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Provider Orgasms
jack675 41 Reviews 7973 reads
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It's all in fun, and maybe it's just me and because this posting treads on the male ego (at least the naive areas of the male ego  -  I'm sure many of the responses I will get will tell me where to go...and so be it.  BUT....when I read some of the reviews I cannot help but break out laughing when the reviewer proudly mentions how he brought the provider to orgasms or mutliple orgasms. "She then spun around to a RCG position and had her 3rd O". Let's be real here.  These wonderful girls and I truly mean that, are making a living or are in it for the short term for some well earned fast moola.  I'm sure there can be exceptions, but it's all about business.  Even the best bonding GFE, and I've had them, does not render the provider orgasmic. Their job (and I do mean job)(let's drop the naive stuff, please) is to get us off. Selfish of us?....NO....it's a business we are paying for and we are damn fortunate the biz exists. Now go ahead and let me have it...all you studs who providers just cum and cum over. It's kinda like going to see Siegfried and Roy, you are paying for an illusion. Remember, it's all in fun and it's probably just me.

The bigger illusion is the "stud like" performance everyone writes about in the reviews. "I pounded her for 40 minutes" or "we did it nonstop for the full hour" or whatever.  Most of the providers laugh about these comments saying the guys they see typically lose it in the first few minutes of a BJ and rarely last more than 5-10 minutes or so with FS.  And size, well, that's another story...

of a hobbyist who claimed three deliveries during one session in a review and how that was bullsh*t.  Guess I don't care if a guy is padding his ego as long as his description of the provider and her actions is accurate.

lickmegoodbaby3485 reads

I'm a lady that does have the big O's with my clients. I'm not saying that I do with all of them, but if the are good at licking the coochie, then I almost always cum. There are ways to know if a lady has an O. Hey, I'm a good teacher, anyone want to sign up for my class? lol

WhatTheHeck4022 reads

she felt very comfortable with the client and was in the mood for getting off on that particular occasion, and he took his time doing DATY just the way she likes it (she gives him feedback, either nonverbal or verbal), and she got off that way.

It does happen, and with some providers more than others (NOSC is the best example I know of personally).  

But I agree with you that almost all of the O's described in the reviews were faked.

Danielle Dubois4530 reads

....cannot always simply fake it. If you arent actually inside me then I probably could, but when I actually reach that point, you would know if you have a finger or your penis in there. First of all Im quiet (not a screamer), I quiver, and my muscles inside my vaginal walls tense up very noticably and grab ahold of whatever may be in there. And I know many other girls who do the same. If a woman has strong inner muscles, you would more than likely know if she had an orgasim, because you would feel the little tightening tug. I know I have enjoyed my time with my clients before, thats why Im in this job (no its not just the money); just like anyone else who loves thier work, I like to please and be pleased and I am good at both. There have been numerous times in which a client has brought me to that point, and trust me, he knew! I had one time where I actually stopped a guy right in the middle of his orgasim because I had mine first and it pinched so very hard that he jumped up off (and out) of me, cause it surprised him.

Yeah there are many fakers, but Im sure by testing the waters a bit you can find a few who arent-- if thats what you are looking for...

Dani

SummersEve2697 reads

I had a 2 hour appt., who was a first time client today, who I had to fake an orgasm with him. He wanted to do DATY, and I was very honest that the chances of me having one with him on first try, was very slim. I felt bad for him when he was down there for half an hour, that I faked one (I knew his tongue must of been tired by then) just to let me get a chance at him. But most times, I will admit that I do not get that big "O", because of many reasons: him not knowing what he is doing. Even if I direct someone, still they are not getting right. NOT to say that I don't enjoy the licking, for I do. But there are certain men who do know how to use their tongues, and some just don't. I would prefer to have him lay back and let me take care of his needs instead, for that gets me wet, just to pamper him.

-- Modified on 10/9/2004 7:42:47 PM

WhatTheHeck2629 reads

more concerned that he enjoy himself, so that he will come back and perhaps even become a regular.  If her getting off will help to make this happen, then she will try to make it happen if she can.

But guys are often so intent on getting off themselves that they  think the woman feels the same way.  Providers are thinking first and foremost about getting him to come back (assuming he is an acceptable client).  As far as getting herself off, she can do that on her own.  The main reason for working on making it happen with a client is to make it a good experience for him so he will be a repeat customer.

-- Modified on 10/10/2004 2:57:18 AM

let me keep going at DATY even though we both know it won't result in an O because (a) it still feels good to the provider, and (b) I love DATY so much I will do it as long as a provider lets me.  As I've said to more than one provider, if I could get off doing DATY, I often would.  However, if (a) is not true, I've had providers gently raise my head, kiss me lightly and tell me it's "my turn".  I can take a hint.

Danielle Dubois3216 reads

...performing fellatio is a huge turn on for me, I love to make a mans toes curl, thats what truly gets the good juices flowin! When you know that you are hitting that good spot, or you figure what they like best, or you give them deep throat and you know they havent had it before, that is THE best... and to me thats what makes a good provider, one who is truly into giving a man the best experience he has ever had, keeping him satistfied... and coming back for more.

