. God I wish I could be there. Kisses, Lily

Related Link: http://maturedesertflower.com

mrfisher 108 Reviews 184 reads
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20 / 48
And I meant to say....

Take notes.  We'll want to hear the play by play.

Maybe take a video as well while you're at it.

(JK8o)

Demcc3 27 Reviews 226 reads
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21 / 48
Nervousness

Hi hon.  I can't believe a woman as beautiful as yourself and who has been in this industry for a bit would be as nervous as you claim.  It's good to be a little nervous....hell, I still get a bit nervous when I'm getting ready for a date with one of my regulars (but that's just me).

Octavia, just go with the flow.  Be yourself and have fun.  Who knows, maybe it'll just be one big make out session with some touchy-freely stuff thrown in.

Regardless, I wish you the best of luck and have fun!

Duane

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 200 reads
posted
22 / 48
have a drink

or three ...

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 275 reads
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23 / 48
Re: Would you like me to come supervise? -e-

yes and yes

wrps07 341 reads
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24 / 48
Be careful.

Your nervousness is trying to give you a warning. Some ladies in these types of situations will go postal on you if you break up. They become very attached.

dakine18 287 reads
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25 / 48
Lol. Stereotype much?

Watched too many episodes of Orange is the New Black, maybe???

Afro-desiac 296 reads
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26 / 48
Re: have a drink....but nix on the weed, especially if you're already nervous.

It can make you anxious or paranoid.

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 338 reads
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27 / 48
Re: Would you like me to come supervise? -e-

guys on that pic are sooo my type  

Posted By: dani987x
 
   
Posted By: lopaw

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 298 reads
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28 / 48
Re: Would you like me to come supervise? -e-

i am nervous as f.ck...lets wait till i am more comfortable with her...

Posted By: lopaw

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 315 reads
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29 / 48
Re: No reasons to be nervous

thank you:))

Posted By: PLEASURE7
Just think about the reasons why you choose to be with her and you will realize that are because you want to enjoy this moment and if you are going to enjoy it then why to be nervous,it is all mental,you don't have to overcome nervousness,you have to overcome your mind,congratulations and enjoy it!

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 343 reads
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30 / 48
Re: No alcohol!

shady:)

Posted By: impposter
You might not be able to get it up if you are too relaxed with alcohol.    
   
 Oops. Never mind. :-)  
 

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 321 reads
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31 / 48
Re: Sing this song a few times.........

lol yes, Papasan  

Posted By: BigPapasan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAp9BKosZXs

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 290 reads
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32 / 48
Re: Nervousness

she is very pretty too ,so i guess it is intimidating a little bit :))

Posted By: Demcc3
Hi hon.  I can't believe a woman as beautiful as yourself and who has been in this industry for a bit would be as nervous as you claim.  It's good to be a little nervous....hell, I still get a bit nervous when I'm getting ready for a date with one of my regulars (but that's just me).  
   
 Octavia, just go with the flow.  Be yourself and have fun.  Who knows, maybe it'll just be one big make out session with some touchy-freely stuff thrown in.  
   
 Regardless, I wish you the best of luck and have fun!  
   
 Duane

2236707 3 Reviews 249 reads
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33 / 48
Re: Would you like me to come supervise? -e-

That's me in the white hat

1615628anon 11 Reviews 291 reads
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34 / 48
Civie... Than there are no...

Expectations for you to "perform".  So just relax and be yourself.  Lord knows you have no problem breaking the ice and establishing a rapport with complete strangers.  

You will do fine.  Let things unfold as they do.  

Best of luck (you don't need it) and I hope you have an amazing evening!!!
Posted By: octavia.lexa
 
   
Posted By: octavia.lexa
and i am super nervous  
  i have never been with another girl  
  i am so nervous    
     
  how do you guys overcome nervousness and not bail out on something you've never done before?  
     
  for example guys who were nervous before their first bdsm, dominatrix, threesome or ts session?how did you overcome nervousness or did you just bail out?    
     
  i cannot believe i am so nervous    
 

GGxo See my TER Reviews 261 reads
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35 / 48
Boy oh boy, this place is becoming more bi as we speak

I told ya'all women are extremely beautiful creatures ;)

Jensen36363 58 Reviews 261 reads
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36 / 48
Re: it is a 23 year old civie, not p4p

embrace it -- that's part of the experience.

Posted By: octavia.lexa
 
   
Posted By: octavia.lexa
and i am super nervous  
  i have never been with another girl  
  i am so nervous    
     
  how do you guys overcome nervousness and not bail out on something you've never done before?  
     
  for example guys who were nervous before their first bdsm, dominatrix, threesome or ts session?how did you overcome nervousness or did you just bail out?    
     
  i cannot believe i am so nervous    
 

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 185 reads
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37 / 48
lol -e-

Posted By: JuliasLittleSecret
That way you'll know what to expect, and I'm sure you'd love the experience!  ;)

keystonekid 114 Reviews 227 reads
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38 / 48
Where did you meet? Are we going to see a mini-review tomorrow? eom


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BigPeterJohnson 39 Reviews 199 reads
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39 / 48
usually when i'm nervous

i just don't get it up.  then my nerves are replaced by complete depression.

problem solved!

BigPeterJohnson 39 Reviews 246 reads
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40 / 48
i'm bi-sexual

if i can't get it for free, i'll bi it!

some-guy 6 Reviews 234 reads
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41 / 48
Or sing this one ...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWbLkXhGEmo

Related Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWbLkXhGEmo

some-guy 6 Reviews 198 reads
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42 / 48
Good point. She might try to move in after one date. -eom-


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impposter 49 Reviews 229 reads
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43 / 48
If it's like my civvie dates, you're not getting any anyway! (Blue Balls)

We are all assuming this is going to be a sexcapade.  

But is it just a date, to go hang out, go to a movie or concert or museum, or dinner and a show ... and then see what develops?

There is no guarantee that you'll be getting into her pants using those lame methods! They don't work for most of us XY types, either!  

Relax, enjoy her company, have a nice time, have a good time ... At least if nothing happens, you won't have blue balls

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 286 reads
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44 / 48
Re: Where did you meet? Are we going to see a mini-review tomorrow? eom

we met on tinder...no mini review yet...it is civie date,so not sex on the first date...but she is amazing and very inhibited...so maybe our second date...
 

Posted By: keystonekid

lopaw 29 Reviews 255 reads
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45 / 48
Blue Balls, no.....but she might wind up with a Purple Pelvis! -e-


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octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 194 reads
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Re: If it's like my civvie dates, you're not getting any anyway! (Blue Balls)

it went well,no sex

Posted By: impposter
We are all assuming this is going to be a sexcapade.  
   
 But is it just a date, to go hang out, go to a movie or concert or museum, or dinner and a show ... and then see what develops?  
   
 There is no guarantee that you'll be getting into her pants using those lame methods! They don't work for most of us XY types, either!  
   
 Relax, enjoy her company, have a nice time, have a good time ... At least if nothing happens, you won't have blue balls!  
 

dakine18 199 reads
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47 / 48
Pics or it didn't happen! (eom)


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anotherdamnalias 205 reads
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Re: Where did you meet? Are we going to see a mini-review tomorrow? eom

The number of Tinder downloads in Boston metro just tripled....I'm praying I get sent to town for work soon myself...

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