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Even better, russ, though I'd say it's a classic "distinction without a difference." -e-
Fridays117 27 Reviews 3846 reads
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Ladies, does a hobbyist's attire affect how you treat him, regardless of the fact that he's paid for your time already?

I ask this, because as a middle aged guy in my mid 40's I still dress the same as I did in high school.  Jeans, T shirt and sneakers, usually with a baseball cap.  I'm blue collar so I wear a uniform at work and the rest of the time, I just want to be comfortable.  Suits and even business casual wear feels weird to me when I wear them.  Yet sometimes I get the feeling that due to this laxity in my dress code, people tend to take me less seriously.  Fact of the matter is, I make more at my job that many of my suit wearing friends who are middle managers or have other office jobs.  Heck, I make more than some lawyers I know.  

So, do the clothes make the man, or is cash king?

MasterZen 33 Reviews 1846 reads
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greeted by a provider in a ball gown or formal wear.  

And I know some fabulously wealthy people who dress like bums... because they can and simply don't give a damn what others think at all.  

I believe the idea is to dress comfortably and appropriately for what you have planned, and not try to impress at all.

inicky46 61 Reviews 1657 reads
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But I tend to dress up a bit when seeing a lady, for two reasons.  First of all, most of them are staying in high-end hotels and I'd stick out like a sore thumb in the lobby if I was in a T-shirt and jeans.  So I'm usually in slacks, a sport shirt and a sport jacket, passing through the lobby like I own it.
Also, some gals like it when a guy is nicely dressed, so that doesn't hurt either.

0603450onThe 1766 reads
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be true to who you are, not who you aren't whether it be jeans or a suit. It's how you 'wear' your attire, not so much what the attire actually is.

Back_In_Black 1740 reads
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im sick of people asking for their car when im outside the restaurant . it doesn't say valet on my jacket and I could buy the damn restaurant .  

Posted By: Fridays117
Ladies, does a hobbyist's attire affect how you treat him, regardless of the fact that he's paid for your time already?  
   
 I ask this, because as a middle aged guy in my mid 40's I still dress the same as I did in high school.  Jeans, T shirt and sneakers, usually with a baseball cap.  I'm blue collar so I wear a uniform at work and the rest of the time, I just want to be comfortable.  Suits and even business casual wear feels weird to me when I wear them.  Yet sometimes I get the feeling that due to this laxity in my dress code, people tend to take me less seriously.  Fact of the matter is, I make more at my job that many of my suit wearing friends who are middle managers or have other office jobs.  Heck, I make more than some lawyers I know.    
   
 So, do the clothes make the man, or is cash king?

Back_In_Black 1634 reads
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I like a well dressed woman who also knows how to pull off casual sexy ... panties optional of course ... xoxo ..  

Posted By: TaylorSteele
be true to who you are, not who you aren't whether it be jeans or a suit. It's how you 'wear' your attire, not so much what the attire actually is.

MasterZen 33 Reviews 1344 reads
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0603450onThe 1521 reads
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something sharp that he feels confident, comfortable in. And yes, I dress casual chic I guess you could say depending on where I'm headed as I dress by my 'mood' usually. Most of my dates happen in NY so yes, attire is important. When I am booking $400+ rooms, I can only hope he 'dresses the part'. Since most dates for me start in the 'public eye', it's important that we match as a 'couple' together. Again, it's important to 'not' stick out like the odd couple. Haven't had an issue with that yet. Most gentlemen understand this aspect and it's usually an unspoken understanding. I, more or less ask them what they would like to see me in, pants or a dress, 'sans' panties or not  ;)  I usually have a pretty good read on the gentleman I am meeting and 'adjust' accordingly lol. You are all very different and have your own lil things lol that get you going. It is indeed fun trying to figure out just what that is sometimes I must say. And sometimes I like it when you just flat out tell me haha.  

;)

Cosette 1684 reads
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Preconceived notions about suits being worn. But on the whole, no, several other things make the man. Many other dimensions than clothing. I love being in my part of NYC because when I have a long date outside I actually prefer a suit not be worn. This is a chill neighborhood so suits aren't the best for hanging out.