Orgasms are good, but knowing your better is best...

Dani

ConnieLingus4152 reads


I share your skepticism about many of the reviews and have been told "the real story" about some reviews by the other party a number of times.

From my experience, there are some signs of success that can not be faked.

Pretty good indicators are the sudden "don't touch sensitivity" of the clit and clenching abs, but ...  

... the one fake-proof sign I try to achieve is that lovely crimson flush that spreads downward from the face and neck, down the chest and further below.  Never met a woman yet that can do that on command. That's the kind of glow I look for.

Ladies, am I fooling myself?

While I agree that many reviews may be a bit over the top with the scenarios that a lady climaxes in (I would think an orgasm in reverse cowgirl is infrequent), I don't necessarily think that it is as infrequent as you imply...depending on the provider.  Most of the ladies I meet I state up front to that I don't want my ego stroked.  I also make a point to get to know them a little better so that they believe me that it isn't necessary for my appreciation of being with them.  
As such, when they have done it, I had no reason to doubt that it was real.  Some have done it while stimulating themselves.  Some have done it one encounter, but not on other encounters.  Some have done it when it was way past when they could have believably faked it (and when I was almost ready to pass out! :P.  Some have done it so lightly that it wouldn't have done much for the ego if it had been faked.  Maybe they all are faking it...or maybe I am just dating the right ladies.

I agree with you MSD.
The first time with a specific lady can lead to "faking" it but as youy get to her more often and you become comfortable with each other, it becomes much better and the orgasams come around naturally.

On lady in particular I have seen was not easy to get to orgasam early on but as we saw each other more and became closer and more comfortable with each other, she would let go with some "head busting, full body quaking" orgasams that can't be faked.

Thats one reason why I see a few special ladies as opposed to sampling the many, being familiar and comfortable leads to much better results.

Just my opinion...
B

done anything yet ... or your doing something and stop ... then when you start back up after a period of rest their sceaming louder then before ......lol

GLisHJ3026 reads

I've never had a woman do that, but I've seen it in porn, and it is pretty funny because it's so fake-looking.  It makes me think that maybe women who do that have never actually gotten off in their lives, if that is possible.  If a woman wants to fake an O in a way that will convince the guy, she should just do what she does when she has a real one, you know?

a provider make me work for her O than faking it.  Otherwise, she can just take whatever enjoyment she wishes from the hour.

This thread
Intense manual penetration
Double penetration
Various sensation toys
Being brought close over and over but not allowed to climax
Receiving a hicky
Other things that aren't appropriate to mention here

My stomach gets to feeling all funny and reaches up and pushes my eyes back.  I don't fake it.  It's self defeating.

LJ
When women go wrong, men go right after them.  -Mae West-

LJ,

I would love to know those other things as well!!!

Please mention them to me in private!!!

Wehawk

SirPrize2365 reads

Infrequent and hard to tell if they are real during FS. Much easier to tell during DATY.

Many experienced guys can usually tell the difference.

I have also found that the ladies who don't have real orgasms will swear that the ones who do are faking it. The ones who do have real ones can't understand why the others would rather fake it.

Interesting hobby.



WhatTheHeck3343 reads

Of course this includes providers too, only natural that it would.  

Why would they swear that the ones who really do have O's are faking it?  Maybe jealousy.

there are some physiological phenomena that cannot be faked.  If you spot those during an encounter, you're probably doing the right thing.  If you're not, that's too bad but not the end of the world.  If a provider wants me to do whatever it takes to get her to an O, I am happy to be directed.  If she does not but can still take some pleasure from our encounter, I can live with that too.

With the right guy, it just happens!  Guys who are relaxed, sensual, pay attention to me and know their way around a woman get me going. And most of the guys I see regularly are like that. Fake it? Never!

BobJohn133289 reads

Interesting, I've never been with a provider, because the idea of being with someone who didn't enjoy our time together was sort of a turn off.  I may have to change my mind.

you just have to see the right ones.  Amber Jewel sure sounds like a right one to me. :)

This topic seems to replay every so often.  Of course a lot of the reviews are over the top.  The lady can have a good time even if she does not orgasm.  You might even have a good time despite the fact that you did not orgasm.  Some ladies fake orgasms often and other ladies do not.  Some ladies seldom have orgasms and other ladies have them frequently.  If you are the first person the lady has seen in a week she might be more likely to orgasm than if you are the fourth client that day.  Some guys are better at DATY than other guys but even among that group one lady may think you are the best in the world and another may think you are an absolute dud.

I take most of the reviews with a grain of salt.  It is just with some reviews I need the whole salt shaker.  

Just have fun and enjoy.

alaskazoe3000 reads

I used to have them all the time. Mostly with regulars though, I found myself getting excited when certain guys would make an appointment. Plus I like to have alot of sex.

I toally disagree...sometimes. When you have a woman panting and writhing, and then she squirts all over your face, thats amore :)

SweetTina4326 reads

DATY always makes my eyes roll back especially when my clit is being licked. There is no faking that. How is it fake when my cum is covering half the guys face? lol Doggy makes me scream and come hard.

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