I am very blessed by God. I own my business and employ another 200 folks. I am 34 and married to a beautiful lady and have 2 precious kids. About a year ago I began engaging in services of a “Model Material” provider. She is 29 with a great sexy body, intellectual and overall a great personality. It began as dinner dates followed by some very “Hot & Kinky” satisfying sex for me. Prior to her I had been serviced by others but this provider became my ATF. I saw no need to be service provider shopping and became a regular with her. Earlier she gave me a CBJ but once I became a regular she began offering me BBBJTCIM and Greek. I called her often as I could but on average it was not unusual to see her 2 to 3 times a month. I felt: we mutually enjoyed each other company and late past summer, I asked her to accompany me on a business trip. She was delighted, we agreed on a fair fee for her time and off we went. We both had a great time and I then began taking her on longer 3 to 4 night trips. She began offering deep discounts and we both were having a great time. Earlier this January we went on a one night business trip and I was used to BBBJ but she stunned me we she began CG w/o a cover. While in missionary position she whispered she forgot to purchase some covers and we continued. We engaged in all positions but no Greek. I exploded “inside her” in a doggie position. I saw her locally a couple of times later in the month the service was covered. We then early this month went on 2 night trip. On our first night the same thing happened we had unprotected sex and her response was she forgot to purchase some rubber. So the next morning before leaving the room, I did my usual routine: I gave her some money so she could go see the town and asked her to not forget to purchase the “rubber” and I winked @ her and left the room for my meeting. So the next night while we were engaged in sex she didn’t put on any cover and I became a little weary but continued. So late in the night while she was asleep I got up and checked in her purse and to my amazement I found a pack of cover in it. So she had lied to me and became very concerned. The next morning we packed up and flew back. After a few days of our return I called her and confronted her on the phone of my discovery. She became very angry, irate and agitated called me all sorts of name and made some threatening comments of exposing me and hanged up. She calls the next day and asked me to meet her for dinner and I agreed. When I saw on her dinner she apologized for her behavior and confessed to me that she has been having “mixed feeling” about our relationship. “Relationship” I said: I replied that to me it’s been a business arrangement. I made it clear that my attraction to her was only sexual. She nodded her head but insisted that she is still confused.
I have not called or seen her since our last dinner. She has called me few times and asked me to come back. She also has said that she has sorted things out emotionally and likes to continue our business arrangement. I have not seen her yet. At this point I am very apprehensive about the whole incident and feel that I should just put an end to the so called “relationship” OR do I risk going back to see if the business arrangement can continue as in the past. The sex has always been great.
RUN!! Start thinking with your big head, not your little head. If you can't see the trap being laid (no pun intended) here, you deserve all the heartache, pain and financial disaster coming your way.
Can you afford 2 families?? Can you afford to give half your net worth to your wife upon your divorce?? Listen to someone who has been through a divorce and had to give more than half his net worth to his ex-wife (me). RUN!!
1. Are you being setup?
possibly.... It has always scared me the way some providers write in their ads that they seek the company of "affluent, generous, gentlemen." As a part-time hobbyist, my worst nightmare has always been "what if she threatens to expose me?" Of course the chances of this happening are very slight but, why did she bother to mention this possible scenario when you confronted her over the phone? monetary blackmail?
2. Are you risking too much?
Absolutely YES. You're married with two kids. You are having unprotected sex with a provider. STD's can be passed on to your spouse. Or, perhaps your provider friend wants to get pregnant with your baby! What was her response when you asked her about the hidden condoms? Did she say she just wanted to feel the real you inside her? This has happened to me once before with a provider friend who was feeling "very turned on" and verbalized her desire to have me inside her, without the latex barrier. Of course, I declined but my thought at the time was that her motives were sincere. I suppose that your woman friend felt quite close to you and wanted you to feel that your "relationship" was special. But, how can you be sure of her motivation after she threatened you over the phone?
Without knowing your perception of this woman's character I don't even know what to suggest to you. Hopefully, this incident will blow over. I think you're playing with fire and at 34, you've got your whole life in front of you. Do not call her!
