This is just another one of my hypothetical questions to ponder. I've never had bbfs with a provider and this is not a thinly veiled attempt to find it. Nor is it an endorsement or anything else. I'm just intrigued by human behavior and psychology.
What scares you most about the idea of BBFS? Disease or pregnancy
(For a hobbyist, 18 years of child support payments will surely cut into your hobbying budget.)
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The use of disposable petroleum products is going to tear the ozone another asshole.
Its one thing to impact your own life with super-AIDs or get a provider pregnant with a litter of little providers and hobbyists, or worst have to make a trip to Planned Parenthood and "plan your parenthood."
But it is quite another to destroy the whole world.
Sure gives new meaning to TOFTT.
I'd never try it. Getting a disease would be my answer. I'd be afraid old Mr. Happy would shrivel up and fall off.
Frankly, both would be serious consequences for acting irresponsibility (death being the worst).
Have you considered a 3rd problem? Would you really want to spend time with anyone who would let everyone do that to her? To me the mindset of just not caring about herself or me would be the biggest turn off (and an immediate indication that I need to make a hasty exit).
They have these things called birth control pills...
It's all about fear of disease for me. I had the hottest stripper you could imagine try to bare back me in a VIP room about a year ago. She was drunk and horny and we had talked about FS outside of the club a couple of times. When I told her no way she wanted me to stick it in her ass...still a no-go for me.
Boston, I have come to find I am living vicariously through all your adventures!
All it takes is a friendly smile, a pleasant demeanor and the right amount of cash!
I am living, breathing proof that size, looks and hair just don't matter!
A lady willing to have unprotected full contact with a stranger;
or a stripper who actually puts out.
A stripper who puts out is not that uncommon, at least not in these parts! Now, is it worth the BS? Most of the time no and most of the time it will cost you at least what an hour with a good GFE gal will. Almost never worth the effort.
Stranger? Well, I've known her for three years but yeah, scary stuff...
Your a stronger man than I am. Though I would just just come out of the pocket with the condom I almost prepetually have with me.
I can attest to shit going down in VIP rooms though, for certain.
-M
because, although it is a nice theoretical issue to kick around, there is no real chance that you will ever be pegged as the father. First of all, I'm sorry, but there is not one swinging dick reading this that is hot enough to motivate a provider to do anything for the first and only time. If she offers BBFS to you, you will not be the one and only. Also, She will not get some divine epiphany the moment that your swimming sperm hits and breaches the egg, which could be hours after you have hit the lobby button on the elevator. Chances are, she will not know she is pregnant until some individualized time after she should have gotten her period. During that time, there will be a number of "special" clients that feel the nature. There really is no way she can single out one guy to drag into court for the child support. She cannot hold an American Idol type casting call, because no judge in the world would let her summons in that many people.
So, with the pregnant thing out of the way, the disease thing jumps up and smacks you in the head. My first impression was- No fucking way, that is nuts. Then I thought about it (thanks Tunneler for the distraction) and started wondering why I had that first reaction. Is it because the idea that it was a provider and a hobbyist, and not "normal" people. Well, I'm a hobbyist, and I'm normal. Also, 95% of the providers that I have met are more "normal" than the so-called normal people that I have met.
In my dumb and crazy youth, I had unprotected sex with girls that I picked up along the way. It tended to depend on the availability of protection in that nanosecond I gave myself to consider stopping. A hard cock has no conscience or reason. I will flat out say that 95% of the providers that I have been with are either just as "good" as those non-providers or better. So, what's the difference. Well, no offense, but I haven't met you guys, and I don't know what kind of deposits you have left for me. I am happy to say that I have reached an age that I positively would not have unprotected sex with anyone, provider or not, for the exact same reason.
So, a long winded way to say that it isn't a provider-hobbyist issue, but a larger, societal issue as to having unprotected sex. It is like playing Russian Roulette without an empty chamber.
There is one major difference. An active provider is much more likely to have sex with many more partners than even the wildest civvie single woman (no disrespect ladies). It is strictly a matter of volume and the tremendous amount of dieses that could be spread in a very short period of time.
A provider is also a professional. Therefore certain responsibilities dictate that a conscious effort must be made for the safety of all (herself as well as her clients).
I would think that for anyone with any sense, STDs such as AIDS should be the first thing on their mind. That's the major reason that I don't do anything uncovered. Aids, Herpes, Chalmydia, gonnorrhea - just to name a few.
At least the disease might be fatal.
All around the idea of BBFS just does not sound safe! Maybe it is a sign of the times I grew up in but, I dont even practice BBFS in my civie life. The threat of disease, being my number one concern and pregancy sliding in at a close second. Call me overly cautious, but why play with matches, when you know the end result is a burning. So, for me Covered FS is the only way to go.
play safe and live longer
but then if you were to let a few do that in ya, you'd hafta clean it out all the time, whereas if a hat is worn, you have to clean up, yes, but not douche every time. No sticky goo up there, no odd smells in there. I am a clean freak. Overall #1 reason is to guard against possible disease though.
XoXoXo,
Cheyenna
I've done that, so preganancy is not a concern; disease is. I would not do BBFS, though about 5 years ago as a novice hobyist I was with a young (18) provider (advertised as FBSM) during her first week on the job and she was doing massage, privates to privates, very much into it herself and close to orgasm, and in an instant she slipped me into her..it was a heat of the moment, both of us were so excited we did not stop, though I worried for a while afterwards. I have to admit it feels much much better than covered, and for that reason I sometime think an uncovered BBBJ can be more enjoyable than a covered FS for the finish. saw her several times after that, never repeated, she herself admitted that she had gotten too into it and was more careful thereafter.
...no question about it. a pregnany would be bad but can be easily taken care of...but just the idea of catching some disease or infection and then possibly passing it on to the Love of my life is enough to scare me into using condoms every time, with every one, no matter what, forever and all eternity.
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...or by a logical-thinking woman who doesn't want offspring and has been down that road before.
oi. Another one of these threads.