I'm not talking about providers who willingly offer BBFS as a "service", but about your ATF or some provider you meet for the first time who normally doesn't (or indicates she doesn't).

If you were UNEXPECTEDLY offered BBFS from a provider, would you go through with it or insist on protection being used?

I've heard of some guys insisting AGAINST BBBJ and with all the talk about guys desiring BBFS, I wonder what they would do if actually offered it unexpectedly.

Peace...

I would have to assume that if she offered to me, then she has to others.

We all need to be careful out there.  Thanks, but no thanks.

Ken

I'd never visit a provider who offered BBFS as a "service" and if one offered it to me but said she didn't usually do it, it would freak me out.  My thinking is this: why would a provider offer BBFS unless she didn't have anything to lose?  In other words, I'd be too worried that she was HIV positive.

hypothetical-'cause when the rubber meets the road (or doesn't meet the meat) is when the decision is made, and that's when it is determined which head is doing the thinking. It's easy to be all self righteous and brave in theory, but the heat of the moment is a different story!

The stereotypical answer here is certainly gonna be that they will refuse. Nothing personal to anyone who has already responded here, but when push comes to shove  a lot more guys will do it than will actually admit to it.

TER had a past survey on this topic and a large percentage (60% rings a bell?) admitted that they have had BBFS with a provider.

Personally I've been offered it twice. It wasn't discussed ahead of time, it was a heat of the moment thing. The first time it was offered I actually did go through with BBFS. The girl was a newbie to the biz, I was only her second client ever. Not that this makes it right of course, but it was very easy to rationalize that it was harmless.  I felt like crap afterwards for doing it, and went through the cumpulsory panick, get tested, what the hell was i thinking etc.. Tests were all fine.

A year or so later another heat of the moment situation presented itself and I luckily had the kahoonas to stop and resist temptation.  It wasn't easy, let me tell you.  I hate the feeling of latex as much, if not more, than the next guy and the girls was very hot. Being single I almost forget what the feeling of BBFS feels like! As i was making my decision i stopped and thought of the 100+ reviews this girl had and it made me think of the thousands of guys she's slept with over the years. After getting this thought in my head I had no desire to do BBFS with her.

Same psychology as thinking about Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day to prevent yourself of popping too soon








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after all, none of us can say for sure until we've been there.  But I like to think my sense of self-preservation would win out.  

Truth is, it doesn't make that much difference to me.  Guys have been saying "I can't feel anything with a condom" since they were invented in Elizabethan England.  I strongly suspect that if I gave $10 to everyone between then and now who was speaking the truth, it wouldn't cost me much more than next month's rent.

And for those who might think "she's only doing this for me because I'm special", quit being delusional.  Time to wake up and think with the big head.

I don't even do BBFS with non-providers.

If it was with a provider who I was meeting for the first time then No Way would I do it. If it were my ATF though, the temptation to do so would be unbelievably strong, especially since I've never had such experience but the risk would be too great. I say no now with a clear head but in the heat of it, thoughts could be different but I do think I could gather my wits and say no to it as well.

For the record, I for one have no problems with condoms. The only ones I hate are non-lubricated.

I'm not being self-righteous, just stating my personal position and preference. And yes, I've been in that situation. It was with a young provider who usually gave a full body rub and a BJ.  I knew that once she got to know guys, she sometimes offered FS.  The third time I saw her, she was doing a lot of body-to-body teasing and  dry humping.  Things were getting really hot and heavy and she reached down and started to insert me sans cover.  I stopped her and told her I just wanted her to finish me off with a hj per usual.

There's a lot of ways to have fun in this hobby, but for me, none of them include BBFS.

She led me to believe that I was the only guy she's done this with...can you get dumber than that ?, well, I bought it. The I found out she'd been BB with a lot of guys. My next round of hobby money went to the testing lab. Never get it into your head that you're the exclusive case. There's at least 20 other men thinking the same thing, if not 200 of 'em.

Only once have I experienced BBFS, but it was long ago and luckily the round wasn't chambered in the game of russian roullette.

Me and a buddy got major leage drunk on 4 Jul 1989.  We rented a hotel room as we knew we would be drunk, and later that night we made the call to a local service.  A beautiful young lady showed up, and we started the only three way I've ever participated in.

We started covered, but after about 15 minutes the covers came off.  The statement made from her was "I know I'm safe" and she had her tubes tied; my buddy and I were both tested yearly for HIV, had been tested just a few weeks earlier, and so we were game.

Looking back I shudder.  Those were my dark days when beer ruled me and any other rules went out to window.  I dodged the bullet that time (as did my buddy) but to this day have never played that game again.

i have, three times, with three different providers in the last 2-3 years. i also have dozens of times with "civilians" in the '80s and '90s. i've never had an std of any kind.

Thats a great question........I have never been offered it.  So not sure what I would do in the heat of the moment......

But I would have loved to with my old ATF , but that would never happen.....