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Back_In_Black 1672 reads
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ZEN you know what im talking about .. I know you do...........

keystonekid 114 Reviews 1698 reads
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rent a tux when I saw you but now I can save that coin to give you a bigger tip. Glad I can "come as I am" when we meet. Or, should I have said, "cum when I am ready" when we meet?

russbbj 89 Reviews 1485 reads
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I dress appropriate to the hotel, typically business casual so that when I pass through the lobby I look like anyone who would be staying at the hotel. And I do find ladies prefer for us to be dressed nicely. Does that mean we have to be dressed nicely? No, but anything that puts a lady at ease, I'm willing to do (within reason). A favorite of mine, who doesn't want reviews, prefers me to come dressed in jeans, so that's what I do. I rarely wear suits, so I haven't ever arrived at a date in a suit. I did go to a show with a lady once, so I brought along a suit to change into, bit I arrived to her door business casual.

keystonekid 114 Reviews 1686 reads
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on where we are going, outside the bedroom, and the current weather.

russbbj 89 Reviews 1738 reads
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You don't walk into a place like you own it, you walk into a place like you don't care who the Hell does.

inicky46 61 Reviews 1724 reads
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It was to join a fellow monger in a farewell session with a gorgeous young woman, her first MFM, followed by a dinner at an exclusive private club.  Memorable

WickedBrut 27 Reviews 2101 reads
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Slowlickher 1795 reads
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as a sharp dresser myself, I always suggest Taylor keep the cottons on if we're dining first, so as not to leave a mess in the restaurant chair...

Cosette 1564 reads
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GaGambler 1583 reads
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There is a huge difference between wearing dirty jeans, work boots and a T shirt with holes in it in the lobby of the Four Seasons, and wearing something by Versace that might cost a grand or more.

Living in Texas, I rarely wear anything nicer than business casual and often wear jeans, but when I wear jeans on a date, they are clean, pressed and I usually am wearing $800 shoes and have a Rolex on my wrist. Getting accosted by a hotel manager or looked down on by my date is the least of my worries.

Some people can look like a bum even when wearing a suit, and other guys can look like a million bucks wearing jeans. As Taylor said, "it's how you wear it"

GaGambler 1523 reads
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and other guys just look like a waiter. lmao

I know that people claim that "clothes make the man" I believe the opposite is closer to the truth.

Back_In_Black 1823 reads
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Posted By: Slowlickher
as a sharp dresser myself, I always suggest Taylor keep the cottons on if we're dining first, so as not to leave a mess in the restaurant chair...

0603450onThe 1617 reads
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You are right, a sharp guy will look like a sharp guy in a $2k suit or a $200 suit. That's my point. Doesn't make a difference to me how much that suit is.  I'm not looking at 'labels' that's for sure. If the ensemble he chose just 'works', that works for me. It's all in a first look at first glance and if he wears it well, I'm like well alright, doesn't matter to me 'who' it's by

Blowing Chunks 1753 reads
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It's very comfortable.  It becomes too irritating when I actually wash it. :D

Jokes aside,  I don't like wearing suits cuz it's very uncomfortable.  Plus I don't feel I need to be impressing anyone anymore,  unless it's a date with Taylor Swift or Scarlett Johansson.  

I'd wear something business casual though just so I don't look like a bum. Something not too formal but not ghetto or bummy  

If it's over 85 degrees I'm wearing shorts and t-shirt.  If it's over 110 I'm wearing ice packs.

0603450onThe 1886 reads
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I'm funny huh? Yes, I know, in my mind only lol. I thought it was cute.

Back_In_Black 1563 reads
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don't back channel .. not my style .... xoxo

Posted By: TaylorSteele
I'm funny huh? Yes, I know, in my mind only lol. I thought it was cute.

GaGambler 1759 reads
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then it is to look good in a suit by JC Penny. It's a rare man that can pull that off. lol

Cleaned, pressed, and well fitting goes a lot further than what ever is printed on the label.

Gemma Coreana See my TER Reviews 1888 reads
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You don't come in a dirty stinky clothes, I don't mind the hobbyist sense of style... But most whom I see come in button down dress shirt & slacks.....  

