I am a nice guy, never been in any trouble who works a job with hours that makes finding a normal social relationaship with the opposite sex unlikely.

I saw the same provider five times in 2003 and then decided to try to see a different provider.  That provider looked up my review of the first provider and contacted her for a reference.  The first provider gave me a "bad" reference, I feel likely, out of being upset that I had tried to see a different provider.

In trying to prove I was not a bad client with the second provider, I just made thing worse, a lot worse.

I have never ever used alcohol or drugs and I don't smoke.  I always showed up showered and clean.  I never ever harassed or pressured the first provider for anything inappropriate.  In fact, after the second provider called for a reference, the first provider sent me an invitation for an appointment, so I felt that was "proof" I was not a "bad" client.

I work a job with hours that makes a normal social relationship with a person of the opposite sex unlikely.

Since I am obviously clueless as how to fix my reputation, I would appreciate any feedback on how to "clear" my name.

Thanks!

Perhaps you should go with a more dramatic one like MissisippiMudSnakeFred. Just a thought.

Try fourinchthick that should help.

My suggestion would be to sign on with RoomService 2000(if not that one...one of the other companies that verify you) and not use the provider you already know as a reference

Some providers will even give you a discount if you're registered with a verifying company

It's just a one time fee and you're pretty much verified  forever...you'll just have to send the provider your full name and city where you live and the lady emails or calls them to see if you're a member of RS2K...if so...you're good to go

Be aware though that RS2K will check you out far more completely than most providers do...they do SAY once their investigation is complete they get rid of the info they gather on you and just keep your name and city so they can tell the ladies you've been verified

...Somebody will see you eventually.  Don't see the old provider.  You aren't owned...Harry

Fred

 It sounds to me like the first provider is pissed because you are seeing someone else.
 You must be fine in her eyes if she invited you to see her after she gave you a bad reference.
 What she is doing is just kicking her self in the ass, at least if it was me I would not see her again, and would tell her why if she asked.
 Go find someone else have a great time and forget about provider #1.

Big hugs,
Tammy

The first provider gave you a "bad" reference, after seeing you FIVE time! She has a problem not you...  That was a cheap shot on her part.  LIke the guys said, "Don't see the old provider" How can you trust her after that and why would you want to see her again....
GG

Try keeping your TER user name more private and use an alias for contacting providers with your TER handle. I guess that is how you contacted the potential provider. Or, perhaps she asked you for the TER handle. When contacting a provider new to you, ask her if she would like provider references, then give to her references you feel comfortable with.

Well four inch Fred,

If your heart is really set on meeting the second provider, why don't you just forward a complete copy of the email, from the first provider inviting you to a cozy pow wow, after her bad reference and I am sure that the second provider will be able to come to a fair conclusion on her own.

In addition...for FUTURE use...if you are going to be required to provide references, contact your references before giving them out. It is just like a 'job' reference. You are much more likely to get a good reference if you call or e-mail the person first and ask "May I use you as a Reference?".  This is a courtesy that goes a long way towards keeping everyone happy.

LMAO

Ask the first provider why she gave you a bad reference.
duh

I have no idea how to clear your name with #2, but it sounds like #1 has become a little possesive.

First and foremost, it just baffles me when I hear about providers getting "jealous" and "scorned" or "pissed-off" that a current or previous client is seeing a different provider besides them. This is SOME nerve...I mean girls....please we are in the business of providing discreet, and in most case, extra-marital activities.
Do these girls think they are some sort of "provider-girlfriend" or "escort-wife"?! The person that saw you in the first place is already looking for something extra on the side. Think about it.....do you think he is mandated to be in a "monogomous escort relationship" with you? Looks kind of silly when you read huh?

So, I would suggest the same as any other person with good common sense. Tell the previous provider thats giving you a bad rap to go pound some sand and look for another lady who can screen you based on references and info YOU provide her. I hardly ever ask for another provider reference. TER is a good place to start.....
Good Luck and ciao!

xoxoxoxox
Carol

FourInchFred is not so bad of a name. Good girls bring toys to the session that may make up for the lack of. A lot about your name here, so wanted to let you know that I do not think it is so bad of a name.

Jolie

There is a lot of fish in the TER sea!

Maybe so, but rs2000 has you send your CC info in an email, whereas Date-Check has a secure web page.  I'm in computer security and I'm telling you that you're crazy to put that kind of information in a message that will traverse the Internet in clear text.  Identity theft happens very easily this way.

My opinion is that rs2000 is a poorly run system.  They don't even respond to requests for alternative ways to submit CC info.  Pay the higher fee to have your data submitted securely.

mjr