PG
Your first mistake was in January when you started doing it without a condom. Your second was continuing. Your third was not running immediately she told you she was confused about your relationship. Go get an STD test, hope she gets her period as scheduled this month and move on. Don't do this again!
that she so deceived you (hope you're not blessed with another child!) - why in the hell did you allow it?!
And, bang your head on the wall for this - you allowed it AGAIN!
And, I don't know about you, but before I even get started, the condoms are on the night stand, ready to grab. Sometimes I have them all over the bed, so there's no excuse when you're really steamed wild, not to grab one - they're everywhere!
What? You didn't notice they weren't there??
If it sounds like I'm angrily disgusted, I am. This is about the 5th time I've heard something like this very recently.
This is on you buddy..
I suppose she forgot her Pill, too...
I DON'T POUNCE THE SO W/O A RAINCOAT! She had to remind me WHEN WE WERE TRYING TO GET KIDS!
I'd slap you silly but I don't know you and I don't know where you are.
It's raining. Keep your coat on.
Besides- do you want to bring something home...?
I'd be mortified (as well as probably divorced ) if I gave my SO some sort of clap!
I hope that the day that I choose an ATF is the day that I run head first into a speeding semi-truck. The risks are too large and the benefits, in my mind, are too small. I pal around with a provider who I once saw for business, but whenever I have her over I make sure that the visit does not involve sex of any kind.
HIV is forever.
Child support is for 18 years.
Divorce is unpleasant (but worth it!)
1) Go for the sex, bring your own condoms and don't EVER let Mr Winkels talk you out of using them.
2) Find another provider from the THOUSANDS that there are to choose from on TER that are as good if not better than the one you have and then proceed back to step #1
3) Hang around your local high school and ask the girls over 17 if they've ever considered a career as a Web Model (this is the "grow your own" approach) then proceed back to step #1
4) Hire a stacked secretary and proceed back to step #1
Funny how we always end up at step 1, isn't it?
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Before I switched to study anthropology, I gave some STD prevention classes as a high school teatcher in biology.
Did you know that 80% of all women will have Chlamydia at least once at one point in their lives? And basically you wouldn't know by looking because there are rarelly visible symptoms....
And that's just the peak of the iceberg because theer are hundreds of virus, parasites and bacterias that are opportunistic invaders of genital organs. By the way, the most common side efect is sterility.
If you get tired of this game, you might as well try the Russian roulette for cheap thrills.....
Had to get that out. Seriously though. You are risking a great deal for very little.
Think about your wife and children, let alone the financial ruin to ensue. Get tested and hope she is not pregnant.
Good luck and keep us posted.
How can a reasonably intelligent man ask these questions? Oh yeah, it's the sex!!
You are risking your entire existence. No more wife, no more kids, 50% less assets.
Run, do not walk, to another "model material" provider and do not get emotionally involved. Easier said than done but you better give it a try.
It continues to amaze me what men will risk to get laid by beautiful women! (Myself included)
Sterilization is the number 1 form of contraception in the USA.
You're 34 with 2 kids and you haven't had a vasectomy?
If you don't want anymore offspring with your WIFE or a provider, get a vasectomy. It is 100% effective in preventing fertilization of an egg!
AND, today there is a reversible vasectomy available that plugs the vas deferens with a polymer instead of snipping it.
Now for STD protection you still need a latex condom. But your post seemed to be directed more toward the pregnancy angle.
But for this particular lady? Just don't see her anymore. Would you hire her as an employeee for you business knowing her integrity now?
TET
Geesh! I don't mean to sound harsh, but get a grip honey.
You should always wear a cover. I always bring them with me, but it would be nice to occasionally have someone else at least offer their own covers. They can get expensive.
If someone told you to jump off a bridge would you? Next time bring your own just in case your provider doesn't carry them. And, if I were you, I'd run like @##$$%^^!!@@! if she wants a relationship and you're happily married.