Have never done it before, but my friend (initially met him as a client) desperately wants to at least remain friends since our break-up..... (Though he's married and deeply committed to the kids, etc) He still calls, emails, sends letters/ pkgs.
Think it's harder for him, as the situation fit right in with his needs.
Have cut things off re future meetings... Can this work -- just being friends? Never done it this way -- it's usually just a clean total break. Though we do get along like lifetime friends....
If his feelings can remain in check perhaps, but if he is in a lifeless marriage and staying just for the kids, then look out for more trouble than he's worth. It's a thin line where you'd like to walk, but don't wish you'd made a different choice if things turn out another way. I take it that you really only had an emotional connection to his visits and though friendship in this context is tricky, I wish you all the best.
Yes.
It is my opinion that friendship is possible outside the context of a previous sexual relationship. Think of those few marriages that break-up and the participants become better friends.
I would guess it would require a fair amount of communication and effort to keep it alive in the beginning, but you need to ask yourself if it is worth the effort?
Some relationships are just too expensive. (I don't mean monitarily)
If you are both clear, honest and open, it could work.
Good luck.
"It's not possible to develop true friendship between opposite sex as long as there is sexual attraction in between" This is a famous line from the movie Sara meets Sally.
Yes but the odds are against it working out. But if “he still calls, emails, sends letters/ pkgs” frequently are you relly sure he just wants friendship? Sounds from your post that you suspect not!
Yes but the odds are against it working out. But if “he still calls, emails, sends letters/ pkgs” frequently are you relly sure he just wants friendship? Sounds from your post that you suspect not!
Seems like this was more than a provider/hobby relationship since you said you two "broke up" instead of he stopped seeing me. Can it work being friends? I don't know. I had something similar happen to me. Needless to say he is seeing me again and says that he can't stop seeing me because he thinks about me often and misses me but every relationship is different. He does sound like he still has interest in you and being more than friends.
The definition of friend can be loosely applied in a number of ways, so the question is what you define as a friend. My favorite saying is "You can't unring a bell"---that is, what's done is done and you can't change the past. But, if you can move on and have another serious relationship without the first guy being stuck in your heart and head, then sure you can be friends. It's even okay to go down memory lane every now and then, as long as you two don't violate the pact of friendship by having sex again.
I would have a very hard time being just friends with my two ATFs. They are super hot women, and I can barely keep my hands and tongue off them from the minute we get together.
God, I hope not!!!!
Then again, I think that describes my marriage.
I have a number of ex-clients plus an ex-husband who have become good friends with me after the sex is no longer part of the relationship. If that's what BOTH of you want, then go for it!