I have 10 oks on P411. Ladies, are there things on a guys profile that puts up a red flag?
I am beginning to get a complex. Maybe I would feel better if they told me "It's not you, it's me".
There are 50 listings of ladies in my city on P411. About 10 appeal to me. Of those a few I can't meet due to schedule mismatches and various other reasons. Then there are 2 that I have been contacting several times the last few months. One won't respond and the other always has an excuse. They both have superb reviews being described as quick responders.
I have 10 oks on P411. Ladies, are there things on a guys profile that puts up a red flag?
I am beginning to get a complex. Maybe I would feel better if they told me "It's not you, it's me".
those two won't work with you?
You can't limit your odds like that.
Go back to the others now and compromise a bit here and there.
Be sure the way you approach them is respectful and safe. Read the Newbie Manual if you haven't lately and follow the advice there.
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If dude is THAT picky maybe he had become somewhat "obsessed" with those two or came across that way.
So maybe the two ladies picked up on that vibe and felt a bit uncomfortable?
If you said you had contacted 10-12 girls and had the same issues...well...that would be a problem.
See those other girls in your top 10 where you don't have scheduling issues but don't write off the two you are really interested in.
Double back to them in a month or two. Some girls go thru tough times, go on vacation, have all the biz they need right now, are SB'd up, etc etc etc.
We only having two samples to go by so its impossible to tell.
No I am never explicit or aggresive in communication. I know they get the message because P411 sends me an email telling me they checked the profile. Thanks for the advice. Just bothers me to read all these great reviews and i can't partake. LIike going to a restaraunt, they show you the menu but you can't have the food
perpetual window shopper... I'd suggest a meeting in 1-2 days & be prepared to meet sooner if she's available.
First off, like the others, I think you are likely too picky. This is not Match . Com You are looking for a gal to spend a pleasant hour. You might or might not see her again.
Do not limit yourself to P411. Search TER for recent reviews in your area.
seems sometimes you are asking yourself, "WTF, I can't even get pay to get pussy" and a week later you are getting PM's asking if you want to hook up. Shit happens.
We have other "things to do" and sadly, life gets in the way of things sometimes.
Please be patient, every so often timing is paramount
Zoe Piers
CV-Who's available now! Even that's no guarantee, but it sure enhances my odds. Can't ever remember striking out.
time, length of session, etc. or just a simple "Hey babe, can we get together soon for a roll in the hay?"
If you haven't presented any flags then who knows what the reason is? Don't take it personally. I like Alyson's POV. Let her know you really want to see her and let it go. Make it clear there's an open invitation and change course. Of the other 8 I'm thinking I could work something out.
this hobby costs a lot, and if you were to set up a date with a lady you weren't really attracted to, I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment. When I look in P411, and apply my selection criteria (price, height, attractive photos, natural, etc.) then check reviews, I'm left with less than 10% of ladies - and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. If this WAS Match.com, then looks would be a little less impotant, and other less shallow factors would figure in, like common interests, education level, politics, kids, etc., etc. But this isn't a dating site, so if you are paying buttloads of $ to a lady for 1 or 2 hours of sex, it only makes sense to pick ladies that you find extremely attractive. Just had to offer this counterpoint to the notion that you are being too selective.
Also, you can just sit back and look to see if any of the visiting ladies who come along strike your fancy. Surely you will eventually see someone passing through who peaks your interest. And if you find yourself in the mood for fun but no providers tickle you fancy, then you could go the AMP route and lay back for an hour of nice touch and a HE (or even more depending on you area).
Only if you are really desperate to get laid should you deviate and widen your possible choices, IMO, ...for what it's worth.
If he were having problems with several providers, I would say the problem most likely was on his end, but he says he is only reaching out to two women. It could easily be that one is on vacation, and the other simply busy, or any one of a thousand different reasons he can't hook up with them
Good point BUT he has 10 ok's these 2 could be contacting. Some do no other verification when using p411 so they reach out to the gents ok's for more info. If he was not dangerous and paid some give the ok. Does not mean they would see him again. It very well could not be what in saying BUT I would not rule it out.
From my experience in reaching out to p411 ok's sometimes from the lady's mentions I decide not to see someone.
I have 10 oks on P411. Ladies, are there things on a guys profile that puts up a red flag?
I am beginning to get a complex. Maybe I would feel better if they told me "It's not you, it's me".
Here are some writing tips that I look for when I accept an appointment.
1. Are they writing me in a respectful way and not just saying "Meet me in an hour and give me greek and bring a friend now" (believe it or not I have had these emails on numerous occasions)
2. Do they provide me with a reference or any other detailed information about themselves so that I know they are an honest and legit person
Since you have 10 O.Ks ... I wouldn't take it personally... it might just be scheduling issues. It happens to me all the time as a provider and its hard not to think "what's wrong with me?"sometimes.