Off topic but I need to GLOAT!!!! OMG I just got pounded in my bootyhole by my Serbian ATF!!  I have a glow on my face & I'm sooo friggin HAPPY right now, I think if someone came in a garbage bag right this sec, I wouldn't care!!!  

HHHHHAAAAAPPPPYYYYYYYY MMMMMOOOONNNNDDDAAAAYYYYY!!!!!!  
Xoxo
GC

adrianamonet See my TER Reviews 1787 reads
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Of course it should still look clean and kempt. It all ranges. Do what is good for you; I'm sure the gal would not mind a bit as long as you adhere to hygiene.  

As overdressing for an engagement might be awkward, it also can be good idea to specify what you would prefer her to wear as well.

^_^

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MasterZen 33 Reviews 1478 reads
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commando. We don't need no stinking underwear! lol

Just don't ice your nuts. I heard it causes shrinkage. And is uncomfortable!  :D

inicky46 61 Reviews 1484 reads
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While it's true that a $2,000 suit doesn't mean just anyone will look good in it, it's pretty damn hard for anyone to look good in one costing $200.  But what's this with pressing your jeans?  Shirley you don't mean your jeans have creases in them?  Say it ain't so!

89Springer 1553 reads
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I like a nice suit, and feel good in one. I've worn suits to visit providers, and I've worn "nice" casual. I don't think it's made a difference. I've been treated well when dressed casual, and not as well when dressed up, and vice versa.

I'll be having a lunch date in a couple of weeks, and I don't think it will be the suit or lack thereof that will draw attention as much as the near-40 year difference in our ages, and the fact that she's hot as hell and I'm...well, not.

Blowing Chunks 1999 reads
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two cherries and a banana kinda gets in the way of walking and sitting.  lol

I guess that's where ice comes in handy,  use it to shrink the size lol

0603450onThe 1587 reads
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a nice pair of jeans and his shoes are important (most men neglect this fact but we look lol) topped off with a nice crisp shirt, blazer and sometimes a tie if it's dinner, really all depends 'where' we are meeting. A suit only comes into play with gentlemen I meet with during the day and they are coming from the office. Which offers a whole lot of other 'fun'. ;) But meeting in the evening I prefer the latter.

0603450onThe 1734 reads
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No one says you have to 'impress' anyone, it's about what you feel most confident and sexy in silly. If it's 9 week old undies, then so be it LOL......just don't book with me please until it's the day AFTER the 9 weeks has subsided and the undies are clean. I thank you in advance LOL. Cute though.

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hbyist+truth=;( 1779 reads
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Posted By: Fridays117
Ladies, does a hobbyist's attire affect how you treat him, regardless of the fact that he's paid for your time already?  
   
 I ask this, because as a middle aged guy in my mid 40's I still dress the same as I did in high school.  Jeans, T shirt and sneakers, usually with a baseball cap.  I'm blue collar so I wear a uniform at work and the rest of the time, I just want to be comfortable.  Suits and even business casual wear feels weird to me when I wear them.  Yet sometimes I get the feeling that due to this laxity in my dress code, people tend to take me less seriously.  Fact of the matter is, I make more at my job that many of my suit wearing friends who are middle managers or have other office jobs.  Heck, I make more than some lawyers I know.    
   
 So, do the clothes make the man, or is cash king?
Now if a guy is asking a hooker out I think both should dress appropriately  as in no "hooker wear" to a decent restaurant and the guy should at least nbe in biz casual.  Keep the attire appropriate for the venue for both and there should be no issue.

0603450onThe 1926 reads
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I assume he wasn't much for conversation. ;)

acadia1106 2 Reviews 1752 reads
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Posted By: Fridays117
Ladies, does a hobbyist's attire affect how you treat him, regardless of the fact that he's paid for your time already?  
   
 I ask this, because as a middle aged guy in my mid 40's I still dress the same as I did in high school.  Jeans, T shirt and sneakers, usually with a baseball cap.  I'm blue collar so I wear a uniform at work and the rest of the time, I just want to be comfortable.  Suits and even business casual wear feels weird to me when I wear them.  Yet sometimes I get the feeling that due to this laxity in my dress code, people tend to take me less seriously.  Fact of the matter is, I make more at my job that many of my suit wearing friends who are middle managers or have other office jobs.  Heck, I make more than some lawyers I know.    
   
