I met a provider last ningt who's TER profile advertised greek, for an additional fee. I added the extra fee to the donation, anticipating an anal option. The provider didn't deliver on this, however it isn't something we discussed prior to the session. She didn't count he donation prior to starting, and I didn't let her know I was upping the ante. Being new, I didn't say anything, and let it slide; ererything else about the session was top drawer.
How should I handle something like this is the future, to insure there's no dissapointment for unmet expectations?
Input form experienced hobbiests, and providers would be appreciated.
Thanks.
During your contact you can try some veiled travel references, but that will get some of your emails deleted unanswered. If she doesn't say anything on her site to indicate that something is available you will need to rely on her reviews and take your chances.
That's a tough one to arrange before your first meeting.
Oh, and understand that in her mind the extra hundy was a tip.
if your profile info is incorrect, there's an easy way to fix that... email staff. I did it and lo and behold, my rates were shown correctly.
I don't personally offer any of what this gentleman posted about, but if I saw an extra hundy in the envelope, I'd assume it was a tip as well.
Katie
If you want something like that the first time with a lady you will need to let her know. There is some preperation time that should be involved with a travel to greece. I understand it can be very sketchy as to how to ask after you have the date set. Personally I can't really think up something that might pass the "delete" part of the ladies minds.
I would probably see her once to get a rapport with her, then after the first session bring it up and discuss it for the next time. Once you have actually been in a session with her, then all the straight forward talk can come out.
b-
In this case just chalk it up to experience. In the future if her web site mentions the higher rate for greek you can state in the email or phone chat that you will be paying the additional fee for the hour without mentioning a specific reason.
If you speak respectfully and without graphic reference she will be able to read between the lines. Something like I see two different hourly rates on your web site, I will be paying the XXX rate for the hour if that is OK with you.
I have never had a problem with that. But then again you should be sure to give some verifiable provider references before this kind of talk. So it is harder to do when you are travelling.
ask for Greek during the session, and then pay the extra if delivered. Any attempt to discuss it before the session will usually torpedo the whole thing.
Don't pay for something extra up front because there could be a number of reasons it won't be provided. As you experienced, you shouldn't and can't really ask for change back at the end of the session.
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If her profile indidcates greek is available for a higher fee, bring that amount with you, but don't automatically include it in the envelope. For any number of reasons, greek may still not happen even though you have come prepared to ask for it.
Also, you stated the provider didn't deliver on greek - did you ask for it? Did you tell her that you had included the donation for it in the envelope? From the sound of your post, it sounds as though you included the donation, but didn't tell her. She didn't fail to deliver on a service because she didn't know you were expecting it.
We are not psychic! Although communication is limited prior to meeting for the first time, once you are face to face, it is up to you to tell her what you want!
Also, don't just go by what it says on her profile, read the reviews. The profiles aren't always up to date. Of course peruse her website too as there may be mention of it there and a ladies site is usualy up to date..hopefuly. Many ladies do need extra preperation for trips to greece. Hard to bring up on first visit I think but after she' knows you're not LE and have passed muster, you can let her know beforehand I would think. In a subtle way of course.
Oh, you just burst my bubble. Perhaps I had unrealistic ideas.
Well actually, yes I am and I just have to ask - what were you thinking when you wore that outfit you were wearing while you posted this message??
Kidding! 
but I was running late and got dressed in the dark. Oh, and I have no taste in clothes. But at least I stayed warm.
I no longer have greek on the menu but I used to. If a trip to greece was mentioned prior to the session then it is cool, but I would never go there without being very prepared, so if it was sprung on me, I couldn't. (I am a clean freak, lol)so this is a valuable lesson. I am sure that you now know how to handle it and I am sorry you did not know from the start.
Best,
C
Thanks everyone for your posts. In retrospect "didn't deliver" was a poor chocce of words on my part. There's definately a learning curve, and I'm greatful there's a place to ask questions.
It's quite possible she only offered it to one client, and admin added it to her menu when he sent in his review.
You had NEVER met this lady before, and don't know if anal is something she would offer to everyone for an extra fee (unlikely), or just to someone with whom she felt a great connection (much more likely). So basically you gave her a nice tip. Period. Because unless she's a psychic, she has no idea of what you "weren't" trying to tell her.
I can't stress good communication enough. Unless this lady calls herself a Greek Queen or is a porn star who does anal in films, the first encounter is NEVER the right time to ask for greek, or expect it. Greek is something most girls won't do with most clients, no matter how much $$$ they are offered. It's much more personal and has the potential to be more dangerous to our health. We're very delicate creatures and don't want strange plows tearing up the garden.
If the session was good enough for you to go back, do so without [expecting] Greek because if you are rebuffed upon asking, you shouldn't leave feeling slighted. If you absolutely have to have it, then I would advise you to see another provider who makes it her specialty. Otherwise you will likely end up with hurt feelings and cause yourself to lose out on a great provider.
This should be arranged ahead of time after you have been verified. Many ladies have a special diet and other planning prior to visiting Greece.