Hi if a guy is missing a body part like a hand, finger, a foot, leg, arm. Should the guy tell you in advance of the first meeting? When the door open up and you find out that he is missing something would you just go through with the meeting because of the money, or would say no thank you?

missing limbs are not ground for rejection. At least for me.

Something small, like a finger or an ear I wouldn't see why. Though if it's something larger, or something that causes disability and requires special accommodation then yes, discuss this beforehand because some providers do not accommodate people with disabilities.

i have a medical background so a missing body part does not put me off, but i would like to know if it pertains to anything else, for example, missing leg, then i need to be aware that you cannot maneuver as easily...just nice to get a heads up

Missing body part?  I find this kind of sexy!  Meow!  
I would like to know in advance, say if you were missing a limb, and not because I would be turned off by this matter, but because I would want to ensure your comfort!  Don't be shy

but to say that a lady would go through with a date with a man due to a missing body part because of the money.. thats so far from the truth with the majority of us! of course there are always exceptions... but...

i have seen men in wheelchairs, prosthetics.. couldnt care less. i just like to know in advance so i can know if i have to take any cautionary measures. some rooms aren't handicapped accessible or at least are a pita for someone in a wheelchair. some hotels may not have an elevator.  

if you feel that you have something to share that a lady would like to know in advance, just share it. the likelihood of someone turning down a gent on the simple fact that he is missing a body part is slim to none.

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I'd like to know so that I don't accidentally do a double-take, which he could find insulting.  
  Even if the person has a deformity or physical abnormality that I personally find disturbing, I would not turn the person away.  Not because of the money, but because I like to "do unto others".  

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As someone who has been shot at but by the grace of God is not missing anything with the exception of his common sense from time to time, I think it's a great answer.  And as for me, I'm always attracted to a woman who notes on her profile that she's disability friendly as it helps me know where her head and heart are - which for me are the two most important body parts.   I guess verbosity is in the eye of the keyboard-holder.

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I've seen gents like you described...had a wonderful time!

It doesn't matter to me at all.  I might look for a fraction of a second and get over it.

After enough experience in this business and in life, nothing surprises me any more. But I remember how I felt the first time I was with someone missing an arm. I wanted to ask but didn't know how, wanted to NOT look, but wanted to catch a glimpse. Just in case the provider is inexperienced or has some kind of issue, I would mention it.

t least, Alyssa uses the expression, "I couldn't care less" correctly, unlike many of the contributors to these messages and your comment is irrelevant.

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P411 allows a client to do so in their profile.

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I lost my left arm and my right arm is permanently in a brace after 4 tours in Iraq. I always tell the provider ahead of time because some people might be anti war or can't deal with a missing limb, it just avoids an awkward moment when the door opens. So far everyone has had no problems and don't seem offended, maybe it's because I'm still the same person that I was before that fateful day, always an Officer and a Gentleman!

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First, the easy one.  In cities like NY or Boston with a lot of older residential real estate, it might not be unusual to find your hostess in a 4, 5 or 6 story walk-up with NO ELEVATOR.  I've had my share of those! You would need to know about that IN ADVANCE.

The law in NYC is: Title 27, Subchapter 6, ARTICLE 5 ACCESS REQUIREMENTS AND EXIT TYPES, §[C26-604.1] 27-368 General. ... "Elevators or escalators shall be provided in all new buildings exceeding four stories in height except that ..."   That's for NEW buildings.  Taller grandfathered buildings (5 and 6, I think) are still w/o elevators.  I've got all my parts and I'm in pretty good shape so I don't have to huff and puff my way up to the top, but it can be a nuisance.  Even some old guy with good parts but bad lungs would need to know about that.  If there is an unanticipated or uncorrected physical (real estate) impediment, you are SOL.

 
Many respondents said they would have no problems seeing someone disabled as you say, but that they would like advance notice so they can make sensible preparations.    

Second, MORE IMPORTANT point is this: Do you want to show up at someone's door (or elevator door) and risk being rejected for any reason, good ("elevator broken until tomorrow. sorry!") or bad ("I don't see disabled clients."), or being greeted by a stressed hostess ("OMG! What is this??? What do I do?  What do I say?  Do I say anything? OMG, OMG!")? OR ...

Do you want to be greeted by a cool, calm hostess, willing and well-prepared to care of your needs, wants and desires?

I am very, very grateful to have all of the usual parts (and they're still working) but I think I would ask her in advance about any problems I might have that would be out of the ordinary.  If she knows she can't make me happy, I want to know before I waste the time and travel to see her.

Good luck

I only had one lady stop by that would not see me. That is out of over thirty ladies stopping by. I just don't want to share this information with her while I am in the process of setting up the date. For the fear of her not understanding before she get a chance to see. I do hate crickets never to know for sure if I did something wrong or was it because I told her more about me and she was just not sure if she could go through with it.

mobility issues.  In general providers have been very kind.  Most often, I'll get help getting undressed, dressed.  I always ask about access...  steps, elevators...  I'm quite slow on stairs.

Only if he is in a wheelchair. Luckily I have wheelchair access but that would be the only thing I would need to know in regard to missing a body part.

Now if a john has a nasty skin condition like a flair up of psoriasis/eczema/or a back full of pustules, yes I would like to know, because honestly I would not want to see a guy like that especially when I have to be skin to skin

I don't at all mind being surprised by a missing appendage/limb...I'm endlessly fascinated by the human body and differently abled bodies are no exception. If the hobbyist is into it, I'm all for eroticising the difference too!

Agreed with all upthread about mentioning wheelchair reliance, if only to ensure the accessibility of the meeting site.

Weeping/oozing skin conditions are another issue altogether- I would not be able to see someone with open, active sores or the like.

It would really depend on a gentleman's own comfort level.  If a guy tells me about it, I'd just say, Hm, ok.  If we are getting to know each other, and I notice, I'll ask about it because I love hearing people tell their stories.