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Can't see how a simple "no thanks" would not work - eom
sfpearldiver 31 Reviews 3071 reads
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1 / 26
How Do I Politely Refuse DATY?

I have seen a provider semi-regularly who offers me DATY. Although I find the offer extremely enticing & I enjoy DATY immensely, I prefer to abstain in the provider/hobby relationship.

How do you say "no thanks" without coming off rude? I don't want to appear unappreciative or give her the impression I find her or the act unappealing -- finding the right words is  just a bit awkward for me.

Thanks

Jacque_Jenesais See my TER Reviews 854 reads
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2 / 26
Is she asking you to do it? If so, tell her it's not you thing in P4P. If not, just don't do it. E


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sfpearldiver 31 Reviews 869 reads
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3 / 26
Re: Is she asking you to do it? If so, tell her it's not you thing in P4P. If not, just don't do i

Yes, she is asking me--it was not me initiating :)

sfpearldiver 31 Reviews 891 reads
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4 / 26
Re: I would say " I would much rather be inside you" or suggest something else that YOU want to do..

Posted By: devindavette
Or maybe just say "maybe we can save that for next time...".  
 
Thanks--I like the way that you worded that--very helpful :)

mtdewking2015 741 reads
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5 / 26
grow some vampire teeth eom

Posted By: sfpearldiver
I have seen a provider semi-regularly who offers me DATY. Although I find the offer extremely enticing & I enjoy DATY immensely, I prefer to abstain in the provider/hobby relationship.  
   
 How do you say "no thanks" without coming off rude? I don't want to appear unappreciative or give her the impression I find her or the act unappealing -- finding the right words is  just a bit awkward for me.  
   
 Thanks!  
   
 

bigguy30 764 reads
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6 / 26
I would just be upfront with the provider and let her know some things you don't do in this hobby.

Also let her know this is nothing against her personally.

This is something you won't do with any provider.



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ziggy440 84 Reviews 753 reads
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7 / 26
Can't see how a simple "no thanks" would not work - eom


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Jacque_Jenesais See my TER Reviews 854 reads
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8 / 26
Oh, then just tell her the truth. You don't do it. She's not going to care, I'm almost certain.

Even if the guy is good at it, I kind of like a break from it too at times, so to me it's nice because it mixes it up.

skarphedin 765 reads
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9 / 26
I do this. It seems to work fine.


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lopaw 29 Reviews 808 reads
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10 / 26
a pearl diver but not a muff diver, eh? -eom-


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HarryWotton 11 Reviews 738 reads
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11 / 26
Tell her you are on a low calorie diet. -e-


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harborview 10 Reviews 738 reads
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12 / 26
Rather than say what you don't want...

suggest where you want it to go.  Yes, "I can't wait to be in you!" is one way or suggest a possition...  "I love it when you are on top!"

adrianamonet See my TER Reviews 742 reads
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13 / 26
What is wrong with just communicating that? I'm sure she will understand.

As long as you do not say anything about it, she will not know -- and that will be an obstacle to you receiving the best experience you can from her. Remember, we are here to make sure that happens! :-)

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SexyJaye7 See my TER Reviews 827 reads
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14 / 26
I've had dates where...

My underwear has never come off. His choice, he just wanted to do other stuff. I wouldn't take it personally if someone didn't want to go down on me, trust me, I have a long list that only want to go down on me. LOL! So it all balances out I guess. I don't understand the providers that follow a script or require certain activities, it's his time that he paid for, use it how he wants. But if you just want to stick it in without any foreplay, not even touching, kissing, and rubbing, then ouch, need the lube. LOL

akiya See my TER Reviews 560 reads
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15 / 26
Eh, indeed lol -e-


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perfectstorm 19 Reviews 685 reads
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16 / 26
Try this


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Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 803 reads
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17 / 26
DATY? NO THANKS. I JUST ATE.

Saw a George Clooney movie The American that had a similar scene with him and an Italian prostitute who wanted him to DATY. He said something like, "I pay to get pleasure, not to give it." Of course they fall in love and the movie kinda sucked, but ...

Posted By: sfpearldiver
I have seen a provider semi-regularly who offers me DATY. Although I find the offer extremely enticing & I enjoy DATY immensely, I prefer to abstain in the provider/hobby relationship.  
   
 How do you say "no thanks" without coming off rude? I don't want to appear unappreciative or give her the impression I find her or the act unappealing -- finding the right words is  just a bit awkward for me.  
   
 Thanks!  
   
 

akiya See my TER Reviews 604 reads
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18 / 26
LOL! -e-


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earthshined 823 reads
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19 / 26
Re: Is she asking you to do it? If so, tell her it's not you thing in P4P. If not, just don't do i

I've never had a provider ask or  hint she wanted DATY.  

 i usually don’t even try it.

Skyfyre 638 reads
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20 / 26
How Do I Politely Refuse DATY?

No thanks sweetie!

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 501 reads
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21 / 26
Um I dunno just say no. I've had guys say they don't DATY with providers. Whatever no big deal...

....well even though I love good DATY if the guy doesn't want to do it I won't bug him about it and respect his wishes. Just like even though I prefer to give bbbj I will give a cbj if he requests it. I won't fuss about his preferences.

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Jstgttnstrtd 18 Reviews 621 reads
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22 / 26
curious - do you not try because you aren't into this? Or...

...is it that you tend to let ladies lead the sessions?
(I love it, and always ask)

Jstgttnstrtd 18 Reviews 620 reads
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23 / 26
very clever lol! (eom)


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hey mikey 8 Reviews 611 reads
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24 / 26
How about:

"Sorry, but I plan on swimming later and can't wait the suggested 2 hours after eating.

sfpearldiver 31 Reviews 581 reads
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25 / 26
Re: a pearl diver but not a muff diver, eh? -eom-

Quite the contrary--as I wrote in my original post, I love it--but for a variety of reasons, I like to keep it out of the hobby :)

asianampman 8 Reviews 825 reads
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26 / 26
Re: Um I dunno just say no. I've had guys say they don't DATY with providers. Whatever no big deal

She works for you and will most likely do or not do anything you wish.   You simply say I don't eat pussy.

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