In reading another thread, I realized that not one provider I've ever seen has called me by my first name. Even the ones I've seen many times. They haven't called me anything but "babe", or "sweetie', or that sort of thing.

Is that odd or normal?

Have you ever called the lady you are with something different?

I vividly remember the few times my current friend "slipped" and called me by my name. Twice out loud  
and once in a stern email ... she then signed off with
her real name. I think me likes "sweet plum" better lol

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Nope not odd. Even though she knows my real name, my new ATF calls be "Babe". I call her "Babe" right back. Even when we text each other. She's Awesome!!!!  

Why should they care about learning your name if you're one and done?  For agency Kgirls, they call all of their customers "honey."  

I will use a person's first name... at first. Once we've built a rapport or exchanged a bit of correspondence I may throw in a "Hey there, love...".  

When I first moved to the South for college, I felt like the "baby", "sweetie", "darlin'" stuff that the administration used was a bit fake and slightly condescending. I wasn't the only person who felt that way. Ever since, I have always opted to be as neutral as possible until I get to know someone - I don't want to turn them off. Now what is said in the heat of the moment is different *winks* but before that, I'm going to use your name because I find it to be more polite.

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Other than in written communication, or in a group situation, how often does anyone address you by your first name - friends and family included?  

I recently went on a trip there, and was always addressed as 'honey' and 'sweetie pie' and 'doll.'

I'm a NYer, so that felt REALLY weird to me. Call me my name, say 'Hey you!' or even 'Ho!' or 'Bitch!' if it's the right context. But 'doll'??? I mean, really? I am not remotely like a doll... except maybe one that's been under the bed too long.

I've noticed that my Southern clients seem to call me 'baby,' 'sweetheart,' 'dear,' 'darling,' etc... my Northeastern clients don't seem to use pet names at all.  

If it's absolutely necessary to use pet names, I kind of like 'darling' and 'dear.' BUT I CANNOT STAND 'baby.'  

I don't use pet names. It's not in my vernacular. I generally call people by whatever name they sign their emails with, or whatever comes out of their mouths when they say, 'Hi, I'm _____.' I have two clients (referred to me by a friend) whose first names I do not know. I address emails to their email monikers. In person, I just say 'hi.'

The closer you become to someone, especially someone who deals with the public, the more likely it is that you become a name instead of a number.

Bartenders are a great example, a regular might only be remembered as the "Crown Royal neat guy" while a friend is remembered as "Steve"

I wouldn't worry much about it, unless it's happening with someone you think of as more than just a hooker and you are worried your feelings aren't reciprocated.

Pet names seem disengenous until you actually feel some affection for the person.  

Or baby, or any pet names. Lol

... but once we meet I don't remember either of us using any names at all.

Hun
Doll
Dear
Sweetie
Papi
Daddy
Pero
Fuckface
Mi Amor
But NEVER by my real first name.  Except for a select few.
I love them.

They say we're young and we don't know
We won't find out until we grow
 
   "Hey, Babe."?
 
Well I don't know if all that's true,
'Cause you got me, and baby I got you.
 
   "Hey, Babe."?
 
I guess that's so, we don't have a plot
But at least I'm sure of all the things we got.

You must have some Latina lovers.

And Pero?  Doesn't that mean dog 🐶 ?

In 15 years I've only given my real first name to four of them. Out of them only two have ever used it in communications, sparingly. At the same time only two have shared with me their first name. My real or hobby name (s) are rarely needed in communications anyhow.  

I may be wrong, but the transparent phoniness of these pseudo-endearments is a big turn-off. It's somewhat like a diner waitress calling a customer "Hon" —except we're not bargaining for intimate contact with the waitress. And to paraphrase The Talking Heads ca. 1979, this ain't no diner.

I'd almost rather be called "Hey, you." It has a greater ring of authenticity.

The lady will always know my real name, and she can call me by it.

Peace out.

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Some people are not good with names...I would not take it personal or feel bad...I rarely call clients by their first names, including my regulars. Everybody is "honey" to me, including the checkout person at the grocery store!

"pero" means "but" not butt, but "but". lol

I guess Jake is only a pedantic putz in English, not other languages.

And that's better?  LMAO!

It's like listening to a chicken being strangled.

Whatever they sent me through massaging is what I call them or will ask them what they prefer to called. Personally, I think it makes a nicer more personal experience. But I do use terms of endearment as well.

Absolutely! I was in. casino industry for over 8 years and it was very customary to speak to them by name(players cards were a god send) and have their favorite drink ready or what not. Maybe it's Vegas hospitality industry stuck in me, but I prefer to use names.

And completely understandable.  I have been know to do the same thing in return... it's just easier.  That said - there are woman who use my real name occasionally - but I have seen them a number of times.

is hot-looking, he already knows he's a "babe," so its okay to call him that.  If he's not hot, then it might come off as fake and disingenuous.  Its a fine line if you're not certain the guy is universally hot-looking.  I get called babe all the time.   (Not true, but I had to say it anyway - lol)

and you were shocked when no one had any idea what the fuck you were trying to say. jaja

As for the sound of you choking your chicken, I think I will just leave that one alone.

Yes, if the guy is an Adonis, sure, "Babe", "Gorgeous" or "Handsome" work.  If he is short and portly with his nose hair braided into his goatee, maybe it's best to pick a different name.

..... my name into my ear as they are just about to cum. "Oh.... Mick!"  
Sounds bloody beautiful.

For some reason that I can't explain, I don't like being called hon. All I know is that it goes back to a childhood assciation. I also find it annoying if someone keeps using my name. Unless there is some possible confusion on who is being spoken to, an unusual event during a session, its just inefficient. I know who you are talking to, you don't have to remind me.

