No!!!! No orgasm for me!!!!!! Nu uh!!!! Ain't doin it! No way Jose! I don't want to have ANY fun at all!!!!

(kidding of course)

To answer your question as to whether its 'ok' to give me an orgasm? Hell yes! (but you say 'an' orgasm as if I'm only allowed one???? *puppy dog eyes*)

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Giving!

I recently had the opportunity to have a first date (2 hours) with a lovely Flower in NYC. I knew before going in that she had had a rough night before. I made it my mission to help her have a wonderful, sensual, relaxing time. I made the date about pleasuring her. DATY, sensual touch, cuddling, carressing, sharing while gazing into her eyes.

My reward? Knowing she had multiple deep-felt orgasms which released so much tension in her body. The dreamy look in her eyes, as she lay there savoring the cloud she was floating on, was priceless. Her soft, etheral "Yes", when I asked her if she had enjoyed my touch is a moment I will treasure.  

We never did get to much else, but I left her with a smile in my heart, and a skip in my step.

Re: DATY and ORGASMS

Hell yeah! DATY is HEAVEN!!!!! lol. I'd be sad if you didn't enjoy it.

OK, all kidding aside, oral is very important to me. I've never repeated with a lady who either didn't allow it or didn't genuinely enjoy it. I usually give my ATF at least two O's before she goes anywhere near mr. happy with either her mouth or her pussy.

I would never repeat with a lady who did not genuinely enjoy oral, both giving and receiving. Fortunately my ATF is multiorgasmic and I leave our dates feeling like Superman, although a Superman who's a little weak in the knees.

Reciprocity is a turn-on for both guys and gals..

I think it is a great way to start the date- many guys find it arousing, and I know I do Especially since women tend to need a bit more warm-up before sex to get lubricated and at full arousal- I know that I personally find sex more enjoyable when I have been "warmed up" a bit first. Of course there are guys who don't enjoy performing oral, and I would never demand it, but I'd say I seldom come across a guy in this hobby who doesn't genuinely enjoy sexual reciprocity.

Plus, I love the feeling of pleasuring a guy after he's brought me to orgasm- it makes me want to "pay him back" and make him shudder with pleasure- it's only fair!

XoXo
Marea

I would NEVER intentionally see a provider who did not allow and enjoy DATY.

Ok I've seen almost ten replies, and I think somebody needs to give the other side of the picture -

there are definitely a good number of providers who do NOT want you to go down on them..

it may be for a multitude of reasons.


Perhaps they've already had an orgasm or two that day, and aren't really interested in anymore?

Perhaps they just don't want to get too emotional or involved in the session?

I know some providers do not like to get personal, and perhaps they feel more comfortable only servicing you.


I'm not a provider nor a woman, so I can't speak from that perspective, but I know that there are a good number of them, for one reason or another, who do NOT want this.

I enjoy DATY very much, and the session is much more enjoyable to me if I know that the lady is experiencing some pleasure, too.   I  like to do DATY first in the session because sometimes I like to give pleasure before I recieve some.  And, I also think that providers may appreciate a guy who is not only looking to get serviced.