 So, do the clothes make the man, or is cash king?

acadia1106 2 Reviews 1423 reads
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Steve Jobs had 100 pair of the same black turtle neck, and wore jeans and the turtle nearly, everyday to work.

YOu know why he can do that, cause Steve Mother F...ing Jobs!

0603450onThe 1980 reads
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on my lil secret about the correlation between the 'design' of a gentleman's hands and his cock...but I won't.

You can ponder on that one for a bit.  

;)

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keystonekid 114 Reviews 1583 reads
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James Bond (thanks GaG) with S & P hair?  

PS==I don't wait tables.

GaGambler 1696 reads
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but by "pressed" I simply mean not rumpled or dirty. Once upon a time I think I actually had creases in my dress jeans, but I think that was back in the 80's

keystonekid 114 Reviews 1661 reads
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socks to go with his ensamble? Shoes with laces and no socks is just cheap.

Blowing Chunks 1504 reads
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It might have skid marks and yellow stains on it though.  It looks absolutely lovely by the time it reaches the 18th week. LMAO

0603450onThe 1817 reads
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minus the socks? That's a few years old actually I think from the 2012 collection but my point is just look sharp in whatever you wear, no matter the designer brand. That same gentleman would look amazing in the Kohls suit I provided pricepoint under 300. You get my drift. It's about selling 'IT'.

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0603450onThe 1505 reads
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work on that mister. That's disgusting. I'm not sure any lady here would see you for publicly displaying that kind of 'hygiene' practice.  

Ewwww, remember I'm visual lol.

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Fridays117 27 Reviews 1741 reads
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I probably would 'dress up' in business casual or a New England chic style if it wasn't going to raise red flags with the Mrs. on my return home.  so I guess a clean pair of jeans and a polo shirt (rather than a T)  is about as fancy as its going to get.

Thanks for all your input

Blowing Chunks 1868 reads
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well I'm pretty sure no girl here would be that dumb to actually believe that lol    

I shower twice a day and I'm usually sober. :D

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S&P hair. My favorite in all honesty besides just plain ol' dark hair. It's funny, only a few 'blondes' have ever contacted me. Isn't that weird lol

inicky46 61 Reviews 1642 reads
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She said she'd need to take samples of my urine, feces, blood and semen.  I told her, "Jeez, doc, if you'd told me that before I came in I  could have just brought you a pair of my used underwear.

89Springer 1401 reads
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somebody should tell him you don't put a suit in a washer and dryer.  His shrunk.

SeraphinaLaRue See my TER Reviews 1663 reads
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I think the suit always gets me going, just because it can be so sexy! After being a provider for almost a year and meeting some wild men in suits- wild in a good way- I am a bit more excited when they are dressed up! Even in passing in the city I wonder about how wild that tall business man in a suit is haha.  

Regardless, both are treated the same! Both have paid for the time and deserve to be spoiled and treated as well as the man in the suit! You might even be twenty times nicer than the man in the suit, so I never change treatment based on attire.

cuppajoe 1694 reads
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I actually have been greeted by a provider in an wedding gown.  And not at my prompting, was supposed to be spontaneous fun.  

Posted By: MasterZen
greeted by a provider in a ball gown or formal wear.  
   
 And I know some fabulously wealthy people who dress like bums... because they can and simply don't give a damn what others think at all.  
   
 I believe the idea is to dress comfortably and appropriately for what you have planned, and not try to impress at all.

angelexotic See my TER Reviews 1756 reads
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what I wear is most important. Every one is gettin naked anyhow.
i prefer they do what is most convenient , if they are in nerd clothes good. i am not impressed by the guys that are too like thinking too hard. being polite nice considerate goes a long way with me, they can be in a patata sack but be funny and nice, and I will be happy. The nerdy ones are the best clients anyway.Wear glasses with white tape in center and have buck teeth and i will be pumped when you walk in the door. The easier i can impress them and get away with doing less work the better. omg.

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