When they said, "Oh Shit" as they came.  

I've also seemed to have fallen prey to the southern tradition of using terms of endearment.  I use "hun" for clients regardless of whether or not I remember their names and "doll" for my female friends and family members...Funny how living in the south can switch your vocabulary around...I can see how it seems condescending though as that's the way I viewed it when I first moved here.

I've been called by my first name and variations on my first name, too. I don't think it's important either way.

"Babe" has the connotation of "good looking" in certain contexts, but not all the time. I take it in the provider context to be short for "baby." Merely a diminutive of a common pet name.

I'm sure the Japanese are hard at work on a perfectly efficient conversational sex robot for you. In the meantime, you probably could just tell your provider not to use your name.

Why is everyone getting all riled up about this? She calls you Babe and you call her Babe. So what? I call my new ATF Babe and she calls me Babe. It's no big deal for me. Actually I think it's cute. Even when I text her I text her as Babe. Yeah I know her real name. And no I'm not going to give out her info. And Yes I see her BBFSCIP. It's her preference. So everyone just relax already. Besides when was the last time you married guys had your wife call you Babe? I'll bet not since the day you got married. These days I'll bet she calls you a four letter word and it's not Babe.  LOL!!!!!!!  

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hahahaha yes i remember some similar situation with a guy who told me "I'm Italian" and when i started to talk italian he was like WTF???? With poker face. Hilarious.

I really really hate when the guys knows that I'm latina start to call me MAMI.

I'm not your f**** mother! But I need to keep my manners and education and with a nice smile i say... My name's KALY. Thanks. hahahaha Maybe I'm a badass...

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superlative adjectives would be in order.  
Ciao "gorgeous"

Hung ... but I'm very sensitive to being called Bigballs
.... now if you get it to stand up straight and hard ...  
what nickname might I be heard calling you?

'Handsome"    as in " hand some $$ over"  with an outstretched open hand

He can't get rid of that odd accent.

Call me Otto.  And here is Otto's favorite clip on the subject.

but I know her real name. I still like her "stage" name better, though.

Wouldn't 15 to 20 three to four hour visits constitute being a "regular"?

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Not close as in I'm falling in love.  

It's not important, but I just find it odd.

As for being a number, I remember one provider I saw twice refer me to me as "my one o'clock" on the intercom on our first date.

As I think about this, I would feel more valued as a customer if I were called by my real first name. I give my real first and last name for screening, and sign off on all emails and texts with my real name. Sometimes I think it's just too much trouble to remember the customer's real name, or maybe there's a concern about blurting out the wrong name when things get heated.

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Okay - maybe I'm the weird one!  When I meet a friend for coffee, say, the likelihood is that we never address each other by name.  It would seem oddly formal, actually.  So, in regard to your question, I wouldn't automatically assume that a playmate not addressing you by name is some kind of hookerish behavior.

OK, funny.  Why not?  Beats "Hon."

Well my mother tongue is Spanish and also speak Portuguese, so learn Italian wasn't difficult (and my grandma is Italian), but for someone who speak English i guess is pretty difficult, as a language with latin influence, the grammar can be a pain ass :S

For me the language of love is French, I startet to take classes but... se dificil!

I don't mind the pet names as much as some, but I make it a point to call my clients by their first name so they know I am present with them and not with someone else in mind, or worse - that I care so little I don't even remember his name at all.

Yes there are Otto's in Italy but the name is German and any Italian with that name has a German ancestor way back. The German names Oddo, Odo, Otti, Oti, Oddi, Odi and Oto found in both Germany and Italy all derive from the German name Otto whom moved from Germany into Italy hundreds of years ago and are from the same family roots.  Even if the name is semi common in Italy, it is a German name and any with that name likely sport a German ancestor along the way. Look it up. History of names is facinating. I just thought I should enter into this who can be the bigger putz contest. How did I do?

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And she knows my 1st name before we meet.  (I've never given my last name to ANY Provider, including Providers who I've seen 20, 30, 50 times).

ALL of my Providers call me by my 1st name and I call them by their 1st name

I hate being called "babe, sweetie etc." - this is just me.  I can only remember 2-3 times when I Provider called me "honey" or such.  I told 'em to please don't call me that...

Just sayin

At least you finished strong.
Did you watch the video.

It makes it more personal...

It's extremely cheesy is all. Lol.

Cheesy or not I love calling my new young provider "Babe". She seems to like it.

I've been called both by my real name, yes I do give it out,  as well as pet names.  

Only one review here for now I know, but I have been in hobby in the past and recently returned. Could easily have a few more now, but I always ask and most actually decline a review. They are established here and by other means.  

I will agree that in the South it may generally happen more. lol... I've been called similar things all my life even at grocery stores, etc... I've always actually liked it. Maybe because I'm so used to it.  

But I do get a mixture of both.  
(Even been called Boo! Only One who does that, and there is a backstory to it. )

If familiar with Dale Carnegie; he wrote:

Yes, I am the biggest putz on this thread. My life is complete! Maybe I should go for a SPOTY?  

As for the movie I skipped it until after I posted. As I said I really wanted to be the biggest putz on this thread after all.

hahaha good one! but in Milano the German comunity is really big!

Haha!! Good one.  That works for me too!!

"darlin"'   darlin

and a favorite at that, refused to call me by my nickname that I've used all my life but rather by my real name but even that not very often.

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No, I'm NOT the ex-Laker.  The ladies call my johnson "Magic" because they love the magic it does to them!  ROFLOL