Lately, I been having problems shooting twice. For example I visit a girl and I am able to ge the first shot off but after that I am spent. I try to shoot again but is does not happen. For me sometimes I have to wait a day or so before I am ready again. I feel that I am just waisting my time and money on girls who proivide multiples. I am in my mid 30's. What should I do?
in the original m*a*s*h movie, "painless" the dentist (the best equipped dentist in the army, nudge nudge, wink wink) failed to get it up one night and decided to commit suicide. his buddies staged a "going away party" for him and hooked him up with the best looking nurse in the unit for the evening. needless to say, both survived.
anyway, if suicide is out of the question, you might try just relaxing and not pushing so hard for the second "O" - or try booking a couple of hours with an experienced and well-reviewed provider and be honest, ask for her help in coaxing out that golden fleece. or try some natural enhancers like l-arginine, yohimbe, or horny goat weed. "stamina RX" is a popular stimulant you can pick up online or in a smut shop that is rough on your blood pressure but works pretty good. it's not for impotence like the big V or C, but can increase hardness and recovery time for the rest of us.
also, are you in shape? the older you get, the greater the toll nicotine, alcohol, poor diet, belly fat, and general poor physical conditioning will take on your sexual appetitie and stamina.
unless you saw a different version than i did - they laid him out in a coffin and all paid their respects as if it were a wake. then they left, and sent in nurse dish (joanne pflug).
just one nurse, my friend 
I could've sworn my memory of that scene - with both nurses on either side of him as they lay down in the coffin - was accurate. BUT EGADS, I SALUTE YOU SIR!
Upon review, I find I'm missing a nurse and am humbled. You may have one this one Clarence, but beware - if that other nurse DOES turn up, I'll be the first to set the matter straight!
-- Deep 'ly corrected' Heat
Avoid tobacco, medications, cheeseburgers, masturbation, . Moderate alcohol and food intake. Do not set expectations in bed. Focus on playing with your partner not performance. Sleep, don't sweat the small stuff. Increase sexual activity in your 40's and decrease runnng. Been working for me for 35+ years.
If you run into someone like the hot Brasilian girl who showed me how to orgasm without shooting then you will be a very happy guy. (There are books about this but it was more fun learning from her.)
I've also had the orgasm without shooting experience. All I can FANTASTIC!!!
Too bad there are very few providers who have practiced this skill.
If you are lucky you can get 2 pops in 1 hour. I have only been able to do that once with a provider. Make sure you get your rest, exercise, and get plenty of water. I like to go and get a ribeye steak and salid about 1-2 hours before the appointment. Sometimes Salmon is good. You have to have your carbs also. Make sure that the provider does not rush you for the 2nd pop.
Sometimes a toy will help. When I am tired I will put the provider in handcuffs and use a ballgag. Something about putting that ballgag in her mouth makes me extra hard. These toys along with the erotic noise acts as a booster. Some providers have said no because they don't me to control them, lol. Try this and put the provider in lap doggie position.
If she is not into cuffs lap doggie will get your 2nd pop many times. There are varitions where you can lay flat on her and take your time and grind. If she is good she will squeeze her kagels muscles (oh that feels so good). You can bury your face in her hair, sometimes good smelling hair is a trigger point for a pop. The other thing is that you put your hands on the bed and pump the pussy while she lays flat on her stomach. A provider with some good butt checks will cause you to nut pretty good. Don't go to fast at first, take your time because if your are to tired the pop will be hard to cum. Make sure that she has plenty of lube. Astroglide is excellent for this position. If you have a thick penis like me it is excellent for those providers with a tight pussy. Sometimes it is too tight and not slippery enough. As one provider told me "what ever gets you off that is good".
In terms of excercise make sure you get some cardo along with the weight training. Make sure you do pushups and some back exercises. When you are pumping you will be surprised all the muscles that can be involved.
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Sometimes I just like to go all out with a lot of penetration & action . . . and then save it up for a big, intense orgasm.
After that I'm totally spent, and quite happy for several hours. Even with taking the little blue friend (Vit. V). I find the more intense the orgasm (takes concentration and build up to get it there), the longer the ercovery will be.
Clinical evidence, please? Oh, right, I forgot there isn't any.
Volume of load is genetic. All the pills and pineapple juice in the world won't change that.
No proof to offer, but drinking more fluids can't hurt.
What I used to do all night it now takes me all night to do.
Getting there is most of the fun, so, relax and enjoy the ride. See a provider who gives good massages. Better yet, learn to give a good massage yourself. Spend lots of time caressing, kissing, masturbating each other, kiss each others entire bodies, take a nice bath together in some nice mineral salts, play footsy with each others privates, watch porno together, act out fantasies. In short, explore all the ways to enjoy your date without getting off until the time is up, then enjoy the orgasm. Also, nothing wrong with spending a lot of time caressing after the orgasm. A good massage after comming is one of my favorites.
First of all, save up, don't get all excited about your pending date and rub a few out in the planning stages. Second, I would not hesitate to relate this to the girl I'm seeing: "hey by the way I'm really looking to go for the second pop in this encounter". I've never had a problem with honesty with the girls I've seen, more than likely they will either be into the challenge or start in with time limits, etc. If that happens, move on, there are plenty of willing participants out there. Lastly, in my normal life (if anything about my circus is normal), I never go to a second pop in one session with my SO, and most people probably don't either, so this is probably unique to our hobby.
NSF
Works for me, but I can't cum for an hour anyway so I'm all set.
...be glad you can get it up and shoot, and stop worrying about the frequency. If you keep focusing on shooting twice (or more) you will probably end up effecting the one good shot you have (perhaps the preoocupation already does on some level).
Just as there are providers that offer MSOG to make sure you get your money's worth, there are also providers that will engage in wonderful long, drawn out sessions with an intense finally at the end. Consider sessions with tease and denial, or just slow and sensual where you shift your focus to really enjoying the pleasure you are feeling, on every imaginable level. Similar to yoga practice, if you slow down and fine tune your attention inward, you will find results you never knew where there.
Good luck with your endevours...
xoMegan
Have a good time and FORGET anything else. Sheesh, we're not keeping score here.
I think it was Redd Foxx who said re this topic [not an exact quote ; "worry is the 1st time you can't do it twice. panic is the 2nd time you can't do it once."
This will probably be an episodic thing, as it's happened to me.
You probably will notice, however, an obvioous decrease in the quality of your erections as well as possibly the "strength" of your ejaculations.
Is this worse than losing one's hair?
Peace and good erectile health to you.