...that a client is "boyfriend material"? On at least two occasions, I've had providers tell me that I was the type of guy they'd date outside of their profession, and of course it swelled my head a bit to hear this. Each was very convincing and it was tempting for me to think, "Boy, I must be pretty special to these girls." Question to the guys is, do you guys hear this a lot? Providers, is this just a line out of the SOP? Your answers will dictate whether I ask one particular provider out on a non-working date.
You will know it was if she accepts a non-working date. Even so, if she declines it does not mean that she did not mean it... just that your professional relationship is more important to her than the potential of a personal one. Maybe you are boyfriend material and she just does not want a boyfriend.
Good luck!
The hobby and non-hobby dating is always fraught with potholes my friend. Enter that road at your own risk. If you are single, you have absolutely nothing to lose, drive 75 in a 55 and don't even worry about getting snagged. But if your life outside of what you suggest is too fragile to handle the scrutiny of the situation, then you best be asking out you co-worker and that can be as dangerous as the former. Tread lightly, good soldier because if you feelings get involved, let me suggest a novel by Lewis Grizzard, now deceased. It's called, "She Tore Out My Heart and Stomped That Sucker Flat."
see if she would do exters like a over night for the price of a hour. or a free dinner date. of corce these galls you dont need to be romtica to get and kind or date service or not just not a jerk and have cash.
They are trying to make a living.
Okay, Dr. Obvious. The question for the forum was how often had you guys heard it and whether providers say it regularly.
Was trying to help you out, since you mentioned that you were thinking of asking her out, and the implication seemed to be that you were thinking of becoming a boyfriend to her.
Wasn't interested in getting into some sort of ego/competition thing, which seems to be now where you are really coming from.
Anyway, to answer your question, yes, I have heard it several times. No, I don't think providers say it regularly.
Second provider I ever saw I dated for over a year. She was in another town and I would go to see her twice a month for two or three days. I still paid but her rate went to $250 for 24 hrs. One of the best experiences of my life. Since than I have gone for drinks or to dinner off the clock with several providers, but it has never led to real dating.
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Never the less its a great thing to hear such a compliment. I personally have not had that pleasure. Although, I have been told that I was "so nice" on 2 of my dates. I do believe that we are special to our providers. Whether its a one time date or multiple visits, they look foward to seeing us (at least the good ones do). The fact that they said that to you, means your doing something they appreciate.
Good luck!!
NG
It has been completely true. However, I do believe most providers would chose to stay single while escorting due to the complex feelings involved. Feeling it and actually getting into a real relationship are two different things entirely.
Ciao,
xoxoxo
Isabella
Human nature being what it is, I think it's not unusual that you both say things in the afterglow that you may not mean 100%.
I've said a similar comment several times and truly meant it at the time, but 24 hours later if the gentleman actually asked me out, I'd decline.
Conversely, I've had clients tell me it was a fantastic visit, one of the best they've ever had...they would marry me in a second, etc...and I NEVER hear from them again, LOL.
It happened to me...
I am marrying a lovely lady next March who started out being
my provider ( See my many posts down the board about this).
The experience literally changed my life completely...but it is
DIFFICULT to have a relationship with a provider esp. if she stays
in this line of work....it is by far the toughest thing I have
ever done, including Marine Corps Basic School at Quantico.
Just take the "compliment" for what it is... a compliment.
B. told me that many times but I didn't believe her until she told me to put the benjamins away and then when she said we should move in together...
TF
Makes you wanna go get a few drinks down in the "Hawk", huh?! (That's short for the Hawkins Room at TBS for you non-Marine types).
Absolutely...
TF
I've heard this a few times from different providers too. Who knows, its probably crap. But then, I am very lovable! Regardless, you know its unwise to date them.
-cy